The Numbers Game

If you’re human, you’ve dated someone at some point in your life.  And you’ve probably broken up with/stopped talking to at least one person.  So what do you do with their number/e-mail/contact info?

I’ve been told NUMEROUS times that you should NEVER delete a dude’s number from your phone.  Why?  Because at some point in the future, he’s going to reach back and call or text you to say, “What’s up?”, and so you won’t be caught off guard, you need to know it’s him.  I can say unequivocally that that has happened to me.  Just last week, on the same d*mn day, 3 (yes THREE) dudes called/texted me.  Two of the dudes were the ones I made reference to in this post. The other dude was the guy in Case # 1 from this post.  (I know you all must be thinking this girl is on a roll.)  Now, with the first dudes, even though I told one of them to lose my number and the other one I said I would not talk to again, I totally understand their calling me as things ended kinda recently.  The third guy-not so much.  We haven’t seen each other in over a year and haven’t talked in at least 4 months.  I think he called just to tell me he moved away 2 months ago.  But who cares?  We haven’t talked in forever. Now, in regards to their numbers.  I have deleted two and kept one but for very different reasons.

First, with the number I do have-Guy A from my post on the 6th. I have no desire to talk to him again.  But because he has a penchant for calling me (even after I told him to kick rocks), I have to save it so I know it’s him.  I got caught off guard and answered when my phone rang two weeks ago.  That won’t happen again.

Guy B… I have to admit, even though I told TyAnthony that I wouldn’t want to date him if he called me back, there is a little bit of something in me that hopes he gets his act together and starts being consistent again.  His number is deleted because I do not want to be tempted to call him.  I mean, I find it SO hard to believe that God would bring this dude into my atmosphere just for him to turn out to be unreliable and somewhat of a jerk. But as I also told Ty, I could probably hang out with him on a platonic level as we could’ve been friends (before he started disappearing just to pop back up and became unreliable).

Now, the guy from Case # 1- in the beginning when we stopped seeing each other, I was tired of the merry go round and didn’t want to be tempted to call him on a bored and lonely night.  At this point in time, I have no desire or reason to call him.  I’ve come to the conclusion that he and I want different things, and there’s no need for me to have his number in my phone.  (Growth is a beautiful thing, because 5 years ago I was singing a totally different tune.)

So, what do you guys do?  Do you keep the number of loves long gone?  Or do you throw them out with last week’s trash?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!


  1. Hah. All the numbers are gone. Deleted. I have moved on. If I get caught off guard, I’ll just block them from going there twice. I didn’t have time for “go backs”. Either know I’m worth it the first time or keep stepping. I learned that lesson the hard way when I tried to recapture something and it was clear we had both changed. I changed for the better. He changed into the dogs he tried to emulate.

  2. I completely did away with those (when I was single, so don’t trip). Even the people I remained friends with…there was a reason why we weren’t together anymore. It wasn’t even a temptation thing (remember #$$ is free…you can get it anywhere), but because that was a closed chapter in my book of life.

  3. Goodness gracious – you people KEEP those numbers? I say good riddance to them! If I don’t recognize the number, I don’t answer it and frequently don’t listen to the messages either. I don’t want those old numbers cluttering up my phone or having to look at their names either. You must be on MUCH better terms with your exes than I am with mine.

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