Yesterday, my blog idol/play cousin/friend-in-my-head Michele Grant, over at Black n’ Bougie reiterated why I LOVE her blog. The title of my post today is her post from yesterday. While the world, and I literally mean the entire world, tells single, educated, successful (Black) women what we need to do in order to get a man, no one is talking to the men…and I mean nobody. I don’t think Steve Harvey has written a book yet directed towards (Black) men instructing them on what they need to do in order to find that “special, perfect one”. I haven’t seen a book titled, “Why Women Love A–holes” (a play on words to the book “Why Men Love B-tches”). And correct me if I’m wrong, but I haven’t seen a book titled “Make Her Beg to be Your Girlfriend”; yes, there is a book with this similar title-change “Girlfriend” to “Boyfriend”. So my girl Chele gave men a mirror, told them to take a look, and strongly suggested they do a little self-evaluation. To see if they are as great as they would like everyone to think they are. To see if they are bringing to the table what they DEMAND in a mate.
So, I strongly implore all of you to mosey on over and take a look at her post from yesterday. Sometimes, I think Michele and I were separated at birth. She’s Southern, she’s a writer, we share the same last name, and, most importantly, she loves Prince and the color purple (not the movie, but the actual color). Feel free to comment on my blog, her blog, or both. And if you do not read her blog on a regular basis, you are losing in life. Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!
As a whole, men do not read books. When men do you need books, they are less likely to read “self-help” books geared towards helping them find that special someone. The preponderance of get-a-man books is directly related to the fact that women continue to buy them. Stop buying them, people stop writing them, and companies will stop publishing them.
You’re going to have to set your own standards, Elle. Know your worth and the right guy will come. As your girl said, “Water seeks its own level.”