Do Better

I want to cry.  Literally. Like a puffy, red-eye, snot nose, can’t catch my breath cry.  No, no one died.  No, no man broke my heart.  It’s the aftermath of the 2012 election.  I’m honestly tired of seeing my friends on Facebook post stuff about Gov. Romney AND President Obama.  (I’m tempted to hit un-friend for classmates, friends, and family alike…maybe I’ll just take them out of my timeline.) I’m tired of reading news articles related to people being mad their candidate didn’t win and exasperated at seeing people cheer because their candidate did win.

In 2012, we have someone that basically made a death threat against Obama because he won.  A woman ran over her husband because he didn’t vote (for Romney).   People are actually signing petitions to have their state secede from the union. -_- I have to admit, I was one of the disillusioned people in 2008 who thought race relations might be becoming a thing of the past with the election of the nation’s first Black president.  Two months later I would see just how wrong I was.  And four years later, it seems as if things have gotten worse.  Honestly, do people dislike the POTUS because of his policies and his political party?  Or is it all about race?

A lot of news pundits have stated that in order to unite America, the President has his work cut out for him and has to find a way to get people on his side.  I wholeheartedly disagree.  When it comes to relationships (because the President has a relationship with every single American-regardless if he received their vote), you can’t change the other person.  It’s not Obama’s job to change the mind of millions of people that do not “like” him to get them to work with him .  It’s his job to run the country.  It’s our job as Americans to hold him, and especially our other elected officials, accountable for doing things for the greater good of this country.  How much sense does it make to constantly battle someone?  None, because nothing gets accomplished (which we’ve witnessed for the past 2 years).  We-the POTUS, state and local officials, and the American people-need to come up with a compromise.  That’s the only way this relationship is going to work.  If we can’t make this relationship work, speak up during the next election with your vote and end the relationship.

When I first moved to DC, I stopped watching the news because it seemed everyday someone was getting killed.  Now I stopped watching because of the elections.  I would like to think some of this would die down, but it doesn’t seem like it has.  I honestly wonder sometime if my Facebook “friends” have issues with people that are different from them.  I get tired of seeing posts and pictures related to people’s political thoughts.  What are you doing with your life?  How’s the new job?  The new baby?  The new house?  Let’s focus on the present and the future because the past is behind us.  How we can move forward.  Talk about how to you visited your representative and you agreed to work on ways to improve the schools in your district.  Or how you’re coming up with a plan to work with your neighbors to combat crime.

Alas, I doubt this white noise that is Election 2012 is going to die down anytime soon.  Which saddens me.  And makes me want to cry.  Not the pretty cry with one tear going down my cheek.  But the puffy, red eye, snot nose, can’t catch my breath cry.  Until the next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

Don’t Disrespect My President

I haven’t done a post on a Friday in far too long.  I was going to highlight some things that have happened in recent weeks that I haven’t really talked about, like Arnold cheating on Maria, the News of the World scandal, and the traumatic death of “Jackass” star Ryan Dunn; I’m not even touching the Casey Anthony trial.  What I will comment on is the blatant disrespect of President Barack Obama. 

Now, we’re family, so we can be honest with each other.  We may not and will not like EVERYTHING our leader does, but he’s still our leader.  You may not like his politics or his policy, but you will at least show him the respect he deserves.  In my short life on this Earth, I have never seen or heard such apathy and flippancy towards the President of the United States…until our 44th President took office.  It all started when South Carolina Republican Senator Joe Wilson (darn you from being from the home state) yelled, “You lie” to President Obama while the POTUS was addressing the House.  The ramifications?  None.  Next, you have GOP Presidential nominee and Minnesota Representative Michele Bachmann claiming she’ll “help him find a job” when she wins the Presidency in 2012.  Maybe not disrespectful as much as it was just poor taste.  And lastly, lest we not forget how Mark Halperin, co-author of Game Change and Editor-at-Large for Time magazine, used an unflatteringly slur just last week to describe the President while on the show “Morning Joe”.  He has been suspended and did make apologies, but what would make him think this was appropriate in the first place? 

When Dixie Chicks frontwoman Natalie Maines told a London audience that she was “ashamed the President of the United States is from Texas” (referencing 43rd President George W. Bush), there was such a backlash for the band.  Until that point they were sucessful and touring the world and performing in front of sold-out arenas.  All of that changed after Maines’ remark.  The band received death threats, shows were cancelled, and there were bonfires of Dixie Chicks paraphanalia. 

So, why is it ok to disrespect Obama?  Your guess is as good as mine.  One of the awesome things I can say about the current POTUS is that he is graceful, humble, and has a forgiving spirit.  As the song goes, he “dusts his haters off” and keeps it moving.  He knows why he’s in the White House and realizes he has a job to do.  If everyone took responsibility for their actions and handled their business, this country, heck this world, would be a much better place.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

 

150 Years Later…

Whose side are you on?

Between the years of 1861-1865, the American Civil War took place.   Current historians and other figures don’t always agree on the main reason the Civil War was fought.  Some say it was because of states’ rights; others say it’s due to slavery.  As a Southerner and an African-American, I can say the Civil War was fought over slavery, plain and simple.  Sure economics and states’ rights and a host of other issues played a part, but let’s not kid ourselves-Southern states wanted to be able to keep their slaves while Abraham Lincoln and the Republicans wanted to spread the abolishment of slavery across the Union.  Of course my home state, South Carolina, would secede from the Union first on December 20, 1860. 

Numerous states across the country are gearing up for the 150th anniversary of the Civil War next year.   I came across this article which shows citizens’ various opinions and celebrations relating to the war.  Ok, people, let’s be honest.  Racism is still real in this country.  People are still salty we have a Black president.  Yep, I said it, and I meant it.  This is coming from the girl who went to predominantly Caucasian schools until I went to college and had mostly white friends growing up.  (And some are still some of my closest friends today.)  We don’t talk politics too much because I realize where I grew up and with whom I grew up.  I grew up in the city where Bob Jones University is located, the school that lifted its ban on interracial dating when I graduated from high school 10 years ago.  I grew up in a state where interracial marriage was still illegal (no one bothered to look) until 8 years ago-and even then just over 50% of South Carolinians voted to make interracial marriage legal.  

So, people may think race is still not an issue in this country.  I beg to differ.  Now I have to admit I was pleasantly surprised when I went back to my alma mater for my high school reunion and a biracial (i.e. Black) girl was introducing her Caucasian boyfriend to her parents during the varsity football game.  (Trust me, for my high school that’s amazing.) 

The whole reason I wrote this post was because I thought some of these people in this article were a bit delusional in their stating the war wasn’t about slavery, because it was.  Now I totally believe in supporting your heritage and celebrating your history, but not at the expense of others.   We all should take the time and energy to learn our history. 

What do you guys think?  Was the Civil War fought mainly over slavery or states’ rights?   Are people still commemorating the Civial War in this way because it’s tradition or do they have the same beliefs as their ancestors?  Do you have an issue with interracial dating?  Have you seen a change in interracial relations in your lifetime?  Or do you think America has a lot more growing to do?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.