Just Another Day…

I totally was NOT going to do a Valentine’s Day post this year.  Besides the fact that I’m single and have always been single on this day, I don’t put too much into it…well, minus my post from about 2 years ago.  In any event, something funny happened, and I wanted to share…so here you go!

As I’m going out of town this weekend, I decided to treat myself and spend my night filled with dinner, cupcakes, “The Walking Dead” (From the Beginning) marathon on AMC, a new episode of “Scandal”, washing my hair, and packing for this trip.  (Yes, I know what I said previously about these two shows, but work with me, not against me.)  I’ve talked to Southern Parents in the last 24 hours, with both wishing me a Happy Valentine’s Day and stating a little sumthin’ sumthin’ was in the mail (WIN!), so I’m pretty happy with the day’s events.

No surprise, I start getting texts from boys pasts.  Some I went out with for a spell, some I met through family/friends that were trying to play matchmaker, and some that it just didn’t work out.  Like clockwork, these dudes start sending out their Happy V-Day texts when the sun comes up.  In an effort to sway me from backsliding, TyAnthony sends a text that states (I’ve edited it for content), “Don’t call some random thinking you can rekindle something.  Happy Valentine’s Day.  I love you.”  (I know he’s probably going to kill me for posting this, but he’ll be alright.)  I thought that was THE sweetest thing!  Of course I told him I had too much to do today to worry about some boy from long ago and told him I loved him, too!  It’s great having a male BFF!  And it’s great to see he does have a heart. 🙂

Anywho, enjoy your day.  And if you’re not in a relationship, spoil yourself!  Because if you can’t, how do you expect anybody else to???  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

I Need to Get Out More

We are 43 days into a new year.  I have some goals that I would like to have accomplished by December 31, some that rely on me being disciplined and focused while some rely on the actions of others.  One thing that I would like to see happen sometime this year is that I begin dating one guy on the regular-and dare I say start a relationship.  Clearly I know that I can plan and hope til doomsday, but if it’s not in God’s plan, I can hang this particular goal up.  But, because I have been praying, taking action, and fully believe that God helps those who help themselves, I realize that I need to get out more.

Sure, I go to work and volunteer with two great organizations in DC.  But I don’t think I’ve really gone out to “kick it” in 2013.  And, if I can be frank, the man God has for me is not going to come knocking on my door.  So if I want to meet him and have him find me, I need to be more social.  What am I doing to fill up my social calendar you ask?  Well, I’ll tell you.  Tonight, I am attending a State of the Union Watch Party.  Since I didn’t make it to the Election Night party, the least I can do is attend the SOTU party as a DC resident.  Next, I’m going out of town this weekend with my girls.  We’re heading down South, and I am SO excited!  Next week, I’m attending a networking/philanthropic event.  The great thing about that is that I will be representing one of the organizations that I volunteer with (and I got us on program), so I’m anxious for us to get our name out there and recruit some more volunteers. And please don’t misunderstand-I’m not attending these events to meet men; I’m attending them because I like doing things.  (Meeting Mr. Right would be an added perk.) I am a social butterfly.  But I can’t be too social sitting up in my house watching “Scandal” and “The Walking Dead” all of the time.

At the advice of a great soror, I’ve decided to join some organizations.  Which ones?  I’m not sure yet.  But it will most likely be just one, as I have two orgs and my sorority that take up a lot of time.  But I want to do something fun-and different-and something that interests me.  I’ve already decided that in addition to running, I want to take up boxing.  (I’m taking gym recommendations! :))

Do you need to get out more?  I know I do.  I’m a social butterfly that loves sitting on my couch watching tv.  I’m not sure how that works exactly, but here I am as proof, so I guess anything is possible.  So, it is now my goal to go out at least once a week.  I guess that needs to go on my vision board, too… Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Scandal Re-Cap

This is about to be quick and dirty because I don’t have a lot of time…

I am in “Scandal” OVERLOAD!!!!  Last night’s episode was definitely a game changer!  And after last week’s lackluster episode where I was completely underwhelmed, this episode MORE than made up for it.  I’ll just share some quick highlights from last night.

– Cyrus Bean is a MONSTER!  He is crazy and deranged.  I knew he would have Charlie get James if need be, just so he could have his power.  Dude, politics ain’t no joke… It’s crystal clear that Cyrus will do whatever it takes to keep himself comfortable and living the life he feels he deserves.

