Kenya Has Fallen

It’s amazing how I have not blogged in over a month, and the first thing I decide to blog about is the foolishness that I watched on tv last night. But I have a very strong opinion about the fight between Porsha and Kenya, and what I have to say warrants more than a Facebook status update.

When I was thinking about writing this post last night, the original title was going to be “Miss USA Has Fallen”, but I thought it would be a little disrespectful to the current title holder, so I had to regroup.

Since hearing about the infamous fight that took place between Porsha and Kenya and seeing a portion of it last week, I was really interested in seeing what happened.

First, let’s be upfront. Kenya has been antagonizing Porsha since last season. She found various ways to dig at her and antagonize her. Even when asking valid questions about Porsha and her relationship with Kordell, which (honestly) is none of her business, Kenya always had a catty tone in her voice and really has no concern for Porsha one way or the other. As I was trying to explain the events prior to last night’s reunion to Southern Mom, you really have to have seen their relationship over the past two years to fully grasp the built up animosity between these two women.

When I heard that Kenya Moore was joining the cast of the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” I was SO excited! I think every little black girl that grew up in the 1990s was familiar with Kenya and who she was and what she represented as being a former Miss USA. She was beautiful, she was poised, and she was able to keep herself relevant over the last 20 years. But once she joined the cast, I was thoroughly disappointed with her behavior. To put it simply, she was rude, condescending, and inappropriate.

So as not to rehash the past two seasons of RHOA, let’s talk about last night. Kenya was inappropriate. The nerve of her to not only pull out a scepter, but she had the audacity to wave it in people’s faces. THEN, she pulls out a bullhorn and proceeds to yell in the ears of others; I was watching on tv and wanted to tell her to kill that noise. (Kudos to Cynthia for not reacting to Kenya being in her personal space and yelling in her ear.) I do not condone violence…but Kenya had it coming. The bully never likes it when their victim has turned the tables. And while Kenya made a statement regarding the event that took place earlier this month, now is not the time for her to act like she is Miss Innocent.  Part of her statement (“…there are little girls who look up to me. I would never want those girls, my nieces, or my future children to see me fighting anyone.”) makes me wonder if she cares about them seeing her belittle someone, scream at someone, and really just behave in a manner that is unlike a pageant winner.  It also makes me wonder about the people in her circle, particularly her pageant coach and anyone else that she have known in the pageant world, told her that her behavior was unbecoming of a queen.  Yes, Kenya is 40+, but we all have a circle of elders we go to, regardless of our age.

At the end of the day, Porsha was wrong for becoming physical with Kenya.  She should feel somewhat embarrassed (I know I would).  But does she owe Kenya an apology?  I say “No”…not unless Kenya returns one of her own.

Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

Fall Back, NeNe

Last night, I was watching the “Real Housewives of Atlanta”, which is one of my guilty pleasures.  Every Sunday night, if I’m home, I can be found chilling on my couch tuned to Bravo.  I even popped some popcorn to watch the drama unfold last night.  Suprisingly, I have been Team NeNe this season.  Last week, I felt her ire as the ladies showed up almost 3 hours late to a dinner that NeNe had hosted in their honor.  And I’m glad she stook by her guns and didn’t let them in her house (although I think I would have been pissed had I been on the other side).  Unfortunately, I had to give my girl Ms. Leakes the side-eye last night.

It’s no secret to anyone that watches RHOA that Porsche Stewart is the quintessential housewife-she doesn’t have a real “job” but volunteers at a foundation named after her grandfather, she cooks and cleans for her husband, and she doesn’t do anything without running it past her mate.  This type of marriage seems to be working for the Stewarts.  But NeNe, in all of her infinite wisdom, has decided that Porsche needs to develop her OWN identity separate from her husband and do what she wants to do.  So the ladies decide to teach Porsche some life lessons during their first night in Vegas.

