Elle’s Lemon Squeeze

A lot of things have been occurring, in my life and in the world in general.   Some good, some bad, some ok…So, I’ll share with you guys my thoughts on some things that have been going on.  Feel free to share your comments as well!

North West… Congrats to Kim and Kanye, but I am SO upset they named this baby North…like really.  I know I’m not a parent and they can name their baby anything they want but sheesh!  We can just add this to the list of weird baby names like Apple, CoCo, and Blue Ivy.

Not to excuse her behavior, but Paula Deen is a woman of a certain age that is from the South.  Kudos to her for being honest, but boo to her for all of the nonsense that she wanted her employees to engage in.  This is a prime example of people that have lost their minds.  And don’t be confused-just because I understand the era in which she grew up does not mean I condone her behavior.  Let this be a lesson to EVERYONE that racist behavior is not cool, not appreciated, and not right.  And Black people must realize that we must take some responsibility as well.  We need to stop referring to each other as the “n” word, stop referring to women as b*thces and h*es, and just have respect for each other in general.  It’s amazing that we don’t get upset when we disrespect each other but get up in arms when a non-Black does us wrong.

And speaking of the South, let’s discuss the SCOTUS’ decision regarding Section 4 of the Voting Rights Act of 1965.  So they justices decided to put the decision back on the hands of Congress to update the language, which apparently they stated they would do in 2006.  This is just another reason that shows be careful of who you elect as your Senator and Representative in state elections.  Most times, the decisions they make are more important and more impactful than the ones made by the President.

George Zimmerman’s trial started this week.  The only thing I’ll say (at least until the trial is over) is that you have an unarmed teenager that was pursued by an armed grown man.  Even if Trayvon Martin was the aggressor, I understand why.  I would be too, if someone were chasing me.  At the end of the day, Zimmerman decided to ignore the instructions from the 911 operator and chased this kid down.  And not only did he continue to follow him in his car, he got out of his car and ran him down on foot, with his gun in his waistband.  To me, this just means he (Zimmerman) was looking to pick a fight that night.

In recent months, the men that I have encountered/dated have left a LOT to be desired.  At first, I thought something was wrong with me, since I am the common denominator.  I have since changed my thinking and realized it just happens to be the duds that I meet.  So, I toyed around with the idea of asking select friends to play matchmaker…AND even bringing the matchmaking idea to my blog.  But the more I think about it, the more I’m going to be a little more patient.  I may bring it here-I may not.  I may take it to my friends-I may not.  But as of right now, I’ll wait it out.

I just came back from my summer vacation, and I’m kinda sad to go back to work today. 😦  But at least next week is a short work week as well!

That’s all I’ve got for now.  Feel free to comment on anything I haven’t shared.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

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I Guess This IS Real Life

If you weren’t aware, I’m originally from South Carolina, born and raised, on the playground is where I spent most of days… (Sorry, I got a little carried away.)  I loved growing up in South Carolina.  Even though it’s not the Deep South, it’s still the South, and you encounter a few folks that remind you it’s still the South, but for the most part, I had no issues growing up.  Unfortunately, just like there are people from EVERY state that do crazy things, I’m not too happy of some of the activities from people in my home state.  I love SC fiercely, but sometimes things happen that I just don’t understand and make me lower my Palmetto Flag just a little.  I’ve already discussed the representative that shouted at President Obama during his first State of the Union address, yet I’ve never mentioned former governor Mark Sanford.

Mark Sanford was governor from 2003-2011.  He was married and has 4 boys.  In June 2009, after telling his staff he was going camping, the governor disappeared.  Like he wasn’t answering phone calls from staff and didn’t call his boys on Father’s Day disappeared.  NO ONE could get in touch with him.  He was missing for a total of 6 days.  I distinctly remember telling my co-workers, former military men, that he was with a woman.  They looked at me like I was crazy.  A few days later, it came out the governor was in Argentina with his mistress.  It also came out that Sanford used state funds to visit the other woman.  The fallout included the governor stepping down from his presidential role of the Republican Governors Association, but he had no desire to step down from his gubernatorial post.  His wife left him and their divorce was final the next year.  He is currently engaged to his former mistress.  And he was just (re-)elected to the US House of Representatives in a special election earlier this week.

I say all of this to say I might be wrong.  If you remember my post from last week, I stated that the latest episode of “Scandal” was not real life.  Apparently you can have an affair for years, lie about your whereabouts for a week, admit to using state funds to pay for your adulteress excursions, divorce your wife, run for re-election, and win.  So maybe mistresses and adulterers stay winning after all.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

Links of the Week

Today’s post is similar to “This Week in the News” but slightly different.  This may not necessarily be “news” moreso than just interesting information that I wanted to share.

First, Michelle in Training, a non-profit started by my friend kat calvin and where yours truly serves as the Public Relations and Marketing Chair, was featured in the Washington Post after we participated in Defining Young Black Philanthropy.  I plan on writing a post in the near future on how we (young professionals) can give back, even if we don’t have 6 zeros in the bank.

I’ve alluded to the fact that I’m a natural girl on this blog a time or two (for those of you that do not know me IRL).  I came across this article on Curly Nikki and thought it was worthy of sharing with my readers.  I’m glad Stephanie received the support from her job to transition to being natural; this story can assist women that are struggling with making the decision to stop getting relaxers rest a little easier and feel comfortable making that decision.  I think I inspired a few of my cousins to go natural after I made the transition as a number of them stopped getting perms.  (I could be totally wrong, but I think I may be right. :))

To ensure that you know what’s going in your backyard, you should be well aware of the fact that the Supreme Court is hearing oral arguments on Section 5 of the Voting Rights Act of 1965.  You should also know the facts surrounding the impending sequester.  As someone that knows people that will be affected, I hope there is a resolution SOON!  Never fret-not all news from DC is bad news.  Yesterday, the statue of civil rights icon Rosa Parks was unveiled at the U.S. Capitol.

