Black Girls Hack

My friend, kat calvin, (I call her Kelley) is hosting an awesome, new event in Atlanta this weekend!  If you’re in the tech or non-profit industries and you’re near the A, it would be awesome if you could attend!  You get free food and libations, networking opportunities, and awesome swag!  All sponsor proceeds from the event go to Black Girls Code, which is a non-profit focused on introducing computer science, technology, and the STEM community to young girls of color.  The two great things about this event is that you get 24 hours to come be a part of all of this fabulousness, and it’s FREE!  That’s right, if you are a designer, coder, or you just want to see what this whole tech thing is about, you get all of this great stuff for free!  How often does THAT happen???  So go here to sign up.  And if you can’t make it until midnight on Friday, that’s fine, because they will still be there! 

So, go support my friend, take advantage of meeting new people, and enjoy food, drinks, music, and the opportunity to win free stuff! 🙂  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

* To find out more about Black Girls Code and Black Girls Hack, visit them on the web at and


This weekend, I watched the movie “Catfish”, which follows a young man that met a woman on the internet and his quest to meet her in person.  Since I never catch movies when they first start, I missed how they initially met, but the watching his story unfold was intriguing.

As someone that has dated online, I have to admit my biggest fear was that I would meet someone that was totally not the person with which I had been corresponding.  Unfortunately for our friend, Nev, that’s exactly what happened.  He believed that he was talking with this cute, bubbly, twenty-something year old girl.  He even spoke to her mother and younger sister.  Come to find out, he was speaking with a 40 something year old woman who had a boyfriend.  Not to completely give the movie away, but after travelling thousands of miles, Nev discovered this woman went to very elaborate lengths to hide her deception.  She stole pictures on social media, created multiple Facebook pages, and even had two cell phones. 

MTV is premiering a new show tonight inspired by the movie.  And of course, Nev is the host.  Since it comes on so late, I seriously doubt I’ll stay up to watch it. Maybe I’ll catch it On Demand.

I know of multiple people that have found love over the web.  And I also know of people who found nightmares.  I feel really bad for Nev because he thought he found this amazing girl, and she turned out to be a fraud.  And fradulent people can be found in real-life and on the internet, unfortunately.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

Scandal…and Other Happenings

If you follow me on Twitter or we’re friends IRL (or at least on Facebook), then you know that I have been OBSESSED with “Scandal” since it premiered earlier this year.  First, I’m a fan of Kerry Washington.  I love EVERYTHING that she does, from “Lift” to “She Hate Me” to “For Colored Girls”.  Kerry is an amazing actress, and I think her starring in a Shonda Rhimes show is fantastic.

If you have not been watching “Scandal”, you are missing out.  Lucky for you, it’s still early in its existence, so you can catch up before next week’s episode.  Last night’s episode was by far my favorite. And I said the same thing two weeks ago, which proves this show is getting better and better.  Even Southern Mom is a fan!

I just had to share with you all that you really should be watching this show.  You have NO idea what you’re missing.  It’s probably the best show on television right now.

Lastly, Benevole, the non-profit I work with in DC, is hosting “Be a Hero” on Veterans’ Day, November 12, which is this Monday.  The event benefits Heroes Place, which is a non-profit that works with low-income and homeless veterans.  From 12-4 pm, we will be at Heroes Place (1204 Queen St. NE) collecting business suits (for men and women) and toiletries to assist their clients.  Veterans have given so much for our country, and there is no reason why they should struggle once they’ve served.  I, and the Benevole team, hope you will come out on Monday and drop off a few items.  I know some of you need to clean out your closets.  So go ahead and bring your suits!  And if you are unable to come but would like to donate, you may do so here.  I hope you all have an awesome weekend, and until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Four More Years…

To say that I am happy that President Obama won re-election is the understatement of the century.  To say that I am happy that the 2012 Election Season is over is the 2nd understatement of the century.  I was SO tired of seeing commercials related to Virginia politics and amendments, Maryland amendments, AND presidential ads.  Now, to move onward…

Unfortunately for Republicans who in 2010 stated their main focus was to make President Obama a one term president, that is not a reality.  He is going to be around for 4 more years.  If elected officials REALLY and TRULY cared about the American people, they would do as Mr. Romney suggested in his concession speech-cross party lines and make this about people and not politics.  The only way to move this country forward is to work together.  Put whatever it is behind you to ensure that America is a country that continues to prosper.  It’s time to put all of this juvenile, petty, old-world thinking behind us and to come together as a country.