While I guess I understand where NeNe is coming from, I feel that she is way out of line.  It has only taken me 30 years to realize that I do not need to be in every body’s relationship.  If it works for those two who are in it, who am I to criticize/chastise/judge?  Porsche made a conscience decision to enter into the “type” of marriage she has with Cordell.  She has stated numerous times on the show that Cordell is old fashioned and that is what she likes about him.  And as someone that has stated multiple times that I would LOVE being a housewife (not sure how long that would last, though), I totally get where Porsche is coming from.  She wants her husband to be the head of the household, to be the caregiver and provider, and to be the decision maker.  In essence, she enjoys being submissive to her husband.  As someone that has friends that have dated men 10+ years older, one of the drawbacks/compromises/things is that he’s more likely to “tell” you want to do and be set in his ways and want you to behave a certain way.

Now, what I do not like and cannot appreciate is the disrespectful way that Cordell addresses Porsche at times.  But, once again, if she does not have a problem with it, who are we to comment?  Has Porsche ever turned to NeNe as a confidant and stated she doesn’t like the way her husband talks to her sometimes?  Has Porsche ever confided in NeNe that she wishes Cordell would give her a little breathing room?  No, she hasn’t, at least not from what I have seen.  Another point I can’t get with is when Porsche stated Cordell “let” her go on the trip.  I don’t understand how or why one grown person has to get permission from their partner to do something.  (Maybe it was just a matter of word choice.)  When I was in high school, I totally didn’t get why my best friend’s dad wouldn’t “let” her mom cut her hair.  But when you marry, it’s about compromise.  Sometimes you do things you may not like in order to keep your mate happy.  It should not, though, be a one-way street.

The moral of today’s post?  If your friend/homegirl/acquaintance is happy in her relationship, leave her alone.  What will not and should not be tolerated is her man being disrespectful to you.  You can definitely put him in his place about that.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

My Thoughts on “The RHOA”

I want Nene's dress...

Ok, folks.  I don’t like to talk about people, but I just have to share my thoughts with you guys about Phaedra from last night’s episode of the “Real Housewives of Atlanta“.   If you didn’t watch it, Phaedra had her baby last night.   And as much as she tried to fool everybody, it was announced (by her doctor) that she was 40 weeks.   This whole time Phaedra was playing dumb like she didn’t know how far along she was.  Her pastor mama seemed shocked (in Phaedra’s family, you don’t have babies without being married), and according to some other folks, Apollo, her husband, seemed shocked as well.   So, this leaves people to speculate about what’s really going on.  Based on what I’ve read, Phaedra and Apollo got married in November of 2009.  She gave birth in May of 2010.  Hmmmm…yeah, something ain’t right.  And because I love drama on reality tv (and not in real life), I’m anxious to see if ANY of this will be brought up during future episodes.  Lastly, what mother says “Ewwwww, gross” when she sees her child for the first time.  Phaedra’s maternal instincts have not kicked in, and I actually feel for this little boy.  It seems that Phaedra is more concerned with being fly and pampered than being a mother to her son. 

Dr. Tiy-E, Sheree’s new squeeze, was getting GRILLED by everyone during Sheree’s Spades tournament.  (Since Spades is big in the African-American community-according to Sheree-is that why Kim was MIA???)  NeNe, being messy, snubbed Dr. Tiy-E when she met him.  As NeNe recalled there was a big scandal surrounding Dr. Tiy-E and the fact he wasn’t a real doctor, she went around and told everybody at the party.  Kandi also remembered the scandal when he was on a radio station.  All of this led to Dr. Tiy-E being subjected to the Spanish Inquisition from all of the guests at Sheree’s party; he got the worst from NeNe, Kandi, and Kandi’s mom.  Needless to say, I’m anxiously awaiting Sunday’s episode.

What were your thoughts on last night’s episode, if you watched?   I know EVERYBODY has an opinion on Phaedra’s lies, so please share yours.   Is Apollo even the baby’s daddy?  Were Phaedra and Apollo getting it on while he was still in prison?  You tell me!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!