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I hope you all had a great weekend! I was able to relax and enjoy myself at home, which I haven’t been able to do in a long time! As I stated in my birthday post, I’m using the next year to date and find ways to mingle more. Well, I’m starting to re-think that. (And yes, I know it’s only been a week.)
First, I did have a date this weekend. Yes, the guy was nice enough, but there weren’t any sparks, and honestly, I’m not sure I am truly attracted to him. Earlier last week, I was able to talk to a friend that I haven’t spoken to in awhile. While speaking with her she let me know that she has given up on ever getting married and having children. She has gotten a dog, who is now the love of her life, and is happy with just working and being single. And to avoid questions from others about her relationship and motherhood status, she doesn’t attend functions (i.e. weddings and baby showers) anymore.
Now, while I don’t think I will become as extreme as my friend, I am re-thinking this whole dating thing. Yes, I talk about how I’d like some nice lad to come my way and sweep me off my feet, but I think I’m giving too much attention to this. I should do as my “auntie” Madeline suggested and just focus on doing me and getting my life in order. I think once that happens, everything that is for me will fall into place.
Have you guys ever had to re-think something? It’s great when we make plans and hope to do things that we think are going to enhance our life. But I think in this situation I need to just focus on making Elle a better person holistically-then everything else will happen as it should. Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.
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I totally agree with you Elle. I decided a while back to do the same! There is no need to stress it, it will happen when it happens. Until then I’m enjoying dating myself and having friends! 🙂
what about “the project”??
Yeah, I thought about that. We might have to put that on the back-burner…or at least adjust how often I “contribute”. I’m sure we’ll talk about it soon! 🙂
I’ve had to re-think several things in life, from where I finished college to what guy to date. For me (and this isn’t really a suggestion, just sharing), I just stopped looking. I wanted a guy to find and pursue me. For me, seeking out guys (whether directly or indirectly) just wasn’t working, and I was wasting time that I should have been doing something else with, like writing my book, getting closer to God or getting healthier. Sometimes life just requires an adjustment of your thinking and your focus; then you can finally see what’s been right in front of you the whole time. I’m praying for your focus, girlie!
I don’t think you are putting too much focus on it. You should reconsider what you are putting out there and what you expect to get in return. This may sound like an oversimplification of what you need to do, but I think it’s a good start.