The Growing Empire that is “Basketball Wives”

It seems like everybody and their mama (or their baby’s mama) is showing up on the growing franchise that is “Basketball Wives”.  Shaunie O’Neal and Shed Media hit a reality tv gold mine with the creation of this show.  And if you’re  a reality tv junkie like me, I’m sure you watched “Basketball Wives: LA” this past Monday.  The one good thing I can say about this show is that it has a one uppance on its predecessor-more of the women are wives or actually involved with a current NBA player.  These chicks in Miami have been “formerly linked to (insert name of a retired player)”.  But, just like their cohorts in the F-L-A, these women love to fight.  For an educated woman, Laura Govan, former fiancee’ and baby mama of 4 to Gilbert Arenas, is slick at the mouth and is quick to fight.  And Compton born and bred Malaysia is not one to back down.

In any event, is this what we have been reduced to as Black women?  Bitter exes who will do whatever it takes to be on television to get a few bucks?  I guess I can’t knock Shaunie’s hustle, but I can say that these women give others a bad name.  I’m no expert, but I’m sure not all NBA girlfriends and wives behave the way these women do and these women are the exception, not the rule.  But I have to wonder how accurate I am when Allison Mathis, baby mama to Chris Bosh, is in talks to appear on the next season of BBW.  It appears that the new thing is to date/get pregnant/engaged to a baller to become famous.  It doesn’t take talent or a real work ethic to get ahead in this country, which is highly unfortunate.

So, I’m sure those of you (well, us) who tuned in this past Monday to catch the premiere of BBW: LA will tune in next week to watch the tomfoolery.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

P.S. And as much smack as Gloria talked about Shaunie, I am not surprised she turned up on the spinoff (and is turning into Shaunie’s mini-me)!

Last Week in the News

I first must make a retraction and an apology.  It appears that Will and Jada are NOT separating!  Can I mention that I am extremely happy that the break-up rumors were false.  So, I officially take back the news from last week when I mentioned that the Smiths were breaking up and apologize to them and their families.  Pressing on…

Well, it’s officially! Beyonce is PREGGERS!!!! I’m SO excited!  No, I’m not a big fan (yet) of “4”, but it is growing on me, just like her belly is about grow over the next few months! 🙂 (I know, corny joke.)  I am truly happy for Beyonce and Hov, but I wonder why she decided to make the big “announcement” on the VMAs.  Thank goodness I’m on Twitter; that’s how I heard the big news. 

Well, I survived TWO natural disasters in one week.  Hurricane Irene didn’t do that much damage in the DC area, thank God, but I was without power for almost 24 hours.  Millions of people are without power in the NE, so we must pray for them and hope their lives are restored quickly!

People are buzzing about Lil Wayne’s video for “How to Love”.  Yes, Weezy made a poignant and touching video to show what happens when we abuse our children, especially our daughters, and expose them to unhealthy relationships and situations, then he showed the flip side of what happens when you take care of your children and show them true love.  But a lot of people are up in arms because does one video negate all of the bad things that Wayne has done in the past?  I have to say no. 

So, that’s all I’ve got for you today.  Oh, on the job front, I had a great interview last week; just waiting for the follow-up call or e-mail.  🙂 So keep me in your prayers!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

*If you missed Beyonce’s performance on the VMAs, check it out at!

The Fashionable Life

Ladies of the DMV and surrounding areas (and to those that need a little “Me” time), I present to you and event that was designed by women and made for women.  We always need a little get-away, complete with our girlfriends, wine, manis, fashion, make-up, and the like.  So, I present to you, The Fashionable Life.  This is the official kick-off to your Fall season, and this is an event you don’t want to miss!

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WASHINGTON, DC (September 8, 2011)- LilyPad Events and Marketing, LLC (, a boutique lifestyle company, is hosting its first event, The Fashionable Life, on Thursday, September 8, 2011 from 6-9 pm at the Hilyer Arts Space (9 Hilyer Court NW, Washington, DC 20008).  The Fashionable Life is an event for women created by women.  The price for the evening is $35; to take $5 off, like LilyPad on Facebook (  

The Fashionable Life will attract the trendy, chic professional women of the DMV.  The evening will consist of complimentary cocktails, delectable food, image consulting, makeovers, manicures, and live music provided by OC Notes.  Vendors for the evening include MAC Cosmetics, philosophy, Bobbi Brown, Nail Taxi, Joyful Creations, Yves Saint Laurent, and many more.  Sponsors include Uniquely Dynamic, Ladies DC, Charity Chicks, and A Lacey Perspective.

