Growing up in South Carolina and even while living in Florida, I felt like I was in my element. For the most part, my friends and I had similar experiences, and I believed I could relate to them. I’ve never been big on (fashion) labels. but every now and then I would splurge on something for myself. In high school, I bought a sweater (that all my classmates had) from Abercrombie and Fitch with money I made from my part-time job. I even bought some Tommy Hilfiger stuff (you know, before the whole racism issue). While living in the Sunshine State, I purchased a clutch from the Coach store as a Christmas gift to myself one year. And the good thing is that my friends weren’t my friends because of what we had, it’s because we were good people and genuinely liked each other.
Even when I was in school at FAMU, you definitely had your fashionistas and people who only wore name brand products (and had to let you know), but once again, I flocked to people who were like me and I believe I attracted people who were genuine and didn’t care about who you wore. We cared about who the person was that we were befriending.
Fast forward to my life in DC. While I have met some AMAZING people, I can’t help but notice how the culture is full of people who have things. And so there’s no misunderstanding, I totally support people having items that they can afford. And I believe that my friends have no problem paying for what they possess. At times, I feel like I don’t measure up. Yes, I’ve struggled financially in the recent past (which is understandable), but I know the day will come when I can get the things I want and not have to worry about how much it costs; I just have to pay my dues. I will admit it is hard when I have to watch every penny or can’t do something because it’s not in the budget.
And I don’t want you all to think I’m materialistic. 🙂 I also have a concern when it comes to education. Most of my friends have advanced degrees. And sometimes I feel inadequate with just having a Bachelors. Due to my new employment and my wanting to be with this employer for a while, I’ve been actively researching MBA programs. I have no desire to compete with my friends but to become as well-versed as I can about the industry in which I work.
So, for any of you that are struggling with your current lot in life, know that it’s just a growing pain you have to go through. It’s only temporary, and once you complete it, your reward will be great. And don’t worry-I’m reiterating that to myself, too. Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!
Great post! I know the feeling!