Omega Psi Phi Centennial at The Park at 14th

For those of you that don’t know, I’m a member¬†of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. ūüôā¬† (Not that that’s really relevant to today’s post, but I felt like you should you know…if you didn’t already.)¬† And I have the pleasure of serving on the host committee for tonight’s Crown Royal 100’s recognition of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc.’s Centennial Celebration tonight at The Park at 14th.¬† Yes, you’re favorite Southern girl will be in the building (You all know how I feel about The Park, but exceptions can be made).¬† And I’ve already started partying with the Bruhs, thanks to my linesisters.¬† So I know this weekend is going to be epic.¬† See below how you can get in on all of the fun tonight!¬† And might I suggest arriving early; it’s bound to be packed!


July 26, 2011 

Crown Royal 100 in recognition of Omega Psi Phi Centennial Celebration at The Park at Fourteenth

Washington, D.C. (July 12) The Urbane Lifestyle & Entertainment Group, DDM Group and Usual Suspectz welcome Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc. and Washington, D.C.s chic professionals to Crown Royal 100: Omega Edition, this Thursday, July 28, beginning at 5 p.m. Crown Royal 100 is a special edition of Park Thursdays and the weeks premier kick-off event for the Centennial Anniversary of Omega Psi Phi, Fraternity, Inc., sponsored by Crown Royal, one of the worlds top-selling spirits.

The event will hosted by NBA Superstar Shaquille O’Neal The Crown Royal 100, 50 Men of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc. and 50 Ladies from the Divine Nine sororities. On Thursday, July 28, 2011, doors will open at 5 p.m. Crown Royal will offer $5 drink specials until 8.p.m. and dinner will be served until 10 p.m. The evening will transition into a full-blown celebration with music by DCs #1 Party DJ Quicksilva until 3 a.m.

Although this crowd will be decorated with Omega Men, fellow co-workers, colleagues, alumni, and friends are welcome. Any and all attendees are encouraged to arrive as soon as time permits. To ensure entry and a pleasurable experience, guests can purchase advance tickets at .

The Park at Fourteenth is located at 920 14th Street NW, Washington D.C. Valet parking is available.

**A new late night dinner menu is now available until 1am.**


About The Park at Fourteenth: The Park at Fourteenth is one of DCs premiere event venues. With food inspired by classic Americana couple with a chic, contemporary event space, The Park transforms the ideal event experience into reality. Park Thursdays has continued to excel as Washingtonians gather to enjoy life through food, dance and music. Park Thursdays is a place where everyone can enjoy themselves. For more information, visit

About Crown Royal: Crown Royal is a blended Canadian whisky, 40% alcohol by volume, 80 proof. The brand is currently owned by Diageo and is the top-selling Canadian whisky in the United States and the No. 1 selling Canadian whiskey in the world. For more information, visit


Way Back Wednesday-“Jungle Fever”

In 1991, Spike Lee released a film that changed the way America looked at interracial dating.¬† This past weekend, I decided to watch¬†“Jungle Fever”,¬†seeing as how I haven’t watched it in its entirety in some years (and it was part of the The Spike Lee Collection that I had just purchased).¬† And as is expected, my take-aways from the movie have evolved over the years.¬† I don’t exactly remember the source, but I do remember reading somewhere that Spike initially wanted to make a movie portraying how the crack epidemic was tearing up families in America.¬† He thought that people would not be receptive to that concept, so instead he decided to focus on interracial dating and have drug abuse be a subplot.¬†

Let’s be honest-interracial dating, in most cities across this country, is still considered taboo, so just imagine how it was tweny years ago.¬† Unfortunately, Flipper and Angie couldn’t make it work, but there are multiple interracial couples in the United States, despite funny looks and harassment from families and strangers alike, that have made it work.¬† Any relationship is hard, but let’s face it; interracial relationships can be extremely difficult.¬† The couple has to overcome obstacles and opposition that may arise from outsiders in regards to their relationship.¬† For some, race isn’t an issue.¬† For others, it’s the first thing they think about in the morning.

Twenty years ago, interracial dating was mainly focused on black people and white people.¬† Today, interracial dating has expanded to include blacks, whites, Asians, and Latinos.¬† I would like to think that as Americans, we have overcome the whole issue we have regarding dating outside of our race.¬† But I’m not naive, so I know this isn’t the case.¬† As a 21 year old, I dated a white guy for a few months.¬† When we went to most places, I was very cognizant of the looks we received, mainly from blacks.¬†¬†He and I never discussed it, so I’m not sure if he was aware.¬† I do remember when he and I went to see “Bad Boys 2” and some white teenagers sitting behind us where making derogatory comments about blacks and whites under their breaths, he quickly turned around and told them to “shut up!”.¬† It was an ok relationship; we were ridiculously young, but he was totally infatuated with me.¬† In the end, I don’t think he really had any ambition and I had just graduated from FAMU, so I felt that we weren’t equally yoked.¬† I think I would date interracially again, but I’m not sure I would marry a non-black man.¬†

The film brought to the silver screen conversations and issues that were occuring all over the U.S.¬† There’s a scene in the movie where Drew, Flipper’s wife, and her girlfriends sit around and discuss interracial dating, how black men leave black women for white women, and so forth.¬† I’ve had similar conversations with my friends, as I’m sure most black women in this country have.¬† But let’s not forget that Paulie, Angie’s ex-boyfriend, decided to take out one of his shops black customers.¬† He was ostracized and beat up for it by his fellow Italians.¬† Angie even received violence against her at the hands of her father.¬† In regards to drug abuse, Spike touched on how no matter what families do, if they have a loved one that’s on drugs, they may not be able to help them.¬† And there’s nothing like a mother’s love; Lucinda loved her oldest son, Gator, until the very end.¬† It took her awhile to see that Gator was no good, but by then he had already “borrowed” so much money and stole her television.¬† The movie also brought Halle Berry in a small but powerful role-a role that helped her win the part of a former drug addicted mother wanting to gain back custody of¬†her son¬†in the film “Losing Isaiah”.¬† We also saw Queen Latifah on the big screen for the first time.¬† Personally, I love “Jungle Fever”.¬† As a twenty-something year old, I’m much more appreciative of this movie than the first time I saw it as a teenager.¬† It had a great story line, great acting, and made you relate to the characters.

