Dating in the New Year

As I sit at my desk and let my mind wander (yes, I could actually be doing some other things), I have decided to take my life into my own hands.  Based on two experiences yesterday: 1. I told my co-worker’s boyfriend he should introduce me to some of his male friends and 2. Another co-worker was trying to sell her boyfriend’s cousin to me, I decided that I need to be more proactive in my dating life in 2011.   So I’ve decided that instead of depending on other people to play matchmaker for me I’ll be my own matchmaker. 

How will I do that you ask?  Well, I think it’s very simple.  First, I’ll attend singles functions.  Next, I’ll go to speed dating events.   I think that will be a great start, and as more things come up, I’ll attend them (all within reason).  I was all set to attend my first speed dating event (solo) last summer, but after telling Southern Mom that I was going and going by myself, I let her nerves affect me, and I chickened out and stayed home.  NEVER AGAIN! (To make sure it doesn’t happen again, I’m not going to tell her until after I return from my outing.)  I don’t expect that I’m going to meet the love of my life, but I would like to meet a nice guy (as I think I’ve said on previous posts), and date him…and only him.  I’m going to keep my options open, I’m not expecting to meet my husband, and I’m not trying to get married by February.  And I’ve come to the conclusion that 1. My guy friends aren’t interested in pursuing something with me-not that they should because I seriously doubt I would date them; and I say that to convey I can’t date anyone I already know; 2. The few places I do go I haven’t met any new potentials; and 3.  I’m not doing internet dating again.  (Here’s why.) 

There is a singles mixer going on in the District December 4, and I’ve been going back and forth on if I should go (I probably should), but I think I’m going to pass and start fresh and new in the new year.  So, wish me luck, Southern fam.  And if you know of any events I should attend in the DMV, please let me know.  And you know I’ll keep you all in the loop of what’s going on.  Again, Happy Thanksgiving, and until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Way Back Wednesday- Thanksgiving with the Family

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year!”  That’s right, folks.  Tomorrow official starts the beginning (at least in my mind) of the holiday season.  (We’re not going to talk about how my place of PT employment has been decorated for Christmas for nearly a month.)  I talked to Southern Mom this morning, and of course we were both agonizing (but trying to be strong for the other) over the fact that I will not be home for Thanksgiving.   And this of course got me to thinking about the holidays growing up.  Since my parents are divorced I would spend Thanksgiving with one parent, then Christmas with the other parent and vice versa for the next year.  Specifically for Thanksgiving, each family had their own separate yet unique traditions. 

Each year since I was in the 2nd grade, my mother has hosted Thanksgiving at our house.  I’m not sure if anyone remembers, but my mom bought her first house when I was in the 2nd grade and moved the week of Thanksgiving.  To help her move, my family kicked into high gear, helped us pack up, and had dinner at my mom’s.  From there, I think it just stuck.  Everyone brings a dish, the men (and some ladies) watch football, others gather around the dining room table, and when it’s time to eat, we all gather around the table, say grace, and dig in!  It’s a wonderful time for all of us (my grandparents, my grandmother’s siblings, my mom’s siblings, and my cousins) to get together. 

My dad’s family is a little different.  Even though it’s probably about the same amount of people as my mom’s family, it’s just my grandparents’ children, and their children (and now their children’s children!).   We typically used to have dinner at my Godmother’s house.  We gather, say grace around the table, and eat!  I always enjoyed going to see my dad’s family as they lived about 4 hours away from me, and I didn’t get to see my cousins that often.  We played catch up, the older cousins picked on the younger ones, and you may see a game of Spades going on.   Before the night was over, we all picked a name for Christmas gifts. 

Sadly, as I’ve gotten older and have moved away from my family, it’s harder for me to get to SC to spend the holidays with my relatives.  Thankfully I have friends here in DC who have adopted me and taken me in and invited me to spend Thanksgiving with them.   I wish you all a joyous, blessed, Thanksgiving holiday.  I’ll catch you guys next week.  (Oh, I’m supposed to be making a peach cobbler tomorrow-should be good!)  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!