“Guy Week” Is Coming

Earlier this week, my friend/co-worker, we’ll call her Ms. A, and I were having lunch and catching up.  Because we hadn’t spoken in a while, we were doing a catch-up.  And since we’re both single, the topic of men came up.  The conversation took so many turns that I was inspired to do a few blogs.  So, next week, “Guy Week” will be here on Southern Girl in the City!  Blog posts will range from men/women friendships, having certain types of men handy, re-visiting past relationships, and honesty.  I told Ms. A that I will definitely give her credit (so here it is! :)).

I’m so excited for “Guy Week”.  I have some great ideas to share, and I can’t wait to hit “Publish” so you all can see them!

So, enjoy your Easter holiday, stay safe this weekend, and until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Good News!

So, I alluded to deciding whether or not I wanted to take advantage of an opportunity that was presented to me in December of last year. (I totally am overlooking the post that I made reference to this, so just trust I mentioned it on the blog. :))

In any event, I was selected to serve as Ms. DC Exquisite 2013!  I will go on to compete in the Exquisite International Pageant in August.  I am very excited to participate as the Exquisite Pageant focuses more on encouraging women of all ethnicities, shapes, and ages AND community service.  I wanted to participate in this pageant for a number of reasons.  One, who doesn’t like dressing up?  Two, I get to have a platform (“Silent No More: Giving a Voice to Survivors of Domestic Violence”) and hopefully will work with an organization that I learned of in 2012 and am really anxious to volunteer more.  I’ve already set up a Facebook fan page AND a Twitter account! 🙂  You can find the page on Facebook under Ms. DC Exquisite 2013 and on Twitter at @MsDCExq2013.

A blog will be coming soon to follow my reign as Ms. DC Exqusite, so I’ll be sure to share that with my SGITC family!  Once everything is finalized about the crowning ceremony, which will be Sunday, May 19, 2013 in DC, I’ll share that on Facebook and Twitter, so be sure to visit me there!  I’m really stoked that I can share my Southern charm in such a fulfilling way!  And I can look good doing it! 😉  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

I Watch Too Much Drama

Some of my favorite scripted shows currently on television are “Scandal”, “The Walking Dead”, “Law and Order:SVU”, and “Deception”.  Some of my favorite reality shows are “Braxton Family Values”, “Mary Mary”, and “Real Housewives of…” Atlanta AND Beverly Hills.  See a pattern???  I do.  All of these shows are an hour long and can be considered dramas.  While I may be entertained when I watch these shows, I don’t laugh.  Well, the Braxton sisters may get a chuckle out of me every now and then, but for the most part everything is drama, drama, and more drama!  I need to smile and laugh and have fun when I watch a show.

Enter “Real Husbands of Hollywood”.  Honestly, I’m not sure what made we start watching this show.  Well, it could be Boris Kodjoe…  Since BET is trying to switch up its programming, I decided to see what this show along with “Second Generation Wayans” was all about.  RHOH got me the first time I watched it.  In a nutshell, Kevin Hart is hilariously funny.  He is 90% of the reason I watch it each week.  I have never (NEVER) laughed so hard watching a television show.  Honestly, I think it’s the best comedy on right now.

I’ve tried to watch other 30 minute comedies on other channels, and it has not worked out well.  I’m bored, and what I’m seeing is not funny.  Not even a little bit.  “The Game” is coming back on Tuesday, but even that isn’t as funny as it used to be.  And now that the RHOH had its season finale, what am I supposed to watch to make me laugh and bring a little funny to my day?  I’m open to suggestions.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

I Don’t Know, Bey…

*My open letter to Beyonce*

To say I’m a Beyonce fan is an understatement.  To say I’m a Stan might be an overstatement.  But I respect and admire a woman who is poised, talented, beautiful, and humble…well, we may have to re-visit the humble part after the release of your newest song, “Bow Down”.   The woman who sang such girl power anthems as “Survivor” and “Run the World” is now telling b*tches to “bow down”.  And just last month, you wrote the greatest note about how you were so proud to perform next to your girls Kelly and Michelle AND gave props to Jennifer Hudson and Alicia Keys regarding their Super Bowl performances.

