The Growing Empire that is “Basketball Wives”

It seems like everybody and their mama (or their baby’s mama) is showing up on the growing franchise that is “Basketball Wives”.  Shaunie O’Neal and Shed Media hit a reality tv gold mine with the creation of this show.  And if you’re  a reality tv junkie like me, I’m sure you watched “Basketball Wives: LA” this past Monday.  The one good thing I can say about this show is that it has a one uppance on its predecessor-more of the women are wives or actually involved with a current NBA player.  These chicks in Miami have been “formerly linked to (insert name of a retired player)”.  But, just like their cohorts in the F-L-A, these women love to fight.  For an educated woman, Laura Govan, former fiancee’ and baby mama of 4 to Gilbert Arenas, is slick at the mouth and is quick to fight.  And Compton born and bred Malaysia is not one to back down.

In any event, is this what we have been reduced to as Black women?  Bitter exes who will do whatever it takes to be on television to get a few bucks?  I guess I can’t knock Shaunie’s hustle, but I can say that these women give others a bad name.  I’m no expert, but I’m sure not all NBA girlfriends and wives behave the way these women do and these women are the exception, not the rule.  But I have to wonder how accurate I am when Allison Mathis, baby mama to Chris Bosh, is in talks to appear on the next season of BBW.  It appears that the new thing is to date/get pregnant/engaged to a baller to become famous.  It doesn’t take talent or a real work ethic to get ahead in this country, which is highly unfortunate.

So, I’m sure those of you (well, us) who tuned in this past Monday to catch the premiere of BBW: LA will tune in next week to watch the tomfoolery.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

P.S. And as much smack as Gloria talked about Shaunie, I am not surprised she turned up on the spinoff (and is turning into Shaunie’s mini-me)!

Last Week in the News

I first must make a retraction and an apology.  It appears that Will and Jada are NOT separating!  Can I mention that I am extremely happy that the break-up rumors were false.  So, I officially take back the news from last week when I mentioned that the Smiths were breaking up and apologize to them and their families.  Pressing on…

Well, it’s officially! Beyonce is PREGGERS!!!! I’m SO excited!  No, I’m not a big fan (yet) of “4”, but it is growing on me, just like her belly is about grow over the next few months! 🙂 (I know, corny joke.)  I am truly happy for Beyonce and Hov, but I wonder why she decided to make the big “announcement” on the VMAs.  Thank goodness I’m on Twitter; that’s how I heard the big news. 

Well, I survived TWO natural disasters in one week.  Hurricane Irene didn’t do that much damage in the DC area, thank God, but I was without power for almost 24 hours.  Millions of people are without power in the NE, so we must pray for them and hope their lives are restored quickly!

People are buzzing about Lil Wayne’s video for “How to Love”.  Yes, Weezy made a poignant and touching video to show what happens when we abuse our children, especially our daughters, and expose them to unhealthy relationships and situations, then he showed the flip side of what happens when you take care of your children and show them true love.  But a lot of people are up in arms because does one video negate all of the bad things that Wayne has done in the past?  I have to say no. 

So, that’s all I’ve got for you today.  Oh, on the job front, I had a great interview last week; just waiting for the follow-up call or e-mail.  🙂 So keep me in your prayers!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

*If you missed Beyonce’s performance on the VMAs, check it out at!

The Fashionable Life

Ladies of the DMV and surrounding areas (and to those that need a little “Me” time), I present to you and event that was designed by women and made for women.  We always need a little get-away, complete with our girlfriends, wine, manis, fashion, make-up, and the like.  So, I present to you, The Fashionable Life.  This is the official kick-off to your Fall season, and this is an event you don’t want to miss!

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The Fashionable Life will attract the trendy, chic professional women of the DMV.  The evening will consist of complimentary cocktails, delectable food, image consulting, makeovers, manicures, and live music provided by OC Notes.  Vendors for the evening include MAC Cosmetics, philosophy, Bobbi Brown, Nail Taxi, Joyful Creations, Yves Saint Laurent, and many more.  Sponsors include Uniquely Dynamic, Ladies DC, Charity Chicks, and A Lacey Perspective.

