These are the words that were spoken to me yesterday by a co-worker before she stated she couldn’t understand why I’m still single. I love her to life, she’s funny, and we play off of each other ALL DAY. But almost of the blue yesterday, she made mention that she was talking to her husband (lovely man) about me this past weekend during their discussion of relationships.
But in addition to my having a “great personality”, apparently I’m too picky. These words are like hearing, “You’re pretty-for a big girl.” I immediately responded and told her that I’m not picky-I’m selective, and I’m not going to be a relationship with someone just because. My last ex-boyfriend (I used that word VERY loosely) couldn’t understand that (that’s why he’s an ex), but maybe my co-worker will. Not that it’s really any of her business. I know she means well, but I’ve (somewhat) gotten to a place where I am truly happy working on Elle and am ok with being single.
Sure there are days where I desire the love and affection of a mate. But I’m not willing to compromise myself to get it. And just because I’m in my 30s doesn’t mean I’m going to start accepting any old thing that comes my way because I feel like time is running out. When things like that happen, we make our situations MUCH worse. And at times we end of not only disrupting our lives but also the lives of others.
So, in short, if you know someone who is single, just let them live. If they are interested in you searching for someone for them or want to discuss their love life (or lack thereof), they’ll let you know.
Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!