As promised, today we hear from Ms. Toni and Bishop Williams (clearly not his real name).
And for those of you wondering, yes, I have my own thoughts, which I will share with you at the conclusion of this series. 🙂
Ms. Toni is a single, 38 year old woman originally from Saginaw, MI that now resides in Beltsville, MD.
I am a plus size woman. In other terms I am overweight. Obese to be factual, but I don’t have any weight related medical issues (Diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol etc). I like who I am and although there are a few things I’d like to change, for the most part, I enjoy my body. When I see another overweight/ obese person (depending on how he is shaped), yes, I find some of them very attractive. If asked if you are attracted to overweight/plus size people, a lot of people shirk at the idea. That’s why I believe they came up with alternative names for larger people– Plush, Thick, Soft, Big Boned. They use these terms in order to not just say the harsh reality. “I’m attracted to heavier people.” Some will even say they prefer a fit, slimmer person, but when no one is looking they are really undercover “chubby chasers” – winking at and admiring the large confident person walking by. I also believe that this question is equivalent to asking if you like sugar cookies or chocolate chip; everyone has their preference, and you can’t get mad at their answer.
Because of my size, I like to look at a man and feel like we would have a great wrestling match in the bedroom, without any worry of me squishing him. I also enjoy the feeling when I snuggle up with a big man. Having a live Teddy Bear works for my smile! I do need to clarify- I enjoy dating plus size, confident men who have pride in themselves. A well groomed, nice smelling big boy with confidence in his walk will have me walking over smiling, asking “How you doin’?!” *Wendy Williams voice* So not only have I dated plus size men in the past, I prefer it. I’m a Big and Tall men’s store stalker. But again, it all depends on how his body is shaped.
Because I don’t want to incur any weight related health issues I try to stay semi-active. Not necessarily a gym rat but I’ll take a good walk, climb stairs, and dance around to cut out the huffing and puffing during normal movement. Would I push my health ideals of what he needs to do on him? No. I would let him know what I am doing and ask him to join me. The choice is entirely his. But, if I see some weight related issues going on (sleep apnea, heavy breathing, irregular sweating, etc.) I’d suggest for him to seek a doctor’s opinion/care. If I notice that he grossly eats, I’d encourage him to make a few changes to his diet along with me and again, it’s his choice.
So to sum this up, I love a plus size man. As long as he is well groomed, confident, shaped well, and based on how he views and takes care of his health.
Bishop Williams is a single, 29 year old man that currently lives in his hometown of Houston, TX.
This question for me is not a yes or no answer. With that being said, my answer is, “It depends.” I can’t say that I am not or never have been attracted to some overweight women, but when it comes to dating, I do prefer a smaller woman. That is not to say I would not ever date an overweight woman, but she’d just have to get my attention in another way first. I like pretty women, first and foremost, so if I meet an overweight woman with a pretty face, she has a chance. Now let me clarify that a pretty face is just a start. If she has the right attitude and a nice personality among other things that I look for, then we can talk. Now in order for us to get serious, with all things being equal, I’d have to see a concerted effort on her part to live healthy (eating, drinking, exercising and sleeping), which will ultimately bring her down to her optimum weight. The primary reason that overall health and appearance are a big deal to me in terms of a mate is because they are a big deal to me personally. I would not ask a mate to do anything that I wouldn’t do or am already doing. I personally think overall health is important from a physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional standpoint. The physical, in my opinion, somewhat serves as a window for one to see what may be going on inside and/or behind the scenes. And yes, if I did meet an overweight woman whom I clicked with, I would do my part to encourage her to live healthy, but only if she made it up in her mind that that is what she wants to do.
Thanks to Ms. Toni and Bishop Williams! (Did ya’ll see how short his response was?!?! Kidding!) Be sure to comment folks. I know you ALL have an opinion. Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!
Confidence is VERY important. The whole shy and standoffish thing only works for a select group of people. That being said, I will flirt with a confident woman of size, but I won’t holla. I just cannot do it. No shade to the larger sisters. I have at least 2 friends who are all about women of size. To each his or her own.