What I’m Up To

This is almost indicative of how I feel...

Happy Monday!   I got lots o’ stuff going on, so today’s post will be brief…I hope!  As you all are my friends, I’ll share a little bit.  Plus, it’ll give you some insight into what you can expect to read here next month.

– Articles!  Not just on this site, but with 2 (yes, TWO!) magazines!  I’m very excited about these opportunities.  I have an article in “Fearless” magazine and a few articles in “Mood” magazine.  So, yeah, I’m a busy little writing bee! 🙂

– Blog series.  As February is Black History Month, I wanted to highlight young, minority business owners.  So, this month, you can expect to see at least one business owner highlighted each week, so be on the look out and be prepared to show your support!

– Dating. Yeah, so I went to my 2nd speed dating event last night (one time for getting it for free. Shhhh!! Don’t tell anyone!).  I went to Zen Wine Bar in Arlington.  I’ll definitely go back.  But I had a great time and met some cool guys.  Hopefully I got at least one match!  And, thanks to my girl Ms. Rasberry, who is well aware of my quest to be a serial dater in 2011, told me about City Stream featuring various singles in the DC area.  (Here’s the link; you get one guess to which one is me.)  Yeah, my answers are kinda whack, but if you know any guys who are looking for a great gal, send them my way!

– Work. Yes, I do have a job, 2 actually.  Well, 3 if you count Benevole.  But in any event, you can bet your bottom dollar that there is no rest for the weary! But that’s ok, because I know ALL of this work will pay off in the long run.

– Reading.  Yep, big book worm, and the next selection my book club is reading will be Disintegration: The Splintering of Black America.  I read the synopsis, and it looks like this will be interesting reading.  We don’t meet until March, but I’m sure I’ll do a book review before then. 

That’s a lot going on, and I’m tired from just typing it!  Feel free to share what you guys are up to!  I definitely am interested in what’s going on with you (and maybe I’m a little nosey)!!!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Southern Girl Perspective

Happy Friday, folks!!! As I sit here writing this post, it’s snowing for the second time this week… I’m slightly tempted to start looking for employment back in Florida….But in any event, let’s get on with today’s post. 

Today’s “This Week in the News” post is going to be slightly different.  Instead of talking about multiple things that happened this week, I’m only going to focus on one.  The topic will be about the arrest, conviction, and story of Kelly Williams-Bolar, the Ohio woman who was charged with two felonies and sentenced to 10 days in jail for falsifying legal documents.  Essentially, she wanted a better education for her children and stated on district documents that she and her daughters lived part-time with her father, who lives in the district where she wanted her daughters to attend school.   She was able to send her girls to this school for 4 years, until the district hired private investigators to follow her, and at least 3 other families, to see if they in fact lived where they stated they did.  When caught, the other families paid the tuition (i.e. taxes residents spent to send their children to school); Ms. Williams-Bolar did not.   As such, she was charged with 2 felonies, found guilty, and sentenced to 10 days in jail.  (Due to the media uproar, she was released a day early.)  Now, the NAACP and other organizations are fighting for her and are looking to get her conviction reversed.

I know I’m probably going to be in the minority with my thoughts on the matter.  As such, this might be a little lengthy so I can say what I gotta say.  Is Ms. Williams-Bolar wrong for wanting a better education for her daughter than what was provided in the district she lives in?  Absolutely not.  Was she wrong for lying on the forms?  Absolutely.  Thankfully, Southern mom and I were not on public assistance, but I did not attend the schools I was zoned to attend.  My mother completed special permission forms for me to attend my middle and high schools.  I’m not sure if that’s an option anymore, but I believe there’s another course of action that Ms. Williams-Bolar should have explored.  Should she have been convicted of 2 felonies?  Probably not.  Should she have been punished for falsifying legal documents?  Yes.  She broke the law, and that’s what happens when you break the law; you get punished.  The punishment was definitely harsher than the crime.  I don’t believe she should have spent any time in jail.  She probably should have been court-ordered to pay the back taxes and sent on her merry way.  Unfortunately, she was used as an example to other parents who think about doing the same thing.  (Same thing happened to a few people I know, but that’s a story for another day.)

Due to this conviction, this mother won’t have the chance to become an educator, which is what she was working towards.  I do think it’s funny how some people are making the comment they wouldn’t want a cheater or someone “like her” to teach their children.  Correct me if I’m wrong, but no one is perfect, and I’m sure we’ve all done something wrong.  What do you guys think?  Have you been in a similar situation or know of someone in a similar situation?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

(Read more about Ms. Williams-Bolar here.)

I’ve Got Nothing

I've got nothing for ya'...