I implore all of you to reach out to your elected officials by writing a letter, an e-mail, or even visiting them.  When you go to them, voice the concerns that you have and that affect you and your family.  Don’t let them do what they want to do.  They are in office and work FOR YOU.  If an elected official is too busy to talk to you, they may not be the right person for the job.  You should at least be able to speak to someone in their office.   If your representative isn’t making the decisions that benefit you, do not re-elect them.  One thing that I think Americans take for granted and gloss over is the elections of our state and local leaders.

Arrogance nevers win.  Being respectful to your counterpart is key.  Working on a compromise is essential.  These principles not only works in politcs and government; they work in real life, too.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

PS  Can I just say a big “CONGRATULATIONS!” to my cousin that won his town council seat in Hilton Head, SC?!?!?  We are so proud of you, Marc, and know you will do great things! 🙂

I’m Off the Market

I know by the title of this post you probaly think that I have great news about being swept off my feet by a charming, sexy, ambitious guy.  Well, I can assure you that is NOT the case.

Being single can be sucky.  But dating can be even suckier.  The latest two experiences I’ve had in the dating game have made me come to the conclusion that I’m done. Finshed. Fin. It’s over.  I’m done dating.  While my latest Adventures in Dating are totally not alike, they both have made me come to the realization that I would rather be by myself than deal with the issues of dating. 

We’ll start with the bad first.  Although I wasn’t initially attracted to Guy A, he seemed like he could be a cool dude to have around.  Plus, he was tall.  Well, sugar turned to shat real quick.  He was clingy, uncomprising, and insecure.  Most importantly, he lived 45 minutes from my house.  And ya’ll KNOW how I feel about dudes living outside the Beltway.  After one too many arguments (yes, we were arguing, and I don’t argue with folks), I had had enough.  It seems as if homeboy can’t take a hint, even after I told him to lose my number and ignored e-mails and text messages.  He even called me last night.  I’ll be taking people’s advice and adding his number in my contacts as “DNA”. 

Guy B had SO much promise.  He was Southern, a gentleman, and chivalrous.  He didn’t bat an eye when I said I wanted to be courted.  My hand never touched a door handle when we went out.  Most importantly, he seemed like he could be an awesome friend.  I jokingly told my BFF TyAnthony that he was being replaced.  Clearly, I spoke too soon.  Once again, sugar turned to shat.  After starting off at 100, things went to 0 in the blink of an eye-without any warning.  I noticed that I was the one initiating dialogue; initially homeboy was calling me in the morning on the way to work AND in the evening.  And while our last conversation was amazing, we haven’t spoken in a week.   One of my biggest pet peeves is when dudes talk about what they want to do (with you) in the future but then disappear. 

Some people are unlucky in love.  And I have come to the conclusion that I am one of those people.  I’m going to do what I was supposed to be doing a month ago-start studying for the GMAT and training for this half-marathon (I still don’t know how I let my cousin talk me into running…) 

In a nutshell, I’m not available.  I will not be partaking in any drinks, dinner, or any other type of outing with a romantic overture for awhile.  I’m not sure how long-but it will probably be time for an election until I go on another date. (Don’t worry, it’ll be a mid-term election.)  I would like to say the rest of my life, but I doubt that will happen.  TyAnthony did ask if Guy B came back in the picture would I entertain him.  I said probably not.  I’m truly over this whole dating thing.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.