Happy Tuesday! So, I know the title is a bit cliche’, but it’s the truth.
So, this post was going to be about the guy in this post. And it still will be. But I’m also thinking about other aspects of my life, in particular work wise. Let me just say that I love my job, but I sometimes feel undervalued and unappreciated. But, that’s all about to change!
Now, about the guy. I finally cut that off. Yesterday. And while his parting words were, “I understand”, I felt like he was trying to make himself the victim. Like the reason why we never moved forward was because of me. Or through no fault of his.
And yes, in the beginning, he said that he wasn’t looking for a relationship (I wasn’t either), but we just happened to bump into each other after a year. As time went on, my feelings started to change, and his did, too, according to him. But if we’re behaving as if we are in a relationship, then we need to re-evaluate or have a discussion. And we always started, but we never finished, which according to him, is a “bad habit” we have.
So, what did I do regarding this bad habit? I told him “I’m over trying to talk to you”, and “I’m done.” His response? “That sounds like something I would say.” (Really???) “I understand.”
While I’m slightly disappointed, I feel like such a big relief. Honestly, I didn’t really think he was a keeper; I think I was trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Yeah, we had some laughs and great times, but he wasn’t the one for me.
You may be saying, “Elle, he told you in the beginning that he didn’t want a relationship. And if you weren’t satisfied, why did you stay involved with him for so long?” That’s actually a great question. Women, and sometimes men, have a habit of staying in dysfunctional situations. And if we do not make people value us, they don’t. And it’s easy to stay in places where you are unappreciated and undervalued. And it’s not to say that the other person is a bad person; it’s just that they are not the one for us or the one we are meant to be with. It’s up to each individual to determine his/her own worth. Value yourself and know your worth.
Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!