It’s Really Not That Bad…

I’m probably going to get so much flack for this post, but I kinda don’t care.

Robin Thicke, one of my white boy crushes, has finally garnered a #1 hit with his newest single “Blurred Lines”.  But apparently, you can’t have success without a little negativity surrounding you.

From the beginning, Thicke received criticism for the – shall we say scantily clad – women in his uncensored video.  With women being or appearing to be naked and dancing and grinding on the crooner, not to mention the sign that reads “Robin has a big ____!”, numerous people had issues with the video. Robin stated the video was about having fun.  Also, the lyrics of the song have been questioned, and I’ve heard/read in at least a few different places that this song borderline promotes some type of sexual assault, which I think is ludicrous.  His performance with Miley Cyrus at Sunday’s MTV VMA’s not withstanding, the major story now about Robin is that he ripped off the beat from Marvin Gaye’s “Got to Give it Up” for his new hit.  And what’s even crazier is that Robin, along with Pharrell Williams and Clifford Harris (aka T.I.) are suing Gaye’s estate, sort of as a preemptive strike before they could be hit with a lawsuit.

Personally, all of the hoopla, besides him suing Marvin’s estate, is really ridiculous.  I have to admit, the beat caught my attention first.  It’s catchy, fun, and makes you want to move.  (Pharrell put his foot in the music.)  Then I started listening to the words.  Honestly, I really didn’t pay this song any attention until my linesister/BFF was in the car with me, and she started singing, “Hey Hey Hey!”  Now, honestly, whenever the song comes on, I think of her dancing in the passenger seat of my car.  Anywho, I personally do not think this song is demeaning to women, it does not promote any type of sexual assault, and I think the notion that the music is taken from a Marvin Gaye song is a bit of a stretch. Is the song influenced by Gaye?  Heavily.  But I would not go so far as to say that anything is taken from the late crooner.

I like to think of myself as a music connoisseur, someone that enjoys music from many different genres, so I like to think I somewhat know what I’m talking about.  Would I allow my (imaginary) young, impressionable child to listen to this song? Probably not.  But there have been shows, movies, songs, etc. that have been around since the beginning of the time that parents have shielded their children from.  

One last thing, I’m not a parent, but I have been around and have worked (volunteered) with children for years, so I kinda feel like I can say what I’m about to say.  If parents did the job they were/are supposed to do with their children, they would not be so easily influenced with the images they see on tv or by the music they hear.  I know times are not the same as they were when I was growing up.  But because of the values and principles my parents instilled in me, I was not easily influenced by my peers or even by the music I heard or the television I watched.  I could watch “New York Undercover” and not want to shoot someone.  I could watch “Friday” and know that doing drugs was a bad thing.  Parents cannot expect outside forces to raise their children.  It does take a village to raise a child, but it’s not the teacher’s, after school counselor’s, or the television’s job to raise children.

I apologize for going off on a tangent.  The moral of the post is- Lay off Robin.  There are many more things that are going on in this country that need our attention and our focus.  Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” isn’t one of them.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

I Was Not Impressed

Last night was the 30th Anniversary of the MTV Video Music Awards.  And I watched approximately 30-40 minutes of the broadcast.  I can say that I was not all that impressed with the portion I saw.  I tuned in just in time to see Miley Cyrus “twerking” (what is that anyway???) on Robin Thicke, Macklemore and Ryan Lewis win the award for best Hip-Hop Video (o_O), Daft Punk and Pharrell “perform” with Nile Rodgers and present Best Female Video, Kanye’s whack performance, and (most importantly) my boo Justin Timberlake perform.  And with this smidgen, I can truly say I was underwhelmed.

From what I heard, just as I guessed, Paula Patton was acting up backstage, but instead of being in Robin’s face, she was in Miley’s.  I was confused why Miley and Robin were performing together in the first place. (Might I add I heard the audio of Miley singing “Blurred Lines”-she’s sounds horrible…) I was definitely waiting on a cameo from T.I., but he never appeared.  I was hoping Kanye would perform another song, yet it never happened.  The only highlight in my viewing was the 15 minutes JT was on my television screen singing and dancing and doing it well I might add.  Of course it was great to see ‘NSYNC reunited.  (J.C. still has it!)  And speaking of J.C., watching them made me realize I miss “America’s Best Dance Crew”.  Oh, Fanny Pak, where are you???