– That darn Verna.  I totally didn’t see that one coming.  It still doesn’t make sense to me why she would want Fitz to be dead.  Having him killed does nothing.  But maybe it’s as she told Olivia-she doesn’t have a conscience.  And she was going to tell David Rosen EVERYTHING and leave their lives in shambles.  Welp, I guess Fitz took care of that… (More on that in a minute.)

– I think Edison gets it now.  Olivia does not want to be with him.  It appears that I am in the minority about not wanting Edison and Olivia together, because a lot of people are upset that they are officially over.  Now she is free and clear to open up and offer her heart to another, which is what I’ve wanted all along.

– What in all of the heck did Quinn think $5,000 was going to do???  (Do I really need to say more?)  I am glad to see that Huck is developing a heart and convinced Quinn to do the right-especially when we ALL saw his eyes light up like a Christmas tree when Quinn said the word “kill”.

– Oh, Harrison, the loyal, dependable, ask-no-questions, gets-it-done Harrision.  Shonda, girl, friend, homey, can Harrison PLEASE get a girl, a life, SOMETHING besides being at Pope & Associates all the time?  Point blank-Columbus Short needs more screen time.  I wasn’t sure how this was going to work, but I am thoroughly impressed with the actor he is becoming.

-Well, the President has become the Fixer… I thought something fishy was going on when Fitz opened the door and screamed, “She’s not breathing!”  I was thinking, “What the heck happened in that room?”  I guess Verna decided she was going to go out telling EVERYBODY’S business and leave them all to clean up a mess.  Fitz did not let that happen.  So, I’m not sure how I feel about him being a murderer, even though Verna tried to have him killed. Maybe it was revenge?  I’m not sure, but Fitz has cemented his place in history and will not let his image be tarnished.  Some people are wondering why he’s PISSED at Liv but is all Team Mellie now.  It’s pretty simple-His marriage to Mellie was one of convenience and political gain.  With Olivia, there was a relationship.  He trusted her.  And the fact that she agreed to rigging the election let him know that she did not have faith in him.  That she didn’t trust that he could actually win the election.  Most importantly, even though I’m sure it’s been said ad nauseum since last night, the husband does NOT leave his wife for his mistress.

I have to admit, I sat on my couch about 10 minutes after the show was over trying to digest everything I saw.  Now that this series of unfortunate events has been wrapped up, it will be interesting to see what happens 10 months later on Thursday’s show.  What do you guys think: Great show last night?  Too much going on?  So-so?  Feel free to share!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Is Black History Month Still Relevant?

In a word, yes.  Today’s generation of children, tweens, and teenagers are so far removed from the ills that were suffered at the hands of segregation and racism.  I’m only one generation removed from attending segregated schools.  I have been called the “N” word and not by my homeboy/girl while we playing around or playing rap music.

Just because we’re grown or some people think racism doesn’t excist anymore doesn’t mean we still shouldn’t be made aware of the contributions made by Africans and African-Americans.  We’re inventors-we’re educators-we’re leaders-we’re politicians-we’re royalty.  I think people, especially our young people, forget that.  How many of us have heard of Garrett A. Morgan, Queen Nefertiti, Ethel Waters, Langston Hughes, Tutankhaten (better known as King Tut), or Shirley Chisolm?  We may have heard of them, but do we know the significant roles they played in this world?

When I was in the fifth grade, Southern mom ordered a series of books for me that related to notable Blacks.  (It’s my desire to pass them down to Southern children whenever I have them.)  There were about 10 books in the set, and each one discussed famous inventors, musicians, politicians, doctors, etc.  In middle school, we had do a report on a famous person.  As I figured most of my black classmates would choose Martin Luther King, Jr. or Malcolm X, the only 2 Black people that everyone seemed to mention when discussing Black History.  I chose Duke Ellington.  I dared to be different and to educate my teacher on someone she may not have known about (at least that’s what I thought in my 13 year old, egotistical mind :)).  I did get an A on that project.  I even did a paper on the Black Panther Party.  I believe I received an A on that assignment as well.

I took it upon myself, and still take it upon myself, to learn all I could about Black history.  I will never know everything, so why would I force myself to stop learning?  Black History is still being made.  We have Women’s History Month, Asian Heritage Month, and even Native American Heritage Month.  These months are not becoming obsolete, and neither is Black History Month.

