Reinventing Elle: Thirty and a Third

So last Sunday was the 3 month anniversary of my 30th birthday. (Don’t judge me.)  It also happened to be the day that I cut all of my hair off.  The previous Friday, at Neo-Soul Night at the Carter Barron Amphitheater, I had a discussion with my girls and decided to do the “Big Chop”.  I did it for a number of reasons.  The main reason why is because I wanted to change something about myself.  And yes, cutting my hair is drastic and irreplaceable, but it’ll grow back.  This coming from the same person who always felt like I had to have hair and that I would never look good being the size I am with short hair.  And living in DC, the fear of people thinking that I was something I wasn’t was real.  I wasn’t too concerned with what my friends thought.  I was concerned about what my family and my co-workers would think, moreso the latter since I saw them 5 days a week.  I walked into work Monday with my head so I wouldn’t have to make eye contact with anyone.  But something inside me said, “Hold your head up.  Be confident in yourself.”  I immediately snapped my head up with confidence and poise and haven’t put it down yet.

After 2 years, I finally saw my physician again this past week.  I always pride myself on going to the doctor and dentist on schedule each year.  When I found out I was losing my job last summer, I called my doctor to make an appointment before my insurance was up.  Unfortunately, the first available appointment was about 3 weeks after my job ended.  One of my first thoughts when I got hired at my new gig was, “YES!!! I have medical insurance again!”  (Don’t ask why it’s taken me 5 months to get to her.)  She told me something that I’ve known to be true but haven’t taken to seriously-I need to lose weight.  And even though I’ve only gained 4 pounds in 2 years, my health is a concern.  I have prehypertension.  So yes, while I hem and haw and work out and eat right for about a week before I go back to my old ways, that’s not an option anymore.  I need to get serious about my health. So I will find different ways to work and get exercise during the week.  I’m happy to report I walked a lot this weekend. 

There comes a time in our lives when we realize we have to re-invent ourselves.  Whether it’s to look better, to be healthier, or to do something new, we may to do something we’ve never done before to get the things that we need and/or want.  What do I want?  To be healthy and happy and enjoy life.  And it’s time to start taking things seriously, especially my health.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

I’m 30!!! Now What???

For someone who wanted to COMPLETELY cancel my birthday celebration weekend, I had an AMAZE balls time!  My girls came in town, I travelled the city, partied it up, and was even surprised by my BFF (that lives in Chicago) at Sunday brunch, although he told me he wasn’t going to be able to make it to DC for the weekend. 

I have to admit, though, over the past few days, I feel a bit more at peace.  It’s like a calm has come over me that I’ve never felt before.  And yes, I know it’s only been 3 days, but I think I may like 30. 

I don’t know what it is about my friend J.R. and I, but our lives have become more parellel over the past few months.  And after a long discussion after happy hour last night, she gave me some sage advice-Enjoy the gray.  Let me explain.

There’s a young lad that has caught my attention, and although I think there’s something there on his side, J.R. told me to stay in the gray and let things happen.  For those of you that know me, you know I LIVE in the black and white.  Say what you mean, and mean what you say.  If you feel something, say so.  But…I will heed her warning and fall back.  And it’s not like I’ll never see this guy again; I mean, we do volunteer for the same non-profit. 

So, I’m 30.  I feel like I’m in a place where I can really start to enjoy my life, have fun, and be independent.  I can go on vacations, travel home, or stay in my own house watching “Living Single” re-runs eating Pop Secret.  If things are slated to go up from here, then I think 30’s alright with me.  I’m happy…and no one’s going to take that from me.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Happy Black Girl Day-Be Happy

It’s the last Happy Black Girl Day of 2010.   Something that started as a little more than a thought and an affirmation has turned into something so much greater.  Black women across the country have made it their business to be happy and lift each other up instead of tear each other down.  As we all gear up for the holidays and to start fresh in the new year and make resolutions, I’m asking you all to just be happy.

I’ll admit this year has been a struggle for me.  I’ve had some highs and lows, and I have to admit losing my paternal grandmother in May was really hard for me and has to be the lowest point that I had in 2010.  But I know she’s no longer in pain and has been reunited with my granddad.  That, along with knowing the great life that she led and the people she touched, gives me some solace. 

But I can’t focus on the sad; I have to think about the good things that have happened, most importantly meeting some more great people in DC.  I’m so blessed to have met some wonderful people this year and have some great experiences.  My New Year’s Resolution for 2011 is to just be happy, which happens to be one of my favorite songs by Mary J. Blige.  And I charge all of you to be happy-be happy with yourself and know that you’re enough.  I charge you to find the good things within and to fall in love with yourself.  If you don’t love you how do you expect someone else to? 

That’s all I got today, folks.  I hope you all have a wonderful day, and if you’re not busy after work, go and hang out with some happy Black girls.  🙂  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!