I’m back!!! (At least temporarily; I get the final confirmation at 11 am EST today.)  I feel better (still a little stuffy), and I missed you guys!  As we usher in a new year, we’re all about not looking back and moving ahead.  But what happens when we can’t let things go?

I can admit that there are things (and maybe even people) in my past that I wonder (or worry) about.  I think about the dudes I’ve gone out with 2 or 3 times and then I never hear from them again-I think about the guy who still sends me BBMs sporadically but won’t ask me out-I think about the dude I met when I lived in Florida and the timing was all wrong (I am glad to know we both feel the same about that situation; if only I had stayed 6 more months…)  Yes, I know this isn’t healthy, but on those rare occasions when I have time to myself or I see somebody’s status update on Facebook, it makes me wonder if I crossed their minds like they cross mine.  And sad to say, because I’m such a sucker, I get tempted to call or text just to see what’s going on (and to keep me on their minds).  Then I think, “Elle, you need to let this stuff go.  Stop thinking about these dudes, because I’m sure they’re not thinking about you.”  Then the urge to text an old suitor falls by the wayside…until I get bored and start the whole process over again.

In 2011, I vow to not reach out to old suitors, unless then reach out to me first, then I’ll respond in kind.  And I’m sure there’s a reason why they’re an “old” suitor.  Things didn’t work out, and instead of agonizing over “what if”s, I should just let stuff go and move on with my life.

What do you guys think?  Are there things/people/events of which you can’t let go?  Have you even tried, or are you a sucker for punishment and continue to let this stuff hang over your head?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!