For someone who wanted to COMPLETELY cancel my birthday celebration weekend, I had an AMAZE balls time! My girls came in town, I travelled the city, partied it up, and was even surprised by my BFF (that lives in Chicago) at Sunday brunch, although he told me he wasn’t going to be able to make it to DC for the weekend.
I have to admit, though, over the past few days, I feel a bit more at peace. It’s like a calm has come over me that I’ve never felt before. And yes, I know it’s only been 3 days, but I think I may like 30.
I don’t know what it is about my friend J.R. and I, but our lives have become more parellel over the past few months. And after a long discussion after happy hour last night, she gave me some sage advice-Enjoy the gray. Let me explain.
There’s a young lad that has caught my attention, and although I think there’s something there on his side, J.R. told me to stay in the gray and let things happen. For those of you that know me, you know I LIVE in the black and white. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. If you feel something, say so. But…I will heed her warning and fall back. And it’s not like I’ll never see this guy again; I mean, we do volunteer for the same non-profit.
So, I’m 30. I feel like I’m in a place where I can really start to enjoy my life, have fun, and be independent. I can go on vacations, travel home, or stay in my own house watching “Living Single” re-runs eating Pop Secret. If things are slated to go up from here, then I think 30’s alright with me. I’m happy…and no one’s going to take that from me. Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!
Southern Girl in the City 
I’m glad you had a good birthday!
I love your friends advice of stayin in the ‘gray’. I think sometimes we as women do too much too soon and it can make guys a little nervous. If we can learn to relax a bit and just live in the moment, we may be surprised that the ride can be just as enjoyable as the destination!
Thanks, Adrianne! You’re right. For the most part, we women try to do too much. But I think there are those instances where our women’s intuition kicks in, and we know 2+2 does not equal 4, which incidentally was happening in this situation. I delved a little further and found out some interesting information about this young man and his situation. This discovery has caused me to no longer want to pursue anything more than a working relationship with him. In this case, I’m extremely proud of myself for asking the hard questions upfront. It’s better to know and not be in the dark.