A lot of things have been occurring, in my life and in the world in general. Some good, some bad, some ok…So, I’ll share with you guys my thoughts on some things that have been going on. Feel free to share your comments as well!
North West… Congrats to Kim and Kanye, but I am SO upset they named this baby North…like really. I know I’m not a parent and they can name their baby anything they want but sheesh! We can just add this to the list of weird baby names like Apple, CoCo, and Blue Ivy.
Not to excuse her behavior, but Paula Deen is a woman of a certain age that is from the South. Kudos to her for being honest, but boo to her for all of the nonsense that she wanted her employees to engage in. This is a prime example of people that have lost their minds. And don’t be confused-just because I understand the era in which she grew up does not mean I condone her behavior. Let this be a lesson to EVERYONE that racist behavior is not cool, not appreciated, and not right. And Black people must realize that we must take some responsibility as well. We need to stop referring to each other as the “n” word, stop referring to women as b*thces and h*es, and just have respect for each other in general. It’s amazing that we don’t get upset when we disrespect each other but get up in arms when a non-Black does us wrong.
And speaking of the South, let’s discuss the SCOTUS’ decision regarding Section 4 of the Voting Rights Act of 1965. So they justices decided to put the decision back on the hands of Congress to update the language, which apparently they stated they would do in 2006. This is just another reason that shows be careful of who you elect as your Senator and Representative in state elections. Most times, the decisions they make are more important and more impactful than the ones made by the President.
George Zimmerman’s trial started this week. The only thing I’ll say (at least until the trial is over) is that you have an unarmed teenager that was pursued by an armed grown man. Even if Trayvon Martin was the aggressor, I understand why. I would be too, if someone were chasing me. At the end of the day, Zimmerman decided to ignore the instructions from the 911 operator and chased this kid down. And not only did he continue to follow him in his car, he got out of his car and ran him down on foot, with his gun in his waistband. To me, this just means he (Zimmerman) was looking to pick a fight that night.
In recent months, the men that I have encountered/dated have left a LOT to be desired. At first, I thought something was wrong with me, since I am the common denominator. I have since changed my thinking and realized it just happens to be the duds that I meet. So, I toyed around with the idea of asking select friends to play matchmaker…AND even bringing the matchmaking idea to my blog. But the more I think about it, the more I’m going to be a little more patient. I may bring it here-I may not. I may take it to my friends-I may not. But as of right now, I’ll wait it out.
I just came back from my summer vacation, and I’m kinda sad to go back to work today. 😦 But at least next week is a short work week as well!
That’s all I’ve got for now. Feel free to comment on anything I haven’t shared. Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!
Southern Girl in the City 
I think the lead was buried on yesterday. The Supreme Court’s ruling was big and I feel like it was glossed over by us darker-hued folks yesterday. As a life-long southerner and South Carolinian that troubles me on various levels.
I’m concerned as well. But I’m not sure who your friends are, but mine were up in arms yesterday discussing the SCOTUS’ decision. Since we can only move forward, I think it’s up to us as American citizens to make sure we notify our elected officials in Washington of how we think they should vote when the bill comes up.
My friends talked about it but it just seemed to be a passing remark on the world news. The entire idea of the situation is troubling.
In that case, I think we have to take matters into our own hands and make this an issue, just as the world did last year when Trayvon Martin was killed and no one was arrested. When people started making noise, that’s when the media started paying attention. It may take a grassroot effort to get things going and to put in the forefront where they should be.
It’s driving me MAD that there is so much time spent discussing and explaining SCOTUS’ decision on DOMA and Prop8 as opposed to the Voting Rights Repeal. Where are our priorities?!
It’s been a bad week all around. I have one word for Kanye and Kim: “Resume.” I never cared for Paula Dean, never pointed people towards her restaurant, though she got too much credit for food we see on our holiday table, so I wasn’t overly traumatized when she was brought down. I do agree that we people of color need to stop using derogatory language towards each other as well as expect others to do the same. It gets old. Clarence Thomas is a disappointment and an embarrassment. He kicks all of the gains made out from under us and meanwhile claims to be Gullah/Geechee when it suits him. I can’t even stand to watch the Zimmerman trial. I’m mad enough this week without watching the defense pull some okey-doke. Just let me know the punishment (or acquittal). As for finding the right man, you have to start with finding the right people in general. Personally, I have been dealing with a lot of narcissistic personalities and its making me so furious I have aches. I have to find a way to purge myself of all of that and keep the positive people.
The Texas filibuster over the abortion bill was shut down last night. So basically it’s been a rough week for people of color and women…
And I’m glad you had a great vacation. You need a clear mind to deal with all of this crap the country is going through this week.
I agree with the clear mind statement. As soon as I got back on Monday, I felt like my head was going to explode! And even trying to recupirate yesterday was almost a moot point. I was trying to watch MSNBC on Monday evening to follow the recap of the trial, and Southern Mom was like “do we really have to watch this?!”
It gets to be too much. It’s like we’re totally going backwards.
I agree with several of the statements here but I must add that I’m not 1) surprised about Paula D using the word, 2) upset that she was honest during a deposition, 3) up in arms and demanding she be fired. She’s an older woman from the South and as a 31 year old woman from smack dab in the center of GA, I don’t quite understand why everyone else is so alarmed. Note: this is solely about the word. The black waiters incident is a-whole-nother beast! As recent as last Friday, I was at a work sponsored event with an all Black affinity group and a spouse of my colleague used the word when jokingly speaking to another man. I was uncomfortable but clearly he doesn’t think of himself as a racist. I don’t think of Paula D as a racist. I just think they are both ignorant and using the limited words in their vocabulary to communicate. Sometimes we have to know when it’s appropriate to get up in arms about something – the SCOTUS decision yesterday was worth us being upset… Paula Deen using the ‘n’ word over 30 years ago – not so much. IJS
I agree with several of the statements here but I must add that I’m not 1) surprised about Paula D using the word, 2) upset that she was honest during a deposition, 3) up in arms and demanding she be fired. She’s an older woman from the South and as a 31 year old woman from smack dab in the center of GA, I don’t quite understand why everyone else is so alarmed. Note: this is solely about the word. The black waiters incident is a-whole-nother beast! As recent as last Friday, I was at a work sponsored event with an all Black affinity group and a spouse of my colleague used the word when jokingly speaking to another man. I was uncomfortable but clearly he doesn’t think of himself as a racist. I don’t think of Paula D as a racist. I just think they are both ignorant and using the limited words in their vocabulary to communicate. Sometimes we have to know when it’s appropriate to get up in arms about something – the SCOTUS decision yesterday was worth us being upset… Paula Deen using the ‘n’ word over 30 years ago – not so much. IJS