Are You Doing What You Love?

Today’s post- yes, it’s a tad late in the day- is another guest post by my friend Cristin Jordan. I almost feel like this post is for me. Hmmmmm….


There’s something to be said for actually doing something you enjoy. There was a time I had a mini anxiety attack every time my phone rang. I hated my job, but here’s the problem. This wasn’t my Plan B this was exactly what I went to school for and prayed about. This was what I said I wanted to do… until I actually started doing it. Tight deadlines and one murder after another started to wear on me. TV news sucks. My family got a kick out of seeing me on tv, but it’s not nearly as fun as it looks. Oh, and did I mention I had to work weekends??? And some mornings my clock went off at 3am!

But what I’ve come to realize is that it’s ok to change your mind. To transition. To walk away.  To try something different.  And why the heck would not want to grow. My friend Nadia Jones helped me to see that. She went to school a heck of a lot longer than I did, and I’m sure put in more time at the library to get her JD before deciding she wanted to change directions. As a mom blogger, and the founder of a successful conference for parent bloggers of color, she completely flipped the script, yet she’s doing something she enjoys. Can you say the same?

Think about it this way.  In Nadia’s case, or mine even, those original careers will be there in some capacity. If you take a step off your chosen path who’s to say you can’t come back to it later, if you so choose? And guess what-you may never re-visit what you thought was your first love. So was it a waste? Of course not. No matter where you are you can use the sum of your life experiences to help push you further. As a blogger, Nadia gets sponsored to write about different brands. AND I bet she doesn’t have to get a lawyer to look over those contracts. And the chick is a heck of a negotiator. As for me? Well… I can apply my make- up better than most, and on a more substantial level I have an un-paralleled understanding of how the media works, which is something that has helped me as I’ve transitioned into public relations. So go for it, figure out what you like to do, and do it. Don’t let your job get in the way!

ReBlog- Fellas, Good Luck Finding that Perfect Purple Flying Unicorn That Lays Golden Eggs

Yesterday, my blog idol/play cousin/friend-in-my-head Michele Grant, over at Black n’ Bougie reiterated why I LOVE her blog.  The title of my post today is her post from yesterday.  While the world, and I literally mean the entire world, tells single, educated, successful (Black) women what we need to do in order to get a man, no one is talking to the men…and I mean nobody.  I don’t think Steve Harvey has written a book yet directed towards (Black) men instructing them on what they need to do in order to find that “special, perfect one”.   I haven’t seen a book titled, “Why Women Love A–holes” (a play on words to the book “Why Men Love B-tches”).  And correct me if I’m wrong, but I haven’t seen a book titled “Make Her Beg to be Your Girlfriend”; yes, there is a book with this similar title-change “Girlfriend” to “Boyfriend”.  So my girl Chele gave men a mirror, told them to take a look, and strongly suggested they do a little self-evaluation.  To see if they are as great as they would like everyone to think they are.  To see if they are bringing to the table what they DEMAND in a mate.

So, I strongly implore all of you to mosey on over and take a look at her post from yesterday.  Sometimes, I think Michele and I were separated at birth.  She’s Southern, she’s a writer, we share the same last name, and, most importantly, she loves Prince and the color purple (not the movie, but the actual color).   Feel free to comment on my blog, her blog, or both.  And if you do not read her blog on a regular basis, you are losing in life.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

My Top 3 Fave Posts (at the moment!)

We’re at Day 24 of the Blogging for Branding Challenge, and I must say I am very excited about the changes I’ve made.  And I was excited to see that I already incorporated some of the tips into “Southern Girl…”  This post will highlight 3 of my favorite posts (at the moment) that I feel encompass what I enjoy and some things I find interesting.  Who can go wrong with relationships, fashion, and pop culture???

First, I have to go to my fave blogger and fellow Southerner OneChele at “Black ‘N Bougie”. She has so many posts that I love that it’s very hard for me to pick just one, but pick one I did.  Every now and then she will share stories of events that have been happening with her and her new beau.  This story (The Soap Opera Continues, Part I) is one of her latest tales of the goings-on with some drama she’s had to deal with regarding the crazy people tied to her new man.  What happens when the boo’s ex-wife and best friend show up unannounced???  You’ll be surprised to find out…(and don’t forget to read Part II.)

My friend, Erin, I believe you’ve read some of her posts a time or two, has started “Fashion Friday” on her own blog.  The latest post (Color Me Bad-Nail Colors for Fall) is full of great colors that we ladies can use to express ourselves this upcoming season without having to spend a whole lot of money.  I’m your typical girly-girl, but I’ve recently started painting my fingernails on a halfway regular basis.  I’m always looking for eclectic colors to use when I want to add a spark to my look!

Lastly, Hell in a Hanbag, created by OriginalNajeema, is the blog I think is most close to Southern Girl, in the sense that we write about various topics.  The great thing is that we rarely discuss the same thing.  And on the rare event that we do, our takes and writing styles are completely different.  “Race, Class, and the Dollar” discusses the issues regarding Antoine Dodson and the attention he’s received due to a tragedy in the home.   As only she can do, Najeema provides her witty commentary to what has become a pop culture phenom.

I know you guys have favorite posts, so please share them.  We all need some things to read to make us laugh, help us with our style, and to make us think.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

My Favorite Blog

I was never big on blogging.  Actually, I’m probably the most technologically unsound blogger you’ll ever come across, even though I started a natural hair blog earlier this year.  I actually came across Black n’ Bougie on accident.  A member of a listserv of which I’m a part sent a link to one of OneChele’s posts, and I thought it was extremely hilarious.  So much so that I would check her blog every now and then to see what she had to say.  I thought the girl (well really lady) was a genius!   She had me cracking up!  She was witty, funny, told a great story, and even forced me to do some self-reflection.  She speaks on so many different topics and always has a poignant point to make.  (And I, of course, check out this blog on a daily basis, the only blog that gets that much attention from me-besides my own!)

When I started Southern Girl, I wanted to emulate BnB.  Then of course I came to realize that I can only be me.  I don’t ever want to be a carbon copy of someone.  But I must say that OneChele is my Blog Inspiration, if there is such a thing!  I follow her on Twitter and have commented on a post or five!  I highly encourage all of you to check out her blog, even some of her older stuff.   She covers everything from pop culture to sports to politics, all with a bougie twist!  So thank you, OneChele, for being my inspiration and making me challenge myself. 

So, do you guys have a favorite blog? If so, what is it?  And why is it your favorite?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern the city!

P.S. OneChele, I hope you don’t mind my borrowing your heading! 😉