Last week, I put up a post stating that I was going to tackle dating head-on in the new year. (Go here if you need to catch up.) I decided yesterday that I was going to attend The DC Quarterly, a singles mixer in DC on Saturday, that is hosted by our favorite matchmaker Paul Carrick Brunson. Plus, I’m making NYE plans with some friends. One friend has a man, and the other friend and I are the single ones who want to be boo’ed up. I thought it would be a cute idea if we all went on a triple date. Which means I need to be finding SOMEBODY with the quickness if I want to have an escort for the evening. But with all this preparation, should I just calm myself down for a minute?
I had a great conversation last night with one of my sorority sisters and of course we were playing catch up. I did let her know that while I know I shouldn’t be looking for a husband (A man that findeth a wife findeth a good thing Proverbs 18:22) I should at least put myself in places where my husband will find me-hence my attending this social. She kindly related the story of Ruth and Boaz. Ruth was working very diligently in the field and caught the eye of Boaz, whom she eventually married. My soror let me know that although I wasn’t looking for a husband, it would probably be best if I just relaxed, did Elle’s thing, and waited.
I have to admit sometimes I, and I’m sure I’m not the only one, work to make things happen or tilt them in my favor. Most times, I should probably sit back and wait for God. Everything comes in HIS time, not ours. Am I still going to this mixer on Saturday? Of course, but with a different outlook. As I related to another soror/really good friend last night (it was the day for phone calls) I have not gone out in awhile, so I thought it was high-time I treated myself to a night out in DC. And I may still make it to my friend’s holiday get-together after the mixer.
What do you guys think? Should I just be patient and wait for God? Is putting myself in situations where I think I may meet a guy going against the grain? Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!
Southern Girl in the City 
You know that I am a FIRM believer in waiting on the Lord…HE reveals everything in his own time…but there is nothing wrong with doing your thing AND experiencing new things AND putting yourself in social environments where you can mix and mingle! Faith without works is dead! You will not meet anyone at your house…so do ya thing DIVA! Waiting on the Lord does not mean staying in the house.
I am a testament to God’s faithfulness…you were there. I believe the same for you and will continue to pray with you that in HIS time all will be revealed.
In saying that I say go out there and let Elle shine in your own way, even if it is just for you believe me, people are watching! Muah!
I don’t look at going out and socializing (even to “singles events”) as looking for a husband. Who says you have to stay holed up in the house just because you are single? Unless your soul mate turns out to be your UPS or FedEx delivery guy, he’s unlikely to just show up at your house. So go out, have fun – do you!