I am a social person. I love people. I love being around people (once I get to know them :)). I value my friendships.
Over the course of my 30+ years on this earth, I have met a lot of people-classmates, church friends, bandmates, sorors, co-workers, and people I volunteer with. I totally understand there are folks who are in your life for a reason, a season, and a lifetime. Social media has allowed us to re-connect with people from yesteryear and keep up with what they are doing now…or what they want to you to see/think they are doing now. We text, call, video chat and the like to keep in touch with those we care about. But what happens when you reach out-you text, you call, you initiate the video chat-but the person doesn’t reach back?
I recently had two different discussions with friends about when to end friendships with people. Ending a friendship is an EXTREMELY hard thing to do, especially if it is someone you have known for years. Sometimes life gets in the way. People move, get married, have children, and have to deal with issues that come along with living for a few years. But, what happens when you reach out, make plans, invite friends to hang out, they confirm their attendance, and then…they don’t show up? What happens when you are the one to always pick up the phone to make the call but no one calls you? There’s a difference between being busy and being ignored.
Since my birthday last month, I have decided to cut the strings with a number of people. With most, though they have not been close to me recently, social media has allowed us to reconnect. Dialogue was had, memories were shared, plans-some tentative, most confirmed-were made, and yet…they have been no shows in one way or another. So as to only expend energy to those that expend energy to me, I’ve decided to not make any effort to attempt a relationship.
At the end of the day, we all must come to a point when we realize that some relationships have come to an end. And that is perfectly ok. Not all people are meant to be in our lives forever. You’ve got to learn when to just let things go. Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.