Is He Feeling You?

New Love is Grand!

I hope you guys had a great weekend!  So a few weeks ago, one of my guy friends-we’ll call him Simon-called and asked me how to let this young lady know that he was interested in her and wanted to possibly begin a relationship?  I gave him my thoughts.  He told me if it she didn’t respond in the affirmative, he was going to blame me.  My response was akin to, “If she really likes you, it doesn’t matter what you say, as long as you’re not disrespectful.”  So, this is basically what I said:

First, you need to take her out on a date, either Starbucks or to dinner. (He said, “I don’t do Starbucks”). Ok, take her to dinner.  Well, what do you normally do to let a girl know you like her?  (His response: “Well, it’s been 6 years since I’ve been in this place”-he just got out of a relationship-“so I’ll take a girl to Dave and Buster’s, play games, eat.”) Oh, well then do that.  Do little things to let her know you’re interested in her, like lightly touch her arm or find ways to be near her while you all do stuff.  After the date is over, if all goes well, give her a hug, maybe a kiss on the cheek, and let her know you had a great time and that you’re interested in going out with her again.  Now, I must say this isn’t a girl that he just met.  They work in the same office, have run together for the past few weeks to prepare for a marathon they ran in this past weekend.  So they have a platonic relationship; he wants to take it to the next level.  I also told him this sounds like a girl that needs to be courted.  Simon laughed.  But the way that he described her-good girl, has a masters in Theology, has her head on straight-let me know that she would appreciate that word.  I also reiterated that we’re too old for him to beat around the bush, and he needed to just come out and tell her how he felt.  Long story short, they had a conversation regarding relationships, he told her how he felt about her and “Voila!”, they went on a date!  AND she liked the word “courting”.  I told him to never doubt me.

So, this story led me to this-Ladies, how do you know if a man is interested?  Men, how do you let women know you want to get to know her?  And not just in the bedroom, but you want to potentially build a relationship?  I’m still a little shocked he came and asked me, but I felt special! 🙂  (And I’m not even gonna talk about my other friend who called and talked about his date who almost bit off his lips during a kiss after their date.  That’s a whole ‘nother post!)  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!