No, I’m not kidding.  I have absolutely nothing for you guys today.   I had a request to talk about the State of the Union Address President Obama gave and the episode of “The Game” last night…but I’m really not in the mood.  What can I say?  I agree with the president on education, working to better the economy, and unity within the Senate (something that still needs to be worked on based on last night’s address).  And I haven’t seen the last 2 episodes of “The Game”.  I know-I need to do better.   I don’t even have a “Way Back Wednesday” post.  I’ve been dealing with my own stuff lately and haven’t thought about what to talk to you guys about.  I can tell you I have some things I’ll probably talk about on Friday, but other than that…I’m lost.  (And it probably doesn’t help that I had a 2 hour delay this morning and will probably go home early due to inclement weather on the way.)  So if there’s a topic you want me to discuss, the floor is yours.  Leave a comment, and I’ll reply.  But with keeping with the WBW theme, I’ll post the song that I have been playing all day.  It’s not that old, but I love it.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

P.S. Can I just say I really don’t like snow???

Why Is It???

So, I have some questions today, and I’m hoping you guys can answer them for me…or least give me some insight into some things.  Here goes:

-Why is it some guys claim to be attracted to you and/or like you as a friend, but they don’t hang out with you?  I have enough pen-pals.  I want someone I can see…in person…on at least a halfway regular basis.

-Why is it some guys (re: same guy from before) will send you messages commenting on how good you look? Excuse me, but we haven’t seen each other, so how do you know how I look?  Pictures don’t count, buddy…

– Why is it people are now sniffing bath salts to get high?  Are times that hard that people can’t afford regular narcotics and have to use household items?

– Why is it these bath salts cause hallucinations and suicidal thoughts?  One man cut his stomach and facial areas after sniffing this stuff.

– Why is it bath salts are now banned in Louisiana and are about to be banned in Mississippi?

– Why is it Kim Kardashian has a single out?  Does she think she can sing?  And why are people who have actual talent supporting her? 

– Why is it Flavor Flav opened this fried chicken joint in Iowa?  Is he sniffing bath salts?

– Why is it we have to allow men to guide the course of relationships?  Why can’t women say what we want as opposed to waiting on men to tell US what THEY want? 

– Why is it I can say all of these things on this here blog but can’t say it to the people who need to hear it?

– Why is it Ted Williams checked out of rehab early?

– Why is it we are ALL wishing we were Oprah’s long lost half-sister?

Ok, I’m done for now.  What are some questions that you have?  And if you have the answer to a few of the questions I asked, feel free to answer.  Or if you just want to share a laugh with me, feel free to do that, too.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Southern Girl Movie Review- Black Swan

Before I start talking about this movie, can I just gloat for a minute??? I KNEW the Packers and Steelers would be victorious this weekend.  Sorry to all of you Bears and Jets fan, but this just wasn’t your season, though you all did a great job!  (And Mark Boo, don’t worry, I’ll be to the NY soon to make you feel better!)  Ok, now that football is out of the way…

I saw “Black Swan” for the second time this weekend.  The first time I saw it, it was passed my bedtime, and I started to doze a little, not to mention it wasn’t quite what I expected.  But I liked it and wanted to review it; I knew to do so I would have to see it again.  So I was SUPER-excited that my friend V. Gray J. wanted to see it with me!   In a word-GREAT!!! I love this movie.  The cinematography was great, the special effects were great…just about everything was great!  I wouldn’t mind seeing it again, not to mention it will be added to my DVD collection.  Some things I could do without-Nina’s overbearing mother; she reminded me of a ballet version of Piper Laurie in “Carrie”-crazy.  And I kept trying to figure out if Nina was supposed to be a child or an adult.  Maybe that was part of my problem with her overbearing mother.  Also, the scene with Lily and Nina…I’m sure guys like it and maybe it was a sign of Nina’s independence, but it was just a bit much for me, but whatever…pressing on.  Of course Thomas was the perfect leery predator who was trying to prey on the weak.  I LOVED that Natalie Portman (and Mila) did her own dancing.  I took ballet and jazz as a child, and watching this movie kinda made me miss it.  But after I see what real ballerinas have to deal with (no thanks to bulimia), I’ll pass.   I had a great discussion with some co-workers today about trying to figure out what really happened and what occurred in Nina’s mind.   I highly recommend you all go see it…like right now…

A movie that not only leaves me wondering afterwards but also makes me want to see it a third time is really something.  That doesn’t happen to me…ever.  If you saw the movie, what did you think?  If you didn’t, do you want to?  Now, I know some guys will be turned off because they’re macho and don’t want to see people dancing ballet.  But this is so much more than that.  This movie is a psychological thriller…keyword being “psychological”.   It really makes you ask yourself, “What would you do to be perfect?”  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

This Week in the News-WOW!!!!

Happy Friday!  This definitely didn’t feel like a 4 day work week.  But I am glad to say that I had an amazing time yesterday! (All work and no play makes Elle a dull girl!)  I was able to hang out with my fellow Rattlers at The Park last night (and ya’ll know I don’t like that place), and then I had a great dinner. 🙂  (If you follow me on Twitter or are a fan on Facebook, you know where I was!)  Now that the fun has been had, let’s get down to business!