Date: Thursday, September 8, 2011

Time: 6-9 pm

Location: Hilyer Arts Space, 9 Hilyer Court NW, Washington, DC 20008


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My 1st Earthquake and Other Tuesday Happenings

As a Southerner, born and raised, and a DC resident, I NEVER expected in a million years to experience an earthquake on this side of the country.  A hurricane, a snow storm, possibly a tornado, but NEVER was an earthquake on my radar.  So imagine my surprise when my building started to shake yesterday.  I was home, minding my own business, baking some chops, and then my house started to move…and wouldn’t stop.  The shakes were accompanied by a noise that got louder and louder.  The only casualty was a beautiful black elephant a former co-worker gave me as a gift.  😦  I loved that daggone elephant,  I just hope I can replace it.  It didn’t dawn on me that what I experienced was an earthquake until I got online and checked Twitter.  (I know, social media.)  Thankfully, there were not any human lives lost or injured.  I was very happy that I was not on a bridge.  I would have been scared out of my mind. 

So, I went to my PT job last night and was asked to sit in the Security office for a spell. “Why?” you may ask; well, I’ll tell you.  There was a young lady who was in custody for shoplifting, and they needed a woman in the office until a parent came to pick her up.  As I was trying to appear that I wasn’t paying attention, my heart broke seeing this young girl, in her school uniform, sitting on a bench with handcuffs on her.  It took everything in me to not react when I first walked in and saw what I saw.  I do have to commend the head of security as he talked to her and tried to tell her the error of her ways.  It seemed as if she was a good kid who got caught up.  Unfortunately, kids stealing (or trying to steal) for my job is nothing new, but I was happy that I was able to witness him imparting some wisdom on this young girl.  I just hope she gets it. 

Yesterday was filled with too many emotions.  After a good night’s rest, I feel much better.  And the highlight of my day yesterday?  I got called for an interview, which will be this afternoon!  So say a prayer and wish me luck!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

My Rant for the Day

First things first- Can I say that I am beyond SHOCKED that news has surfaced Will and Jada have separated????  Yes, I know that I don’t know them, but let’s be real.  We hold celebrities to certain statuses in our lives, especially when it comes to relationships. weight, looks, money, etc.  And it seemed that the Smiths had it together-a beautiful family, talented kids, businesses, both were currently working.  I know more than a few of us thought that Will and Jada were the epitome of Black Love, right up there with Ossie and Ruby, Angela and Courtney, Bill and Camille, the list goes on.  I know it’s NOT going to happen, but we should leave the Smiths alone during this very personal matter. 

Next up, I saw “The Help” last Sunday.  While I appreciate my girls inviting me out and having a bang-up Sunday night, I really don’t know my thoughts on the movie.  I had no desire to see the film, but I didn’t have any plans (and they changed the time they were going just for me), so I decided to go.  “The Help” was an enjoyable film, but I don’t know if I liked it.  Honestly, I have to see it again before I can do a real Southern Girl Review.

I bought Beyonce’s “4” about a week after it came out.  I am probably once of the biggest Bey Stans there is, but I don’t think I’m a fan.  As I told a friend, I’m not a Ballad Beyonce fan (think “Listen”); I like more up-tempo, dance hits (think “Single Ladies”).  And since her newest album is more ballads, I wasn’t feeling it.  I have been listening to it more with the intent to give the album an honest listening to and determination in my opinion.  As of today, the jury’s still out. 

So, that’s my rant for the day.  No rhyme or reason, no logic.  Just my thoughts on some things that are going on in pop culture.  And for those of you who know how I feel about the Kardashians, I purposefully did not discuss Kim and Kris’ nuptials this weekend.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern Girl…in the city!