When Social Media Runs Amuck

Amuck (adverb) – In or into a jumbled or confused state

I have to admit I’m probably one of the few people in this world that could care less about social media, but I use it everyday.  I get on Facebook, I use Twitter, and some days I even put up a post on WordPress.  I’m also the “traditional” girl who would MUCH rather talk to someone on the phone to make plans rather to text back and forth to confirm dinner.  But that’s the age we live in-we text, we e-mail, we tweet.  We rarely talk on the phone anymore or even write a letter and send it in snail mail. 

You’re wondering how social media can run amuck?  Well, I’ll tell you-at least how it did with me.  I developed a Twitter crush (I know, I know-don’t judge me).  I reached out to “Twitter Crush” (aka TC) via e-mail, and we got along famously.  Then, we “upgrading” from e-mailing to texting.  (This was CLEARLY my fault.  I totally should have called as opposed to sending the first text.  I’m falling into the trap I hate.)  So, through the midst of our texting, he fell off.  If you guys know me, you know I love closure.  But I let it go…for about a month.  Then I sent an e-mail, you know the type “Just wanted to say ‘Hi!’-make sure you’re still alive-make sure you know I’M alive” e-mails.  I know he’s still alive, and he knows I’m still alive.  I mean, we are Facebook friends, and we follow each other on Twitter.  So he’s not interested; I respect that and totally get it.  Who goes from flirting to nothing in such a short amount of time?  Ok, you’re not interested, but you can at least be cordial, right? 

See how social media can run amuck?  I was confused by his behavior.  I hate being ignored, and it pissed me off he didn’t respond to me.  I guess since our encounter was brief he felt he may not have needed to respond to me.  But as a human being and as a common courtesy, it’s not polite to ignore people.  And who knows, he may need me one day, and I’ll remember the time when I reached out to him, and he didn’t contact me back.  But then I would be the rude one and not providing a common courtesy to my fellow man.  But such is life-he should have thought about that before he ignored me.

Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

 

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I’m Hosting a Happy Hour!

Happy Tuesday!  In case we’re not connected via Facebook or Twitter you probably don’t know that I’m hosting a happy hour this Thursday!  May 26 marks the one year anniversary of my blog, and to thank you guys for your support, I’m hosting an event at Jin Lounge so I can meet all of you and thank you in person.  And honestly, it’s been a while since I’ve hung out and attended happy hour in the District, so I figure what better reason do I need to celebrate!  Doors open at 5:30, and there are happy hour specials until 8:00.  If you’ve never been to Jin, then you’ve missed out on great cocktails and amazing appetizers! 

Jin is located at 2017 14th St NW, between U and V Sts. NW, right in the middle of the U St. Corridor.  To RSVP for the event, check it out here on Facebook.  I can’t wait to meet all of you this Thursday!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

P.S. I have a really big announcement (no, I’m not engaged and I’m not moving!), so you have to make sure you’re there to hear the news firsthand!

This Week in the News

First, let me say that I have lost 6 pounds, and I wasn’t even trying! YAY, me!!!  Ok, a lot has been going on this week, so let’s get started!

I know you guys have heard about these stupid educators (yes, I called them stupid) in NYC that were fired for flirting with their students on Facebook.  If not, go here to read the story.  I know these teachers have to have some type of common sense to be an educator.   One teacher was stupid enough to send flowers, candy, and whatnot to a student.  But I also wonder where are the parents?  Maybe they are the reason the teachers got found out.  I personally think any type of social media and teachers/students don’t mix.  It’s a slippery slope when engaging students in the personal lives of their teachers. 

Earlier this week, movie producer/writer/actor/director Tyler Perry confessed to Oprah that he was molested as a child by a total of FOUR people! Three men and one woman.  I applaud Mr. Perry for sharing his story.  I hope this encourages men and women to tell, tell, tell when someone is abusing them!  In my post last month, “What We Won’t Talk About-Abuse“, I made mention that in the African-American community we don’t talk about abuse.  The only way to break the cycle is to tell until someone believes us.  And children, and adults who tell what happened to them as children, should not feel ashamed or dirty for telling their story.  Awareness brings attention and stops abuse.  Parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, all of us need to pay attention to the signs of the children in our lives and let them it’s ok to tell.  And we need to do all we can to get these predators off the streets.

This week, I’m sick of hearing about relationships.  I admit, I did post the “Black Marriage Negotiations” video earlier this week, but now, I’m tired.  I’m tired of seeing article titles like “How to Ease the Pain of Romantic Rejection” and “Non-Negotiables You Should Maintain When Looking for a Mate”.  I’m also tired of hearing about Monica’s engagement (so soon after her break-up this summer, might I add) and  “Girl Next Door” Kendra and Hank calling it quits.  I’m tired. So I will be taking a boy hiatus this weekend and hanging out with my “auntie” Madeline for a much needed girls day out tomorrow!  If you happen to see me in the DMV this weekend, feel free to say “Hey!”

My Jaguars looked a hot mess during Monday Night Football.  Hopefully, they’ve got their act together and we’ll be 4-3 after Sunday’s game.  I am kinda sad that Beyonce is not preggers.  😦 I even updated my FB status after I saw the first report saying she was.  (Quietly, I think she is, but John Q. Public will never know.)  Oh, and I purposefully did not mention anything about crazy Virginia Thomas calling Anita Hill asking for an apology.  What is WRONG with people?!?!?  In any event, enjoy your weekend folks.  Feel free to comment on the news I shared or the news that’s important to you.   Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

I Have Some Questions

For the past few weeks, I have had some things go through my mind.  I decided to share a few of them with you, my faithful, devoted, and opinionated audience.  If you have the answers, please share.  And if you have questions of your own, share those, too.  I may be able to answer yours!

-Why am I starting to like “Whip My Hair” by Willow Smith?

– Why didn’t T.I. hire Lindsay Lohan‘s attorney?

– Speaking of T.I., does he like it in prison?  Is that why he does stupid stuff so he can keep going back?

– Why are we salty about Alicia Keys giving birth…or is that just me?

– Why can’t I find a line of natural hair care products I like, especially a deep conditioner?

– Is Adrian Fenty going to be re-elected as mayor of DC in 2 more weeks-and bring back Michelle Rhee?

– Why do we love Twitter but loathe Facebook?

– Where is the 2nd CD in Maxwell’s trilogy BlackSUMMERS‘Night?

– And where is Jill Scott‘s The Light of the Sun?

– What’s the point of having an album for sale if you’re going to release all of the tracks as singles? (Think of Usher and Trey Songz)

– Dare I admit I’m beginning to like Nicki Minaj?

– And the most important question, what new updates are there regarding the death of Mitrice Richardson?

These are just some things that have been on my mind.  Are there any questions that you ask yourselves on a regular basis?  Maybe there’s that point in the day when you dare to let your mind drift off to this nice quiet place and you think of the most random stuff.   I hope I’ve put a smile on your face or at least got you to thinking, too.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Yes, I’m on Facebook…

So, for all you people that were wondering, your favorite Southern Girl is on Facebook!!! (And don’t feel bad if you missed the badge at the bottom of the page; oversights happen to the best of us!)  If you want to see EVERYTHING that goes through my pretty little head, come join me!  I even post articles from other sources and ask my fans for their opinion.  Feel free to share with friends and family.  I love to know what you guys think, so come join me, keep up-to-date on posts, and let’s get to chatting!!!