The Harvey Effect

Today’s Black History Month fact is about Black Swan Records, which I think is sort of ironic seeing as how I’m loving the movie “Black Swan” now. 

Black Swan Records, founded in 1921 by Harry Pace in Harlem, was the first U.S. record label owned and operated by African-Americans. It was originally the Pace Phonograph Corporation and was renamed Black Swan Records after the 19th century opera singer Elizabeth Taylor Greenfield, who was known as the Black Swan.

Now, for today’s post.  Most of us are well aware of the phenom that actor/comedian Steve Harvey has become.  His suits are selling (I guess), he’s got a nationally syndicated radio show, and he’s written 2 best-selling books.  But…here comes his ex-wife, Mary, making claims that Steve kicked her out of their house, he won’t allow their son to see her, and that Steve was seeing his current wife, Marjorie, while he and Mary were still married.  As with most cases of alleged infidelity and people done wrong, most of Black America is siding with Mary.  Everybody else is siding with Steve.  But what seems to be resonating with a lot of folks is that this issue is causing dissension with Black people.  I wholeheartedly disagree.

First of all, while I’m a faithful listener of the “The Steve Harvey Morning Show” (mainly for the Strawberry Letter), I take it for what it’s worth-entertainment.  And while I did purchase Steve’s first book, I have no desire to purchase his new one.  Yes, I’ll admit I learned a thing or two from the first one, but just because Steve used to (admittedly) be a dog and responds to people’s letters on his show, an expert does not one make.  Second, I don’t consider Steve to be a “leader” in Black America, so do we really care about his personal issues being a detriment to us?  No. It’s just fodder for the tabloids, which seems to be what most “news” is pertaining to celebrities today. The one person we all should be concerned about in this situation is Steve and Mary’s son, Wynston. An innocent boy who needs both of his parents in his life, to offer stability and teach him right from wrong, and who can keep their differences bottled up long enough to care for their son.

Do you guys care one way or the other about this situation? Or is this just a way for Mary to get in the news? And can someone please tell me why Tom Joyner had Mary on his show in the first place (’cause I’m a little confused). Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

I’m Sick of Relationship Books

So, I had some time open up this morning. Actually, I don’t think I really did, but I’m going to take some time based on 2 posts (well…one and a quarter) I just read and feel the need to rant a little.   This could also be based on the night I had last night, too.

It appears that everybody and their momma is writing a relationship book.  Steve Harvey’s “Straight Talk, No Chaser” will be number 1 this week on the New York Times Best-Sellers list, the men of Very Smart Brothas have written a relationship book that will be released next month, and Shanae Hall, radio personality on Jamie Foxx’s Sirius satellite station “The Foxxhole” wrote “Why Do I Have to Think Like a Man?” in response to Harvey’s first book.  I CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE!  We get it-everyone’s single and is complaining that they don’t know where to meet quality men/women.  Everyone thinks celebrities, who don’t know them or anything about their personal lives or the people in them, can give them advice and the secret to finding their one true love.  

While I definitely think we need to look internally as to why certain things happen in our lives, sometimes who we come into contact with has an effect.  Case in point, last night I went to the Baltimore Quarterly Social hosted by our favorite matchmaker, Paul Carrick Brunson.  Not to say anything bad about Mr. Brunson, but not all 0f the men present were there for the same reasons the ladies were.  Women were taking this event VERY seriously and were ready to meet some quality guys that with which they could build a potential relationship.  The guys were there to have a good time. 

I say all of this to say, no matter what a comedian, fellow bloggers, or a former NFL wife write in a book, my going out is not going to guarantee that I meet a man who wants the same things I do.  I could go to singles’ mixers, church, a sports bar, or wherever else people say you can meet a man, and leave empty-handed, disappointed, and thinking something’s wrong with me.

What do you guys think?  Have relationship books been around forever but just making their way to the Black community?  Have the steps or advice in a relationship book helped you to find someone?  Or are you sick of them just like I am???  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!