Some new websites/apps that you should check out include “Around the Way“, an app that will assist you in locating a local black business.  You should also check out Blerdology, a site made especially for the black tech community filled with news, events, and feature stories.

That’s all I’ve got for today.  Feel free to share a story that I missed.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Today’s Black History Month Fact: In 1879, Southern Blacks left economic and political exploitation in what is known as the Exodus of 1879.  This was the first migration of Blacks following the Civil War, and Exodusters settled in Kansas, Colorado, and Oklahoma.

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Do Better

I want to cry.  Literally. Like a puffy, red-eye, snot nose, can’t catch my breath cry.  No, no one died.  No, no man broke my heart.  It’s the aftermath of the 2012 election.  I’m honestly tired of seeing my friends on Facebook post stuff about Gov. Romney AND President Obama.  (I’m tempted to hit un-friend for classmates, friends, and family alike…maybe I’ll just take them out of my timeline.) I’m tired of reading news articles related to people being mad their candidate didn’t win and exasperated at seeing people cheer because their candidate did win.

In 2012, we have someone that basically made a death threat against Obama because he won.  A woman ran over her husband because he didn’t vote (for Romney).   People are actually signing petitions to have their state secede from the union. -_- I have to admit, I was one of the disillusioned people in 2008 who thought race relations might be becoming a thing of the past with the election of the nation’s first Black president.  Two months later I would see just how wrong I was.  And four years later, it seems as if things have gotten worse.  Honestly, do people dislike the POTUS because of his policies and his political party?  Or is it all about race?

A lot of news pundits have stated that in order to unite America, the President has his work cut out for him and has to find a way to get people on his side.  I wholeheartedly disagree.  When it comes to relationships (because the President has a relationship with every single American-regardless if he received their vote), you can’t change the other person.  It’s not Obama’s job to change the mind of millions of people that do not “like” him to get them to work with him .  It’s his job to run the country.  It’s our job as Americans to hold him, and especially our other elected officials, accountable for doing things for the greater good of this country.  How much sense does it make to constantly battle someone?  None, because nothing gets accomplished (which we’ve witnessed for the past 2 years).  We-the POTUS, state and local officials, and the American people-need to come up with a compromise.  That’s the only way this relationship is going to work.  If we can’t make this relationship work, speak up during the next election with your vote and end the relationship.

When I first moved to DC, I stopped watching the news because it seemed everyday someone was getting killed.  Now I stopped watching because of the elections.  I would like to think some of this would die down, but it doesn’t seem like it has.  I honestly wonder sometime if my Facebook “friends” have issues with people that are different from them.  I get tired of seeing posts and pictures related to people’s political thoughts.  What are you doing with your life?  How’s the new job?  The new baby?  The new house?  Let’s focus on the present and the future because the past is behind us.  How we can move forward.  Talk about how to you visited your representative and you agreed to work on ways to improve the schools in your district.  Or how you’re coming up with a plan to work with your neighbors to combat crime.

Alas, I doubt this white noise that is Election 2012 is going to die down anytime soon.  Which saddens me.  And makes me want to cry.  Not the pretty cry with one tear going down my cheek.  But the puffy, red eye, snot nose, can’t catch my breath cry.  Until the next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

Four More Years…

To say that I am happy that President Obama won re-election is the understatement of the century.  To say that I am happy that the 2012 Election Season is over is the 2nd understatement of the century.  I was SO tired of seeing commercials related to Virginia politics and amendments, Maryland amendments, AND presidential ads.  Now, to move onward…

Unfortunately for Republicans who in 2010 stated their main focus was to make President Obama a one term president, that is not a reality.  He is going to be around for 4 more years.  If elected officials REALLY and TRULY cared about the American people, they would do as Mr. Romney suggested in his concession speech-cross party lines and make this about people and not politics.  The only way to move this country forward is to work together.  Put whatever it is behind you to ensure that America is a country that continues to prosper.  It’s time to put all of this juvenile, petty, old-world thinking behind us and to come together as a country.

I implore all of you to reach out to your elected officials by writing a letter, an e-mail, or even visiting them.  When you go to them, voice the concerns that you have and that affect you and your family.  Don’t let them do what they want to do.  They are in office and work FOR YOU.  If an elected official is too busy to talk to you, they may not be the right person for the job.  You should at least be able to speak to someone in their office.   If your representative isn’t making the decisions that benefit you, do not re-elect them.  One thing that I think Americans take for granted and gloss over is the elections of our state and local leaders.

Arrogance nevers win.  Being respectful to your counterpart is key.  Working on a compromise is essential.  These principles not only works in politcs and government; they work in real life, too.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

PS  Can I just say a big “CONGRATULATIONS!” to my cousin that won his town council seat in Hilton Head, SC?!?!?  We are so proud of you, Marc, and know you will do great things! 🙂

It’s About that Time…

I haven’t blogged in awhile, not for lack of not wanting to.  I’ve just been doing some self-reflection, soul searching, and taking care of other people.

I came out of my hibernation to implore you all to vote tomorrow, if you have not already early voted.  To women and minorities, it’s been less than 100 years since we’ve had the right to vote in this country.  So there’s no reason WHY you should not vote.  People marched, protested, and others died to have this basic human liberty given to us that some people take for granted.   Don’t think your voice doesn’t matter and that your vote doesn’t count.  I can assure you it does.

As important as the presidential election is, your local elections are even MORE important.  The people that get elected to your local offices are the ones that decide how local money is spent regarding education, transportation, and some even decide state laws.

You have less than 24 hours to become an informed and educated voter.  Use your time wisely.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern Girl…in the city!