I’ve never been big on watching award shows, but I would always try to catch the replay to see the awesome performances that people gush about so I could be in the know.  Unfortunately, I do not think that will be happening with last night’s production.  I must be old, because half of the names that were called I didn’t recognize.  (Honestly, I’m still trying to figure out the big deal behind Kendrick Lamar’s verse from a few weeks ago.)  In short, the conclusion that I came to last night was that I am too old to watch any awards show on MTV…

If there’s something I MUST see that I missed, please let me know.  Tell me where it is in the line-up, and I’ll try to catch it.  I make no promises, though.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Don’t Question Me

We all have guilty pleasures.  Some of us like to gamble.  Some of us like to club.  Some of us like to read steamy novels. Some of us play video games.  Some of us even like to go to seedy clubs.  No one really questions these people.  We let them go on their merry little way and enjoy their vices, as long as they are not hurting anyone.  So why is it women, especially black women, get so much flack for watching reality television?  I admit when I was younger, I watched “Keeping Up With the Kardashians”, “Bad Girls Club”, just about all of the Housewives series on Bravo, and any “love” show VH1 had on like it was going out of style.  As I’ve gotten older, some shows have fallen by the wayside, but others I still watch.  Some people seem to think that’s a problem.

I have seen numerous stories and Facebook posts shunning women, making women feel ashamed, and questioning anyone that watches these types of shows.  So, if anyone questions you about what you do in your spare time, here a few anecdotes you can share. (Honestly, I wish I had 5 so I could do a countdown like Olivia did to Edison…) First and foremost, it’s my money and my time.  And if I want to spend my money and my time watching this, that’s what I’m going to do.  Second, I don’t do drama in real life.  So I get my fix from watching crazy people on tv.  Lastly, it’s a sign of the times.  Unfortunately, reality television has taken over our tv channels.  And let’s just be honest; some of these shows are pretty entertaining.

Now, no one has questioned me directly about what I watch on television (except maybe Southern Mom when she’s visiting and I’m watching “Big Brother”), but I felt the need to respond to all these naysayers.  My opinion is that as long as I’m not allowing what I see to negatively influence my life, I’m good.  Unfortunately, not everyone can say the same.  And that’s ok-it’s important we know our strengths.  If you’re the responsible, make sure to reiterate to the person in your life that these are not every day people and 95% of this stuff will not work and would not happen in the real world.

Another great thing is that we have great reality tv to counteract the ridiculous drama.  I love watching my favorite twins “Tia and Tamera”. And I thoroughly enjoyed watching Kimora Lee Simmons latest foray in television on “Life in the Fab Lane”.

So, if your girlfriend/wife/mother/friend/whatever wants to watch the “Real Housewives of Miami” or “Love and Hip-Hop” or “Bad Girls Club”, don’t question her.  Let her enjoy her guilty pleasure.  Be glad she’s not getting drunk every night.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Is The Ring Enough?

Today, we have a guest post from one of my oldest friends from Florida, Cristin Jordan.  She’s a reality tv buff, like me.  We message each other ALL the time on Facebook about various shows to share our thoughts on these crazy people we watch on television.  And it seems as if she has a little inside scoop and some thoughts about “Love and Hip-Hop” veterans Chrissy and Jim Jones. 

From what I could sniff out on various social media channels, it looks pretty good that the reality show “Chrissy and Mr. Jones” is coming back for another season. Being an old married chick myself, I love watching the dynamics of other people’s relationships play out.

For most of us ladies, it’s all about getting the ring, right? And when it comes to Chrissy, my gosh what a ring it was! Did you see it? I’m tempted to say it’s hard to describe it with just mere words. I doubt the Queen of England has anything that nice. I don’t believe you should ever stare, but the ring is worth a second, heck even a third look if you happen to pass Chrissy at the grocery store.  My inside scoop tells me that the ring is from Avianne & Co., a popular New York City jeweler that works with many celebrities, including Lil’ Wayne and Ciara. (If you haven’t checked out their jewelry before it is a must-see as their pieces are exquisite.) 

