I’m Sick of Relationship Books

So, I had some time open up this morning. Actually, I don’t think I really did, but I’m going to take some time based on 2 posts (well…one and a quarter) I just read and feel the need to rant a little.   This could also be based on the night I had last night, too.

It appears that everybody and their momma is writing a relationship book.  Steve Harvey’s “Straight Talk, No Chaser” will be number 1 this week on the New York Times Best-Sellers list, the men of Very Smart Brothas have written a relationship book that will be released next month, and Shanae Hall, radio personality on Jamie Foxx’s Sirius satellite station “The Foxxhole” wrote “Why Do I Have to Think Like a Man?” in response to Harvey’s first book.  I CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE!  We get it-everyone’s single and is complaining that they don’t know where to meet quality men/women.  Everyone thinks celebrities, who don’t know them or anything about their personal lives or the people in them, can give them advice and the secret to finding their one true love.  

While I definitely think we need to look internally as to why certain things happen in our lives, sometimes who we come into contact with has an effect.  Case in point, last night I went to the Baltimore Quarterly Social hosted by our favorite matchmaker, Paul Carrick Brunson.  Not to say anything bad about Mr. Brunson, but not all 0f the men present were there for the same reasons the ladies were.  Women were taking this event VERY seriously and were ready to meet some quality guys that with which they could build a potential relationship.  The guys were there to have a good time. 

I say all of this to say, no matter what a comedian, fellow bloggers, or a former NFL wife write in a book, my going out is not going to guarantee that I meet a man who wants the same things I do.  I could go to singles’ mixers, church, a sports bar, or wherever else people say you can meet a man, and leave empty-handed, disappointed, and thinking something’s wrong with me.

What do you guys think?  Have relationship books been around forever but just making their way to the Black community?  Have the steps or advice in a relationship book helped you to find someone?  Or are you sick of them just like I am???  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

This Week in the News

First, let me say that I have lost 6 pounds, and I wasn’t even trying! YAY, me!!!  Ok, a lot has been going on this week, so let’s get started!

I know you guys have heard about these stupid educators (yes, I called them stupid) in NYC that were fired for flirting with their students on Facebook.  If not, go here to read the story.  I know these teachers have to have some type of common sense to be an educator.   One teacher was stupid enough to send flowers, candy, and whatnot to a student.  But I also wonder where are the parents?  Maybe they are the reason the teachers got found out.  I personally think any type of social media and teachers/students don’t mix.  It’s a slippery slope when engaging students in the personal lives of their teachers. 

Earlier this week, movie producer/writer/actor/director Tyler Perry confessed to Oprah that he was molested as a child by a total of FOUR people! Three men and one woman.  I applaud Mr. Perry for sharing his story.  I hope this encourages men and women to tell, tell, tell when someone is abusing them!  In my post last month, “What We Won’t Talk About-Abuse“, I made mention that in the African-American community we don’t talk about abuse.  The only way to break the cycle is to tell until someone believes us.  And children, and adults who tell what happened to them as children, should not feel ashamed or dirty for telling their story.  Awareness brings attention and stops abuse.  Parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, all of us need to pay attention to the signs of the children in our lives and let them it’s ok to tell.  And we need to do all we can to get these predators off the streets.

This week, I’m sick of hearing about relationships.  I admit, I did post the “Black Marriage Negotiations” video earlier this week, but now, I’m tired.  I’m tired of seeing article titles like “How to Ease the Pain of Romantic Rejection” and “Non-Negotiables You Should Maintain When Looking for a Mate”.  I’m also tired of hearing about Monica’s engagement (so soon after her break-up this summer, might I add) and  “Girl Next Door” Kendra and Hank calling it quits.  I’m tired. So I will be taking a boy hiatus this weekend and hanging out with my “auntie” Madeline for a much needed girls day out tomorrow!  If you happen to see me in the DMV this weekend, feel free to say “Hey!”

My Jaguars looked a hot mess during Monday Night Football.  Hopefully, they’ve got their act together and we’ll be 4-3 after Sunday’s game.  I am kinda sad that Beyonce is not preggers.  😦 I even updated my FB status after I saw the first report saying she was.  (Quietly, I think she is, but John Q. Public will never know.)  Oh, and I purposefully did not mention anything about crazy Virginia Thomas calling Anita Hill asking for an apology.  What is WRONG with people?!?!?  In any event, enjoy your weekend folks.  Feel free to comment on the news I shared or the news that’s important to you.   Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.