Focus

If you know me personally, you know that I’ve talked about doing everything from going to school to get my MBA, becoming a freelance writer, finding a church home, getting more involved in my sorority, running my first half marathon, and other stuff.  That’s a lot going on-even for me.  So, I’ve made some decisions, at least regarding the first half of 2013.

While I would absolutely love to go back to school to further my education, I don’t see doing that within the forseeable future (like, within the next 3 months-but I could be totally wrong).  I’m going to focus on my side hustle-my own business-receiving multiple streams of income.  I honestly believe that certain things in my life are aligning for me to work on my business at this particular point in time.  Not to mention that I’m assisting a few friends in helping make their dreams a reality: And I feel that I should do the same for myself.

When we’re focused on 10 million things, we can’t be great at all of them. Some thing is going to suffer.  So instead of trying to have 2 hands in 10 pots, I’m putting some pots to the side.  And for TyAnthony, if you’re reading this don’t fret, because I can totally hear your voice in my head as I type this.  This doesn’t mean that I’m going to give up on my goals; that’s not my style.  Some items just have to get put on the backburner for now.  We’ll revisit them in 6 months when things have (hopefully) calmed down and taken a life of their own and I don’t have to work at getting things off the ground.  My goals that I work on for the next few months should have a strong foundation after a certain period of time.  And when that happens, I’ll be able to let those things work themselves out and then I can focus on other things.

It has been a long time since I’ve felt like this (if ever)-like I have the world at my fingertips and that I can do anything.  This may not seem like a lot to some people, but I’m super excited about a potential upcoming trip for which I’m planning.  Most of what I do from now until the last part of the year will determine how successful I am at making it happen.  And what does that entail?  Focus.  I am making plans and saving and working on making dreams reality.  This may be attributed to having more direction in my life and listening to the right sources for inspiration.  Or maybe this is all just a sign of growing up.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

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I’m Gonna Do It

Earlier this week, I had the pleasure of speaking with an old co-worker.  He asked me if I was living in my purpose.  I said, “Yes! Well…I’m much happier now than I have been in a while.”  For anyone that knows me, you know I would LOVE to be a writer full-time, or least make money writing and doing communications work in some fashion.  I can say that I honestly love my job and my company, but it would be great to also earn a little extra change from freelancing. 🙂 

I follow @happyblackwoman on Twitter, and I have even had the pleasure of meeting Rosetta Thurman in person (not sure if she remembers, though).  She’s always so full of life and positivity.  I took one of her challenges when I began blogging.  (Remember #BloggingforBranding???)  I thoroughly enjoyed that challenge, and I am going to take her newest challenge, “31 Days to Reset Your Life”. 

Thirty is right around the corner, and while I have thought about the next steps I would like to take in my life, I haven’t sat down and really made a map.  (Yes, I need to expound on my vision board.) 

So, I will be embarking on Rosetta’s challenge.  My plan is to start this Sunday, on April 1.  As requested, I will be blogging about my experiences and revelations.  I may not be able to post them as often as I would like…but I’ll try! 🙂  If you’re interested in joining the challenge, visit Rosetta’s site here.

I feel like I’m beginning to come into my own as a woman (even though sometimes I feel like that little girl sitting in my mother’s living room watching “Blossom”).   Anything I can do to honestly help me become a better person, I’m all for it.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

When One Chapter Ends

…another begins.  Yes, I know, very cliche.  But it’s so on point with what I’m going through right now.

If you’re a regular reader, you may have noticed that I haven’t been posting as regularly as I have in the past.  Well, there are tons of reasons.   The two most important ones are: 1. I sometimes suffer from writer’s block, and 2. Sometimes, I don’t have the time. 

Probably the MAIN reason I haven’t been writing is because of what I’m going through personally.  I recently found out that a very significant component of my life is about to come to an end.  I knew it was going to happen; I just didn’t realize it would be this soon.  I’m trying not to let it get to me, but sometimes it’s hard.  And I’m used to being the strong one and the one who has it all together.  Well, sometimes I’m not so strong, and I don’t always have it together. 

