What Are We Missing?

We always talk about the “good” woman who is single-smart, has a nice job, goes to church, and volunteers in her community.-and how we wonder why no one has snagged her up.   She works hard and plays harder, but she’s never been able to be “caught” by the right guy.  Sure, she dates, but she always seems to attract the wrong type of the guy-The Playboy, The Smooth Talker, The “I’m Just Looking for a Good Time” dude, The Control Freak (I could go on). 

We rarely talk about the “good” single guy, but he does exist.  The nice dressing, nice smelling, loves his momma, church attending, educated, and financially sound brother who hasn’t met Ms. Right-but he’s steady looking for her.  He’s met The Gold Digger, The Liability, The Leach, and The Fast Girl, but he hasn’t met The One. 

Why on earth can’t these two people find each other???

Are they not going to the same places?  Do they not roll in the same social circles?  Do they even live in the same cities?  Or…are they not looking at the right package?  Men, are you looking for a woman who is a size 4?  Maybe you’re looking for a woman who has a certain type of job.  And ladies, what’s your excuse?  Is it possible you’re looking for a man who makes a certain amount of money?  Or maybe you’re searching for a man who has a certain zip code in his address.  What ever the case is-what are we missing?

I think I’m a good woman and would make a wonderful mate and significant other.  Now, I’ve joked to my friends about going down South, finding a big ol’ country boy, and dragging him back to DC.  I don’t feel like my husband is in the DMV, and how is going to find me if I’m here and he’s somewhere else?  In all actuality, I’ve heard some of my friends say they know great men who are single and haven’t found “The One”.  So, if there are all these good men and good women in the world, why the heck haven’t we met? 

These are just some ramblings today and some things going through my head.  Feel free to share your comments, thoughts, and feelings on why good men and women can’t (or don’t) meet each other.  I’m sure you’d be helping out someone.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

Southern Girl Show Review- Single Ladies

Last night, VH1 premiered the third season of “Basketball Wives” and its new show “Single Ladies”.  I wasn’t that excited about “Basketball Wives” (we all knew what that was going to entail), but I was excited to watch “Single Ladies”.  My final assessment of the show?  I’m still torn. 

I was excited to see the show for several reasons: For starters, two of the three leads were black.  And despite what we may think of them, Stacey Dash and LisaRaye McCoy are still gorgeous.  Second, it was an hour long show-something that has been missing from Black television for a LONG time.   I do have some gripes with the show.  And to keep this post from being too long (and to keep your attention), I’ll use bullet points.

  • The premiere was an hour too long
  • There were TOO many subplots
  • I felt like I was watching a movie instead of a tv show
  • There were too many appearances by celebrities
  • I couldn’t figure out Keisha, Val, and April’s ages
  • I also found it hard that Keisha and Val were friends with April (they seem older)
  • Is Cam’ron still relevant to rap music in 2011? 
  • Is LisaRaye believable as a video vixen?
  • A lot of the story lines sucked

I think that’s all I have for now.  All in all, I really tried to give the show a chance, but it was just too much going on.  (If you want to see my comments from last night, check out my Twitter profile.)  There were some things that I could relate to as a single woman, but other aspects were too ridiculous.  I did fall asleep during the last few minutes of th show, but I’m sure I’ll catch it sometime this week.  I may watch it again next week, but it may take a miracle to get me to like it…

If you saw it, what do you think?  Does this show have some longevity or is it doomed to be cancelled?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!