Why Should I Get a Website?

I’ve been pondering purchasing a domain for this here blog and moving from WordPress.  I looked initially in October of last year and looked again this past week.  I have a lot of hesitations. 

1. Who is going to move my site?  If you know me, you know I’m not computer savvy.  Far from it actually.  I’m surprised I’ve been blogging for this long with no real issues.  I know someone who is a site designer but he’s so hard to get in touch with, I’m afraid I’d be setting myself up for failure.

2. Who’s going to manage my site?  Yes, I know I will, but once again I need a web developer to make the pages, keep the set up straight, and all that good stuff.

3.  What’s the REAL benefit of moving to a site?  I would still use the layout from WordPress.  So why shouldn’t I just continue to use WordPress???  Yes, I know I could have ads put on the site, but would you guys really click them and see what they were all about? 

I know there would be a few benefits.

1. I would be a bonafide business owner, because believe me, honey, I would handle it as such.  I know you have to spend money to make money, but who has that kind of time???

2. I would be official.  I get excited when I see people who have their own sites, like “Black N Bougie”,”Until I Get Married”, and “Very Smart Brothas”.  Even my blogging mentor, “Hell in a Handbag”, got her own site recently.  (Maybe that’s who I should have had this discussion with.)

I’m lost.  What do you guys think?  Do I purchase the domain or stick with good ol’ WordPress?  WordPress has been good to me.  I don’t feel limited in anyway, but maybe that’s because I haven’t tried to reach out too far.  For those of you who think that I should purchase the domain, I hope you also have about 1 or 2 referrals for web developers.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Becoming a Better Elle

I’m the girl that always has a smile on my face and is Ms. Social Butterfly.  I love being around my friends, being in the know, and being involved.   It’s very rare John Q. Public will see me sad, unhappy, or mad.  And you definitely won’t see me arguing with anyone.  I like everyone to be happy and avoid conflict like the plague.  My need to be the “go-to” girl and keeping everyone happy has not always been beneficial for me.  I spend money when I shouldn’t, don’t speak up when people do me wrong, and don’t always tell people “no”.   As I’ve gotten older, I can say that I have grown and am working on becoming a better person.

I had to attack my spending habits.  I’m currently working with a counselor to get myself back on track, and I’m so excited.  I see the light at the end of the tunnel and know that it’s not as hard as I thought it would be.   I have learned to tell some people “no”, but it’s not always easy.  I also had to come to terms with the fact that I can’t do everything that I want to do.  For example, one of my FAVORITE linesisters is getting married NYE in Miami, and I can’t go.  Did ya’ll hear me???  MIAMI!!! On New Year’s Eve.  I haven’t even sent my regret yet, because I’m still partly in denial that I’m not going.   But once I address this problem, I’ll be able to go do fun stuff, like Miami (really ANYWHERE) on New Year’s Eve.  But I digress…

I’m telling people “no”, and I’m learning to speak up more.  If I have a problem with someone or something, I address it.  Case in point, I wasn’t sure how a particular young man felt about me, and I got tired of this roller coaster.  So what did I do?  I sent him an e-mail (Yes, I admit that wasn’t the best way to handle it, but I was a little chicken…). In any event, he responded (quite favorably I might add), and I’m glad he did.   We’re both on the same page, and hopefully this will be the beginning of something great.

Lastly, I’ve addressed my weight before (here), so I’ve decided to do something about it.  So far I’ve lost a total of 11 pounds (GO ME!), and I plan on continuing to lose weight. 

I’m excited about the changes I’ve made and continue to make.  So, what plans do you have to become a better you?  Do you want to go to school, become a business owner, manage your money better, etc.?  Share your stories here.  And what encouraging words do you have for me, eh, I mean the other readers?! 😉  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!