Even as a child, I took it upon myself to educate those around me.  And I think I did a pretty good job.  I still continue to do the same thing today.  (Sometimes I think I really should have gone into the family “business” and become an educator!)  In an unofficial way, I am educating people-my readers, my followers, my friends.  But just because it’s 2013 doesn’t mean we stop learning about Black people; it also doesn’t mean that we stop striving to reach new heights and do great and awesome things to make some history ourselves.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Today’s Black History Month Fact: The Stono Rebellion commenced on September 9, 1739 in South Carolina and was the largest slave revolt in the British mainland colonies before the American Revolution.  In response to the rebellion, the South Carolina legislature passed the Negro Act of 1740, which prohibited the education, assembly, and movement of slaves.

Weekend Recap

So many things have happened since Friday that I have to put it all in one post, lest I drag everything out.  This post may be a little lengthy and reminiscent of when I first started this blog.  You’ve been warned…

First, a HUGE congratulations to the Baltimore Ravens!!!  They are my #2 team, after the Jaguars, of course.  I’m kinda mad that I didn’t take any pictures last night in my Ray Lewis shirt… And no matter WHERE I go, it’s always the old men that end of talking to me…but I digress.  It was an awesome game!  I almost thought that Baltimore was gonna mess around and let San Francisco come back like they did during the NFC Championship against Atlanta.  But Ray, Joe, and them held them off (barely) to win Super Bowl XLVII!  All in all, it was a great game to watch, and I stayed at the party until the end, even though my girls left me high and dry!

Next, can we talk about Beyonce?!?!  Now, I’m a HUGE Queen Bey fan, but treating her like an idol (Beysus) is NOT hot!  I’m about to start quoting scripture, but you guys know what the Bible says about “…not having any other gods before me…”  I was excited to see Kelly and Michelle on stage with her as well.   Of course, I’m making plans to see her when she comes to DC on July 29.  I’ve already got my crew together, and I’m SUPER excited!  I’ll be playing the Beyonce Station all day on Pandora! (I just hope I don’t start singing out loud at my desk…)  I also cannot forget Alicia Keys singing the National Anthem and Jennifer Hudson performing during the Pre-game Show.  I felt so inspired seeing these talented Black women perform on a large, international stage.  (And yes, I know we are not a fan of some of the personal choices that Ms. Keys has made, but this is a time of positivity.  Plus, who am I to judge???)  And speaking of feeling inspired…

I was in AWE on Friday evening watching the 44th Annual NAACP Image Awards.  I made a conscience effort (and decision) to sit down and watch this awards show.  And I’m glad I did.  Kerry Washington (my girl) racked up, Harry Belafonte is untouchable, AND Diahann Carroll is still amazing at 77!  As a senior in high school, I made a decision and stated that I would not become a member of the NAACP due to their tourism boycott of the state of South Carolina. Even though the boycott is still in effect, I stated this weekend that I would consider joining the NAACP.  Watching the awards ceremony made me so proud and excited to be a Black American.  To see the accomplishments of my people from the past and the present brought joy to my heart.  Tears were brought to my eyes as I heard Diahann Carroll speak about Kerry Washington as the younger actress was presented with the President’s Award.  I was ecstatic to see Vice Admiral Michelle Howard win the Chairman’s Award; watching her story made me think of two of my favorite Black, female sailors-my “auntie” Madeline and my other play aunt/mother/friend and soror “Queen Tutt”. 🙂  And hearing about the things that Mr. Belafonte has done and continues to do in this country, specifically for young Black boys, made me realize that WE all could stand to do a little more to better our communities.  And hearing him speak about the ills still affecting our people showed a passion and truth that not too many of us are willing to face.

So, all in all, this weekend was great.  And busy…  But I won’t complain.  What were some of your favorite moments from the weekend?  Did you catch any of the big shows?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Today’s Black History Fact:  In 1899, African-American golf fan Dr. George Franklin Grant received a patent for the world’s first golf tee. Grant, however, never marketed his invention, instead giving the tees away to friends and fellow golfers. (Shout out to Southern Dad and Southern Uncles for being avid golfers BEFORE there was a Tiger Woods. :))