We all have haters-and I hate to use that term.  No matter what we do in life, someone is not going to like what we do.  And that’s totally fine.  You aren’t going to please 100% of the people 100% of the time; if you are, something’s wrong.  But who was the song directed towards?  And why put a song like this out now?  You’re 31 years old, a wife, AND a mother.  And not just a mother, but you have a daughter-a little girl that is looking up to you and will one day emulate you.  I could kind of understand if you put this song out on your first album, when you were a little younger and a little cockier and getting your wings as a solo artist.  But to put something out like this now…maybe because you HAVE proved your haters wrong and you HAVE proved that you can do it all.  Sort of like a “look at me now”.  I get it, kind of.  I guess I am just at a point where I don’t really worry too much about what people say about me.  But I’m also not in the public spotlight having every little thing I do scrutinized.  This song doesn’t even sound like you-the beat, the musicality of it all.  I just don’t get it.

When I found out you were coming to DC I was SO excited.  So much so, I rounded up some of my girls, and we went through hell and high water to get tickets.  Now, I’m re-thinking this whole thing.  (Well, not too much since I’ve already paid for my ticket.)  Maybe this is just a mid-career crisis and you felt like you had to get some things off your chest.  I guess I can respect that.  Since your concert is in July, I have about 4 months to get over you telling me to bow down.  I take that back.  I’m not a b*tch, so I will not take that personally since that was not directed towards me.  In the meantime, hopefully with the things that are sure to occur before this summer, I’ll forget about this song and can fully enjoy the Beyonce experience at the Verizon Center.  And if not…it’ll be totally unfortunate-for you and for me.   For you, because you’ve probably lost the support of one of your biggest fans.  For me, because I’ve seen a great woman and entertainer fall just a little.

Your Fellow Southern Girl,


The Usher Complex

The Usher Complex is a term I created approximately 7-8 years ago.  (I should probably get it copyrighted.)  It simply describes a younger man (primarily) dating an older woman.  And yes, the term is named after the singer, whom I used to have THE biggest crush on for most of my high school career.  I came up with the term to describe a college friend of mine who I liked at the time (I’m starting to see a pattern).  I felt that he would not be interested in me because he had “The Usher Complex”; all of the women that he dated were older than us.  I actually think he’s dating an older woman now.

Anywho, this weekend, I was able to hang out with my auntie “Madeline”.  We haven’t seen each other in FOREVER, yet we meshed together like we had just seen each other last week.  We went to see “The Call” (I may do a review), then we went to a housewarming.  A former co-worker of Madeline’s, we’ll call him Ed, just bought a house and invited Madeline.  She invited me as her +1.  Now, I have to say that I met Ed about a year and a half ago.  Madeline was trying to play matchmaker (*deep sigh*, I know) and the three of us, along with 2 other co-workers, went out to happy hour.  Ed and I talked and laughed.  He didn’t show signs that he was interested in me, and we didn’t keep in touch, so he slipped my mind, although Madeline would mention him in passing every now and then.  As we were on our way, Madeline mentioned that Ed’s registration was 4 pages long.  My reponse was, “He totally has a girlfriend.”  Turns out, I was right.  Ed’s girlfriend, we’ll call her Pam, was so pleasant and nice and took it upon herself to complete his 4 page registry.  As Madeline and I were re-capping the party over dinner, we talked about Ed and Pam.  She mentioned that Ed looked a whole lot more polished than the last time she saw him.  She deduced it was because of his girlfriend.  I jokingly said, “Great, so I need to look for a fixer upper?!”  As we laughed, Madeline also made note of Pam being older than Ed.  Ed is about 33; Madeline guessed Pam was at least 40.  I thought she was off, but I’m sure she knows more than me.  So that brought about the discussion of why men date older women.  I had a theory or two, but I could not pinpoint a real reason.  I can deduce why an older man would date a much younger woman and vice versa.  But when it comes to older women/younger men, I draw a blank.  Madeline then proceeded to ask if I would ever date a younger man.  I said the youngest I could go is 25.

Do you have an idea of why younger men date older women…well besides the fact they’re looking for a sugar mama.  Madeline and I couldn’t figure it out, so I decided to come to you guys.  Since I’m not a guy, and I’ve never dated anyone significantly younger than me, I can’t come up with an answer.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!