Being More Active

I’ve been away from social media and the gossip of the internet for awhile.  I’m also behind on my favorite blog. (I caught up a little bit last night!)  As I logged on to Facebook to wish Southern Mom a “Happy Birthday!”, I saw a link for Demetria Lucas’ (aka A Belle in Brooklyn) column on “Real Talk”.  Today’s topic discusses Boris Kodjoe and #FatExcuses.

Demetria goes on to discuss how Boris came under fire this weekend for his tweet saying he had nightmares about 300 pound women in thongs eating fried chicken grinding on him.  He went on to site statistics about Black women and how a large population of us are obese.  Of course, people got offended, but you can’t shoot the messenger.  The truth hurts.  And I should know; everytime my mom talks to me about getting more active, I balk.  I look at myself in the mirror or in pictures and cringe sometimes.  I’ve said more times than I can count, “This is the biggest I’ve been” when referring to my current weight.  But do I actively do anything about it?  Right now, no.  Before, I was afraid to say I’m fat.  And my friends don’t tell me I’m fat, either.  They say I’m thick or have a nice size, if they comment on my size at all.  After seeing a picture  of myself from a friend’s birthday party on Friday, I can honestly say that I am FAT!

I can thank my neighbor for going out with me last week and walking around our neighborhood so we could get in some exercise and fresh air.   I’m taking a stand to be more active, and I want you guys to hold me accountable.  When I finish with this post, I’m going to get up and go outside for a walk, at least 30 minutes.  And to help, I’ll even post pics of my progression, via the blog or Twitter.  So if you want to help or even JOIN me in being more active, feel free to communicate with me via e-mail ( or Twitter (  Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.  I’m going to stop being insane; how about you?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

*To read Demetria’s article, go here*


  1. I think that we as friend try to be P.C and try not to hurt the feelings of our friends. When in reality, they should be the ones that tell a person the hard truth. If I am doing wrong, if i need to take a step back, or as you said “if I am putting on a couple of pounds”.

    I hope that whatever your goal is in weight/size. You reach it ma..


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