Chrissy must be a rabbit because her ring has carats for days! It’s nearly 10 carats set in 18K white solid gold. The center diamond was specially cut and imported from Israel. It took almost two weeks to make.

 So she did it. She got the ring, and it looks like she got the man.

I really wish them the best. I’m a big proponent of marriage. It’s not easy, and I hope the two of them can make it work, especially when the cameras stop rolling.

That exquisite piece of jewelry on her left hand isn’t attainable for most of us. At $140,000, it cost more than the average home in a lot of cities. But I do believe a good solid relationship is within everyone’s reach.

For starters keep the communication going and don’t ever take anything for granted, especially each other.
So Chrissy, I lift my glass and say cheers. Here’s to a life as magnificent and blinged out as those perfectly cut diamonds on your left hand.

Cristin Jordan is a freelance writer from Jacksonville, FL.  A mom, she loves rachett, or shall we say reality, tv even though even she will admit the drama goes too far. Cristin loves to travel, and when her bags aren’t packed, she’s trying to figure out how she’s going to take her next trip.

Oh, (Big) Brother…

I am a HUGE “Big Brother” fan.  So much so, I try to schedule my Wednesday, Thursday, and Sunday evening outings around the times that it comes on. And if, by chance, I miss it, I either catch up online or watch it on On Demand. (Don’t judge me.)  I’ve written about the current season before, regarding the racist rants of Aaryn and GinaMarie.  (I SO was waiting on Julie to go IN on them when they got evicted.)  But, with seven houseguests left, these chicks are STILL in the house.  And just last week, we can add catty/nutty/rude/mean Amanda to the list of mean girls that made racist remarks to Candice.  And it’s SO funny for two reasons- 1. Just weeks earlier, she approached Aaryn about her remarks and saying how houseguests were perceiving her to be racist.  2.  After she rolled her neck and antagonized Candice, she said something akin to “Oh, I guess I’m a racist now?!?!”  Seriously, where did CBS find these people???

Helen, who is an Asian-American woman made a deal with Aaryn to keep her in the house when she should have been evicted WEEKS ago.  And last night, Aaryn won the Head of Household for the fourth time this season, the third after she made a deal with Helen.  I understand that playing “Big Brother” is a game and everyone is out to get the big prize at the end.  But is your dignity and your pride in your heritage worth $500,000?  The one thing that makes me happy is that Candice gets an opportunity to compete to win her way back into the house next Thursday.  Now, I can admit my girl Candice is not the best competitor. But I truly hope she can fight her way back into the house and get rid of one of the mean girls.

Although CBS has started showing a disclaimer after the July 7 episode that touches on how these people are filmed 24/7 and have no privacy and sometimes they make derogatory remarks and CBS does not condone such behavior, it doesn’t negate the comments and the hurt feelings that I’m sure were not only felt by Howard, Helen, and Candice.  Showing this disclaimer may be fine, well, and good, but itdoesn’t erase what people have seen.  I remember a few seasons back, one houseguest was evicted by the producers for showing violent behavior and being confrontational.  Maybe they didn’t think racists needed to be evicted.  Or as someone suggested to me, maybe they’ve kept these girls in to get ratings.  I hope that’s not true.  But I guess the dehumazing and belittling of someone is worth a few dollars and some points on the Neilsen scale… *shrugs*

What also completely boggles my mind is how Helen and Aaryn are somewhat buddy/buddy now.  Just last month, Aaryn was going in on her.  And Aaryn has proved she’s a competitor, and this chick just might make it to the Final 2…but I pray she doesn’t, because she doesn’t deserve to win.  Being mean and being a bully do not make a winner.

I know the saying “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer” is real, but I could only fake the funk for so long in a situation like this.  I can honestly say I am SO disappointed with this season.  And I can truthfully say that if Aaryn does win “Big Brother”, this will most likely be the last season I watch it.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.