Date: Thursday, September 8, 2011

Time: 6-9 pm

Location: Hilyer Arts Space, 9 Hilyer Court NW, Washington, DC 20008


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My 1st Earthquake and Other Tuesday Happenings

As a Southerner, born and raised, and a DC resident, I NEVER expected in a million years to experience an earthquake on this side of the country.  A hurricane, a snow storm, possibly a tornado, but NEVER was an earthquake on my radar.  So imagine my surprise when my building started to shake yesterday.  I was home, minding my own business, baking some chops, and then my house started to move…and wouldn’t stop.  The shakes were accompanied by a noise that got louder and louder.  The only casualty was a beautiful black elephant a former co-worker gave me as a gift.  😦  I loved that daggone elephant,  I just hope I can replace it.  It didn’t dawn on me that what I experienced was an earthquake until I got online and checked Twitter.  (I know, social media.)  Thankfully, there were not any human lives lost or injured.  I was very happy that I was not on a bridge.  I would have been scared out of my mind. 

So, I went to my PT job last night and was asked to sit in the Security office for a spell. “Why?” you may ask; well, I’ll tell you.  There was a young lady who was in custody for shoplifting, and they needed a woman in the office until a parent came to pick her up.  As I was trying to appear that I wasn’t paying attention, my heart broke seeing this young girl, in her school uniform, sitting on a bench with handcuffs on her.  It took everything in me to not react when I first walked in and saw what I saw.  I do have to commend the head of security as he talked to her and tried to tell her the error of her ways.  It seemed as if she was a good kid who got caught up.  Unfortunately, kids stealing (or trying to steal) for my job is nothing new, but I was happy that I was able to witness him imparting some wisdom on this young girl.  I just hope she gets it. 

Yesterday was filled with too many emotions.  After a good night’s rest, I feel much better.  And the highlight of my day yesterday?  I got called for an interview, which will be this afternoon!  So say a prayer and wish me luck!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

My Rant for the Day

First things first- Can I say that I am beyond SHOCKED that news has surfaced Will and Jada have separated????  Yes, I know that I don’t know them, but let’s be real.  We hold celebrities to certain statuses in our lives, especially when it comes to relationships. weight, looks, money, etc.  And it seemed that the Smiths had it together-a beautiful family, talented kids, businesses, both were currently working.  I know more than a few of us thought that Will and Jada were the epitome of Black Love, right up there with Ossie and Ruby, Angela and Courtney, Bill and Camille, the list goes on.  I know it’s NOT going to happen, but we should leave the Smiths alone during this very personal matter. 

Next up, I saw “The Help” last Sunday.  While I appreciate my girls inviting me out and having a bang-up Sunday night, I really don’t know my thoughts on the movie.  I had no desire to see the film, but I didn’t have any plans (and they changed the time they were going just for me), so I decided to go.  “The Help” was an enjoyable film, but I don’t know if I liked it.  Honestly, I have to see it again before I can do a real Southern Girl Review.

I bought Beyonce’s “4” about a week after it came out.  I am probably once of the biggest Bey Stans there is, but I don’t think I’m a fan.  As I told a friend, I’m not a Ballad Beyonce fan (think “Listen”); I like more up-tempo, dance hits (think “Single Ladies”).  And since her newest album is more ballads, I wasn’t feeling it.  I have been listening to it more with the intent to give the album an honest listening to and determination in my opinion.  As of today, the jury’s still out. 

So, that’s my rant for the day.  No rhyme or reason, no logic.  Just my thoughts on some things that are going on in pop culture.  And for those of you who know how I feel about the Kardashians, I purposefully did not discuss Kim and Kris’ nuptials this weekend.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern Girl…in the city!