What have we gained from “Jungle Fever”?¬† Has the world evolved over the last twenty years when it comes to interracial dating?¬† Are we still having problems with drug abuse in this country?¬† What are your thoughts on the movie in general?¬†

Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

What Kind of F*ckery is This?

Amy Winehouse

Image by NRK P3 via Flickr

On Saturday, July 23, I was taking a break at work around 12:30 pm.¬† I took a quick peek on Twitter to see that people were¬†sharing the news that Amy Winehouse had been found dead in her London flat.¬† I was saddened and surprised, but not shocked.¬† To say it was inevitable may be cruel, but it’s an accurate statement.¬† I went back and told my co-workers that she had died.¬† As an ode to her, they wanted to sing “Rehab”; I told them “no; that’s highly inappropriate.”¬†

Amy Winehouse was poised to become this generation’s Teena Marie-a soulful white girl who had a unique sound.¬† Sadly, her career didn’t have the chance to flourish like Marie’s, but she will never be forgotten.¬† As my auntie Madeline pointed out to me, it’s ironic that she, Janis Joplin, and Jimi Hendrix all died at the age of 27.¬† I’ve lived longer than all three of these artists.¬† Another ironic thing about Amy’s death is that she died within weeks of Betty Ford, the biggest proponent of battling addiction.¬† I mentioned Amy in a WBW post earlier this year.¬† I guess we’ll never know what greatness she and ?uestlove would have made in the studio.¬†

Today’s post title¬†is my favorite Winehouse lyric from the track “Me and Mr. Jones”; heck, it might be my favorite song lyric ever.¬† And it explains how I’m sure a lot of people are feeling about her death right now.¬† I hope at least one person who’s battling addiction learns something from this and is able to get clean.¬† I hope Amy is resting in peace.¬† And I’m sure Mrs. Ford is getting in that a–.¬† Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

What’s Up with this “Poverty Tour”?

If you know me personally, you know there are two Black intellectuals that I absolutely love-so much so I would listen to them recite the alphabet.¬† Who are those men?¬† Dr. Cornel West and Dr. Micheal Eric Dyson.¬† So, imagine my surprise when I found out that Dr. West and Tavis Smiley are going on a 15 city tour of America?¬† What’s the name of the tour you may ask…well, it’s called “The Poverty Tour: A Call to Conscience”.¬† It aims to bring awareness to the plight of poor Americans, regardless of race and gender, and to have town halls and discussions.¬†

Excuse me, but what is talking about the plight of the poor going to accomplish?¬† West and Smiley have gotten numerous sponsors, but I would think that if you’re going to help those Americans who have been without employment that you will help them find a job.¬† Or at least help with their mortgage or rent.¬† Thank God I’m not living in poverty, but if I were, I don’t believe I would want someone to host a townhall about my plight.¬† If these two men really want to be effective, how about devising a plan to create jobs for these Americans and coming up with ways to help them make a better life for them and their families?¬†

Anyone can get up and talk a good game, but what are we putting into action?¬† And these two men are educated and intelligent, so it’s beyond me why they would limit themselves to just going around the country.¬† Unless they plan on using this as an extended vacation.

Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

I Used to be A Nice Girl

Last week, I was re-reading an e-mail chain from about two years ago I had with a male acquaintance.¬† We had just met each other about 6 weeks prior and since we were both pretty busy people, e-mail was the best way for us to dialogue and learn more about one another.¬† He thought I was intriguing; I thought he was bs’ing me.¬† But after a while, I could tell he was really genuine.¬† Just looking at my words and thinking back on that time in my life, I realized I was a totally different person than I am now.¬†

Let me explain.¬† I was innocent, slightly naive, trusting, and nice.¬† If people picked on me, I let it slide.¬† Now, I’m not so innocent, more cautious, and not-so-nice.¬† When people pick on me, I pick back.¬† I make faces when people say things I don’t like; and most importantly, I’ve been told I’m not the nice girl anymore.¬† When I first enter into new situations, I’m quiet-almost to the point where people think I’m stuck-up or shy; the shy part is quite accurate.¬† (Yes, it’s possible to be a shy social butterfly.)¬† Once I get comfortable, I speak up a little more and become much more outgoing.¬†

When it comes to my interaction with the opposite sex, especially those that I have dated in the past, depending on the circumstances, I can be a bit of an itch with¬†bee in front of it.¬† That’s my way to let you know you may have screwed me over because I was nice, but don’t think it’s going to happen again.¬† And sadly, there are times when the not-so-nice Elle comes out to play with everyone.¬† I’m a proponent of not letting the bad things that have happened with relationships in the past dictate how you behave with the new people in the future.¬† I was telling a friend this weekend that I can see how women can allow men to make them bitter.¬† And vice versa.¬† When it comes to potential suitors, I really try not to come across too harsh.¬† I may appear aloof, but sometimes that’s my defense mechanism.¬†¬†I wonder if my experiences made me harsh or if¬†I’m just¬†getting older and wiser.¬† But something in me wants to go back to that¬†young woman who was optimistic and¬†happy-go-lucky when I first moved to DC two¬†years ago.¬†Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.