This chapter that is ending is bittersweet.  But I know things always happen for a reason, and I will survive this setback.  And as my former Bishop has said, “A setback is a set-up for a comeback!”  Yes, I know, slight corny :), but the message is clear.  I can’t let this unfortunate news devastate me.  I can’t stop being me.  And I can’t stop my hustle.  Because something better than what I had before is on the horizon.

That’s what I want to leave you all with today.  No matter what’s going on in your life, you will get through this storm.  It won’t last forever, so don’t let it defeat you.  Know that something better and greater is on the next page.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

Take Time for You

Yes, I realize it’s been almost a week since I’ve written anything.  Honestly, I was tired and really didn’t have too much to share with you guys.  This weekend I attended “Refresh 2011”, which is a conference geared towards the African woman (yes, I know I’m not African), but all women could gain something from attending this event.  I realized (not that I didn’t already know this) that you have to be able to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.  There were a lot of anecdotes I took from this event, and I want to share some of them with you.

  • Be sure to take time for you.  If you don’t take care of yourself how can you take care of the important people in your life?
  • From the organizer, Ekene Ajune, she reminded us that the Bible says “Love your neighbor as thyself”, but if you don’t love yourself, how are you going to love your neighbor?  And if you don’t love yourself, don’t love me.  I don’t need that negative energy.
  • It’s ok to have the foods that you love but aren’t good for you, just have them in moderation.  Maybe once every week or every two weeks.
  • You have to get some form of exercise at least 3-4 days a week.  It’ll make you feel better plus you’ll be healthier for it.
  • No matter what it is, take some quiet time for yourself.  (I went grocery shopping yesterday, and while I normally LOATHE going to the store, I actually enjoyed shopping.  And as I put up my groceries when I got home, I did it in silence.  No television, no radio, no talking on the phone.  It was the best 5 minutes of my day.) 
  • Don’t spread yourself too thin.  You don’t have to say “Yes” all of the time.  Sometimes you have to tell people “No”, and it’s ok if you do.  If they are your true friend, they’ll understand and won’t make you feel bad for doing so.  And if they’re not your real friend, it’s best you find out now rather than later.

I’m done with my little tidbits.  One last thing I will share with you was the quote I received on Saturday-“You can rewrite your story.”  I really needed that, and I’m sure some of you do as well.  No matter what has happened in your past you can change your future.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

 

 

Letting Stuff Go

I’m back!!! (At least temporarily; I get the final confirmation at 11 am EST today.)  I feel better (still a little stuffy), and I missed you guys!  As we usher in a new year, we’re all about not looking back and moving ahead.  But what happens when we can’t let things go?

I can admit that there are things (and maybe even people) in my past that I wonder (or worry) about.  I think about the dudes I’ve gone out with 2 or 3 times and then I never hear from them again-I think about the guy who still sends me BBMs sporadically but won’t ask me out-I think about the dude I met when I lived in Florida and the timing was all wrong (I am glad to know we both feel the same about that situation; if only I had stayed 6 more months…)  Yes, I know this isn’t healthy, but on those rare occasions when I have time to myself or I see somebody’s status update on Facebook, it makes me wonder if I crossed their minds like they cross mine.  And sad to say, because I’m such a sucker, I get tempted to call or text just to see what’s going on (and to keep me on their minds).  Then I think, “Elle, you need to let this stuff go.  Stop thinking about these dudes, because I’m sure they’re not thinking about you.”  Then the urge to text an old suitor falls by the wayside…until I get bored and start the whole process over again.

In 2011, I vow to not reach out to old suitors, unless then reach out to me first, then I’ll respond in kind.  And I’m sure there’s a reason why they’re an “old” suitor.  Things didn’t work out, and instead of agonizing over “what if”s, I should just let stuff go and move on with my life.

What do you guys think?  Are there things/people/events of which you can’t let go?  Have you even tried, or are you a sucker for punishment and continue to let this stuff hang over your head?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!