The Relationship Hiatus Talk

It’s everywhere-articles on how Black women will be forever single, how Black women should date outside of their race, how Black women need to cater to their man (if they ever get one), how to be more alluring to men, etc.  Well, I’m tired of all this relationship mumbo-jumbo. 

I have to admit, there have been times (especially in recent history) where I have discussed the non-existence of my love life and how I plan on changing that.  I have told you guys how I plan to go out more, how I plan to approach more men, how I plan to talk to men that are not traditionally “my type”, etc.  Well, no more.  I’ve come to the realization that I have tons more things to focus on than being in a relationship (I know, *gasp*!) . 

Meeting guys by going out more is not working for two main reasons: 1. I don’t feel like going out all the time and 2. The men in DC (or least the men in attendance where I am) are not the approach a woman type.

I’m not going to approach men because that’s really not my thing…at least while I’m sober (hey, just being honest).  I’ve gone out on one date with the last guy that I approached, and he sporadically texts me to see if I’m still alive (at least that’s what I’ve come up with).  If homeboy were really interested, despite his busy schedule, he would make time for me, at least a phone call or text on a regular basis.  I feel that if a man is TRULY interested in a woman, HE will pursue HER.  Call me old-fashioned, traditional, whatever…I’ll take it, because that’s who I am. (Hello, have you read the tagline???)  Pressing on…

And dating men that I are not “my type” has not boded well for me.  I’m just not interested, no matter how I try to make it work.  (Could it be a coincidence that both guys that fall into this category live in B-more??? Duly noted, don’t talk to any more guys that live in Baltimore.) 

I’m truly over the relationship thing.  I seem to have a penchant for tall, caramel complected brothers with a big build who are emotionally or physically unavailable.  And it’s only taken me 29 years to figure this out.  Just thinking about the last 2 guys that I have conversed with makes me question my sanity.  So, as far as I’m concerned, love sucks.  Yes, I know it works for others; some of my best friends are newlyweds, have babies, or about to get married.  I applaud them and am truly happy for them.  But where Elle is concerned, relationships can kick rocks.  And I don’t want or need you guys to try to talk me out of it or to change my opinion.  It is what it is.  At this particular moment on this particular day, my main focuses are getting fit and working.  If a man comes into my life, I know the Lord will give me a sign that he’s the one.  Until that happens, I’m not changing my mind.

Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

Being More Active

I’ve been away from social media and the gossip of the internet for awhile.  I’m also behind on my favorite blog. (I caught up a little bit last night!)  As I logged on to Facebook to wish Southern Mom a “Happy Birthday!”, I saw a link for Demetria Lucas’ (aka A Belle in Brooklyn) column on “Real Talk”.  Today’s topic discusses Boris Kodjoe and #FatExcuses.

Demetria goes on to discuss how Boris came under fire this weekend for his tweet saying he had nightmares about 300 pound women in thongs eating fried chicken grinding on him.  He went on to site statistics about Black women and how a large population of us are obese.  Of course, people got offended, but you can’t shoot the messenger.  The truth hurts.  And I should know; everytime my mom talks to me about getting more active, I balk.  I look at myself in the mirror or in pictures and cringe sometimes.  I’ve said more times than I can count, “This is the biggest I’ve been” when referring to my current weight.  But do I actively do anything about it?  Right now, no.  Before, I was afraid to say I’m fat.  And my friends don’t tell me I’m fat, either.  They say I’m thick or have a nice size, if they comment on my size at all.  After seeing a picture  of myself from a friend’s birthday party on Friday, I can honestly say that I am FAT!

I can thank my neighbor for going out with me last week and walking around our neighborhood so we could get in some exercise and fresh air.   I’m taking a stand to be more active, and I want you guys to hold me accountable.  When I finish with this post, I’m going to get up and go outside for a walk, at least 30 minutes.  And to help, I’ll even post pics of my progression, via the blog or Twitter.  So if you want to help or even JOIN me in being more active, feel free to communicate with me via e-mail ( or Twitter (  Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.  I’m going to stop being insane; how about you?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

*To read Demetria’s article, go here*