2013: The Year of Elle

Based on what I’ve read on Twitter and Facebook, it seems as if my friends have decided that 2013 is their year of prosperity-their year of love-their year to get that dream job-their year to conquer a new goal-basically, it’s going to be their year.  Apparently, great minds think alike, because that’s what I decided during the last week of 2012-that 2013 would be my year to do some wonderful, fantastical things that I had never done before.

I don’t do resolutions; I do goals.  Resolutions are so easy to break and give up on.  I feel that if we set goals, it’s more plausible for us, at least me, to stick with it.  During the middle of last year, I made a vision board.  While not all of my visions came to fruition, a few did.  Honestly, the one that I am most proud of is running and training for this half-marathon.  Yes, I may have waited until the end of the year, but the important thing is that I started.

I haven’t updated my vision board for 2013 yet, but that will be done by the end of the week.  Some things will remain, but I will be adding a few new items.  Want to know some of the goals I’ve set for myself this year?  Check out below:

Complete a half-marathon – While I may give Southern Cousin a lot of grief for making me sign up to do this, I’m glad she did.  Through her encouragement and suggestion, I started something that I thoroughly enjoy.

Become financially stable – While the end of 2011/beginning of 2012 was a little rough, I’m in a place where I can put a little aside and still have fun.  I need to work on making a budget and sticking to it.  I’m not the greatest money handler, but since I am 30, I need to get my life together and start behaving like an adult in ALL aspects of my life, even the ones I don’t really care for.

Lose weight Be healthy– No, I am not at my ideal weight, but as long as I continue to work out and eat right, I’ll see the numbers on the scale go down.  Even though I have an idea of where I’d like to be, it doesn’t matter how much I lose.  As long as I feel great and I’m in good health, that’s all that matters.

Enter graduate school – No, I have not been as diligent as I should be with this goal, but I vow to do better.  I have one school in mind, so if I don’t get in…actually, I’m not going to claim that.  I WILL get in.  For undergrad, I only wanted to go to one school, although I applied to 3.  I was accepted by and went to my first choice.  I know that the same thing will happen for grad school.

Find a church home – For the past year and a half, I sporadically attended church.  I’m not too proud of that.  I know what I’m looking for in a church home.  Some are reasonable; some are crazy, and I need to get out of my own head.  Even if I don’t find a church home in the DMV, I am going to make a concerted effort to attend a church every Sunday.  For a Southern girl that grew up going to church each Sunday, this is a big deal.  I used to feel bad telling Southern Mom that I didn’t go to church when she would ask.  Now, I’m sort of blase about it, which is a definite sign I need to be back in a place of worship.

Those are just a few of the goals I’ve set for myself in 2013.  I have decided that this year I’m going to be fearless, self-assured, and a go-getter.  2013 has been deemed the Year of Elle.  I’m going to do what makes me happy, what will benefit me, and what is going to make me a better person.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Happy New Year!!!

My 2011 was filled with plenty of ups and downs, but I am happy to announce that my year definitely ended on a high note.  With a new job and a new suitor (who has lasted longer than 2 dates), a really rough year was smoothed out.  With the continued support of my family and friends, I am super excited to see what 2012 has in store.

I am already gearing up for my 30th birthday in April (yes, I’m an early planner), two weddings (one where I am a bridesmaid), and the birth of my cousin’s first child, which is extremely exciting for me.  She’s my “little cousin”, and I was the Maid of Honor at her wedding.  It’s amazing to see the woman that she has become. 

Last year served as a very eye-opening experience for me.  I was able to see what I’m made of and to see what I can handle.  I am a lot stronger than I thought I was.  There were some things that I wish I could do over, but for the most part, I wouldn’t change anything.  Those things helped to shape who I am today. 

I don’t believe in resolutions, per se, because I feel like it would be SO easy to give up.  So I’ve decided to make certain goals for the year.  My number one goal is for me to exercise more.  I don’t even want to put a weight loss goal (which most people do) because I feel like that’s too much pressure.  So, as long as I add some regular activity 3-4 days a week, I think I will start to see a difference in my body composition.  I also want to continue to work on my finances.  I want to become a better steward of my money this year.  I plan to continue working on my business.  And the great thing is that a friend of a friend recently opened her business and wants to discuss PR.  (I’m VERY excited to see where this goes!) Lastly, I want to be holistically happy with and in my life.  I want to continue to see what’s in store with the New Boy and me, I want to continue to have a great relationship with Southern Parents, my extended family, and my friends.

I hope you all had a very blessed and happy holiday season.  Now, it’s back to reality. 🙂  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Letting Stuff Go

I’m back!!! (At least temporarily; I get the final confirmation at 11 am EST today.)  I feel better (still a little stuffy), and I missed you guys!  As we usher in a new year, we’re all about not looking back and moving ahead.  But what happens when we can’t let things go?

I can admit that there are things (and maybe even people) in my past that I wonder (or worry) about.  I think about the dudes I’ve gone out with 2 or 3 times and then I never hear from them again-I think about the guy who still sends me BBMs sporadically but won’t ask me out-I think about the dude I met when I lived in Florida and the timing was all wrong (I am glad to know we both feel the same about that situation; if only I had stayed 6 more months…)  Yes, I know this isn’t healthy, but on those rare occasions when I have time to myself or I see somebody’s status update on Facebook, it makes me wonder if I crossed their minds like they cross mine.  And sad to say, because I’m such a sucker, I get tempted to call or text just to see what’s going on (and to keep me on their minds).  Then I think, “Elle, you need to let this stuff go.  Stop thinking about these dudes, because I’m sure they’re not thinking about you.”  Then the urge to text an old suitor falls by the wayside…until I get bored and start the whole process over again.

In 2011, I vow to not reach out to old suitors, unless then reach out to me first, then I’ll respond in kind.  And I’m sure there’s a reason why they’re an “old” suitor.  Things didn’t work out, and instead of agonizing over “what if”s, I should just let stuff go and move on with my life.

What do you guys think?  Are there things/people/events of which you can’t let go?  Have you even tried, or are you a sucker for punishment and continue to let this stuff hang over your head?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!