Two Sundays ago, I went to the engagement brunch of a couple of which I’m friendly with both parties, but I met the groom-to-be first and am somewhat a closer friend to him than the bride-to-be. I knew NO ONE else at the brunch. But, as luck would have it, I ended up sitting with some fellow South Carolinians, and as more luck would have it, we knew a few of the same people. One young lady and I are from the same (small) city. There was a guy I ended up sitting next to-let’s call him Jonathan. Though there were about 5 of us that kept conversing throughout the brunch, there were times Jonathan and I would have our own private conversations, most of which were initiated by him.
It started to snow (darn you, DC winter!), so everyone starts to scramble to pay their bills and get home before the weather gets bad. After I took a picture with the happy couple (I had to post the good news on Instagram), Jonathan asks for my number. He pulls out his phone, types in my number, AND asks for my last name. Jonathan’s cute, is tall, and has a deep voice, so I’m kinda excited he’s interested. And I can only gather that he’s interested, because HE asked for my number AND went through the trouble of saving it in his phone AND asked for my last name. I mean, that means he’s interested in me, right?
Well, it’s been almost two weeks, and I haven’t heard from Jonathan. Because I overanalyze everything, I begin to think he’s not interested and he’s not gonna call. Or maybe all of his contacts got erased from his phone and he lost my number. Or maybe I should stop tripping and ask for somebody to decipher the guy code. So what do I do? Of course I go to TyAnthony. I give him the scenario and ask why he wouldn’t call. He let me know that sometimes guys ask for a number for sport. He also said he may call-just to give him 2 weeks. My response is, “So he’s not interested? And what am I supposed to do after two weeks?” Ty said he would not have asked for my number if he wasn’t interested; he just may not be as interested as I want him to be. And not to do anything after 2 weeks; I shouldn’t be chasing dudes. Honestly, I swear he must be able to read my mind, because I was seriously thinking about going to my friend and asking about Jonathan. But based on the advice I received, I’ll let it go.
If it’s meant to be, he’ll call. If not, it’s back to the drawing board. Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.
TyAnthony is right, be patient and continue along the path you were going before the brunch. Dating is so complicated these days and even though he asked for your number, he could be attached to a woman but getting close to ending things so he’s trying to get his options together. He could’ve been interested 2 weeks ago but maybe found someone else and wants to see what happens with her first. He could’ve been doing it for sport. I doubt he’s nervous about calling because you’ve already met and he knows you can hold a conversation with him. There are a multitude of reasons as to why he hasn’t called. What you don’t want to do is overanalyze (which you’re doing lol) and wait by the phone because when (if) he does finally call, you’ll react like it’s manna from Heaven.
And maybe it was meant to only be a 1 day interaction. It’s possible him not calling is the BEST thing for you. Or … maybe he was walking to his car, a dog bit his leg, he dropped his phone in the sewer, and lost all of his contacts. It’s possible. 🙂
LOL! First, thank you for indulging my overanalyzing! 🙂 I’m really trying to get better, I promise. And yes, I have definitely thought maybe this is not meant to go further than this one day, and it’s a good thing he hasn’t called. And it’s funny you said I shouldn’t act like it’s manna from heaven if (when) he calls, because I relayed this story to a newlywed co-worker yesterday, and he told me I don’t need to bite his head off, which is a MUCH more likely thing for me to do, in a joking fashion, of course.
I think that if I were you I would go to the engaged couple to get some kind of scoop on this guy. To me, it seems like he’s interested and why go through all of that trouble just to leave a girl high and dry? Doesn’t make any sense (then again, I’m not known to understand guy code).
I think that… it’s a sin to wait that long. Maybe I’m old fashioned, but I believe there is a proper way to court a girl and making her anxious so early on is just not nice protocol. He doesn’t have to call the next day, but give it a few days and then check in! Geeez. LOL. Also, Hi! Nice to meet you I’m a dinosaur 🙂
LOL! Thanks, Charlotte! I don’t understand Guy Code, either, that’s why I am so thankful for my BFF Ty; he answers ALL of my questions and keeps me in check. I totally agree with you, a guy should never keep a lady waiting that long. A week, maybe, but two weeks is ridiculous.
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