First, I must say that I am VERY happy for the White family.  If you don’t know, Carlina White was abducted from Harlem Hospital at just 19 days old.  Her parents had taken her to the hospital due to a fever.  Believing she was giving her baby to a nurse, Joy White, Carlina’s mother, handed the infant over so she could be checked out.   23 years later, mother and father are reunited with their daughter.   Kudos go to Carlina, who discovered that she may be this missing infant.  Technology is an amazing thing!  Now, police and authorities are hunting down Ann Pettway, the woman who raised Carlina as Nejdra Nance.   Ann’s probably somewhere in Mexico by now!!!  But I hope they do find her and figure out what happened in the hospital. 

So, I’m not really sure how I feel about the home state’s new governor.  Nikki Haley, newly-elected governor for the state of South Carolina, gave her first “State of the State” address on Wednesday evening.  One thing I’m happy about is that the Department for Alcohol and Other Drug Abuse Services was moved from a leased space to a government owned facility that was previously empty.  Kudos to Gov. Haley’s administration for making that move and saving the state of South Carolina $700,000 over the next 4 years.  (Mayor Gray and DC could learn a thing or two from this.)  I do have a problem with state funding being cut to the Arts Commission, as an artist and musician myself and having a cousin who is a music teacher in South Carolina.   She’s also proposing that Medicaid HIV/AIDS, cancer, and mental health patients receive generic prescription drugs.  Not really sure how I feel about this since I’m not a doctor or a pharmacist (so if you are, be sure to comment!).  Of course she’s not jumping to accept federal dollars (not sure if I can blame her on that), but she wants to cut education funding and create a new department, the Department of Administration.   I say all this to say, the jury is still out on this one.  But please believe I’ll be keeping an eye on this.  (To read the transcript of the address, go here.)

If you like a good deal, I’m sure you get your daily WTD deal or Groupon e-mails.  Well, since Google is trying to monopolize everything (oops, did I say that???), they are creating a Groupon competitor.  So keep your eyes opened to be see what great deals you can get.  But this can only be good for the consumer, right???

Ok, that’s all I’ve got for you today.  Oh, the divisional playoffs; I’m going with the Steelers and Packers.  Yes, I know I should probably go with my honey, but I have to be realistic here.   What are your thoughts on these and other happenings?  And what news was significant this week that I didn’t share?   Enjoy your weekend, and God willing I’ll be back with you on Monday!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

What You’re Supposed to Do

Happy Friday’s Eve!  Today’s post was inspired by two syndicated shows I listened to yesterday but don’t normally listen to on a regular basis.   The first was “The Russ Parr Morning Show”, where they were discussing how to monitor people who are abusing the welfare system, i.e. women who continue to have babies to get a check from the government but aren’t doing anything to better themselves, like going back to school or finding a job.  The next show was “The Michael Baisden Show“, of which I’m not a huge fan.   They were praising fathers who take of their children, some of whom are single parents.   Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t that what you’re supposed to do? 

Going to the welfare thing first; I’ll just talk about this briefly.  I think the solution is pretty simple.  Put a limit on how long people can be on welfare.    During this limitation period, people need to be making a concerted effort to better themselves.  Educate yourself or get a job.  (And we’re not going to talk about how the welfare system separates families.  How?  By requiring that a male NOT be living in the house.  That’s another post for another day.)   Now, after this limitation period is over, send a social worker to the home to assess the situation. Is the head of the household working on making a better life for her and her children?  If so, continue to help, but lessen the benefits (if the parent is working).  If not, take the children away and cut off the money.  Yes, I know-this is probably wrong on so many levels.  One, we have WAY too many kids in the foster care system right now.   But I’m sure there is a family somewhere that would love to take care of and have children in their home.  You never want the children to suffer.  But being in an unhealthy environment just starts the cycle all over again.  That’s why you have families who have been in the same housing projects for generations, and there’s no move to stop the cycle.  Show the children better.  Encourage them to DO better.  (Yeah, so much for being short.) 

Now, about these men who have children and are taking care of them.  Um, correct me if I’m wrong, but if you have a child aren’t you supposed to take care of them???  Michael Baisden and his sidekick George were praising fathers who go at it alone or who pay child support or visit their children.  Whoop-ti-do!  Case in point- Southern Parents divorced when I was four.  Southern Dad paid child support and visited with me on a regular basis while I was growing up.  He doesn’t deserve a medal.  Why?  Because that’s what you do.  And just because the relationship didn’t work between my mother and him didn’t stop him from being a father.  You may leave the marriage or relationship, but you never leave the children.   Yes, it’s taboo that you hear of single dads or men who take care of their children, but that’s a problem.  It shouldn’t be taboo.  It should be as normal as getting up every morning and brushing your teeth or taking a shower. 

I could really be here all day talking about this, but I know you all have things you want to do today!   But I would like to know what you guys think.  Thoughts on single dads, welfare, or just anything in general relating to this topic; the floor is yours.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!