This Week in the News- I Cannot Believe It!

This week has been full of up and downs, tragedies and triumphs, and I’m going to dicuss some of them today.  My 101st post (in my mind) was going to be my encouragement to you all to go out and vote on Tuesday.  But I’ll save that for next week.  Not saying it’s not important (because it is), but that’s not what I want to talk about today. 

First, congratulations must go out to Mr. and Mrs. Nick Cannon.  If you haven’t heard, they’re expecting!!! YAY!   I love babies!  I trust and hope Mariah has a wonderful pregnancy with no complications and that they have a beautiful, happy, and healthy baby. 

Next up, kudos go out to Officer Feris Jones of NYPD.  If you haven’t heard, Officer Jones stopped a would-be robber when she was getting her hair done last Saturday.  She was able to disarm the robber and shot the door handle, which momentarily stopped the man from escaping.  Police were able to track down the the assailant, so he is off the streets.  I would like to say “Thank you” to Officer Jones.  No, I don’t know her and no, I don’t live in NY, but for her to stop this robber without any casualties is amazing.  You always hear these stories and someone ends up dying.  Justice will be served and no one had to lose his or her life.  And Officer Jones will be promoted on Tuesday!

I don’t know how I missed this last week (probably because I don’t really follow this person), but Jawn Murray, an entertainment reporter, came under fire when he stated via Twitter, “All those militant-nappy-headed #AngryBlackWomen who didn’t think @tylerperry was worthy of doing #ForColoredGirls can #KickRocks!” If you think that was bad, his follow-up comment takes it a step further- “So a few militant-nappy-headed #AngryBlackWomen are mad I used ‘nappy-headed’ earlier. Do me a favor = Get a LIFE & Get a PERM! How’s that?”  Really….REALLY!?!?!  To be honest, I’m not sure if I should be offended by his statement.  I mean, I am a black woman who is natural and have 2nd guessed Tyler Perry doing “For Colored Girls”…but I would question just about anybody doing that.  He has a lot of hostility; I wonder why.  He did issue an apology, but the damage is done. 

Next, here is the most recent news regarding Mitrice Richardson.  Come to find out, her remains were moved without the consent of the correct person from the coroner’s office.  Like her family, I hope that LASD rules her death as a homicide.  Her killer needs to be found and quick.

Are you happy for Mariah and Nick?  Will you be congratulating Officer Jones on Tuesday?  And how you do feel about Jawn Murray’s comments and the new developments surrounding Mitrice’s disappearance?  Enjoy your weekend! Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

(As I’m writing this, one of my co-workers asked a good question-What happened to Eddie Long???)

My Thoughts on the Obamas

Happy 100th post to ME!!!  This has been such a blessing, a lot of work, and a lot of fun working on and creating this blog.  I have grown so much since May when I did my first post.  When I wrote that post, I had NO clue what I would write about.  But I knew I liked to talk, so I didn’t think it would be that hard!   In any event, I wanted to make sure that my 100th post was significant, so I decided to share my thoughts on one of the most influential families in the world, The Obamas.

I have been a Barack Obama supporter since he declared his candidacy.  Not only was I a supporter of the candidate, but I was a supporter of his family.  It’s been awhile since a positive image of an African-American family has been seen in mainstream media.  People’s first look was “The Cosby Show”…and that was fictional; I’m glad that the Obamas are very real and have not changed anything since President Obama was elected.  Lucky for me, I am a part of and grew up seeing great black families, so this was not a foreign concept to me.  

I appreciate how involved our First Lady is on causes that she holds dear.  The last time I saw a FLOTUS this active was Nancy Reagan…and I was a toddler.  I’m sure Secretary of State Clinton and both Mrs. Bushes were active…I just don’t remember.  (Or maybe I didn’t pay attention.)  I love the attention that she has given to military families and to childhood obesity.  She has become such an icon and role model, and it’s been a while since the world has seen a person like her-one who is able to inspire greatness in so many people.

I also appreciate how Sasha and Malia are being kept under wraps.  I feel like when President Clinton and (the 2nd) President Bush were in the White House, you always heard something about their kids.  Now, maybe I’m living under a rock, but I haven’t heard too much about Sasha and Malia in the news.  They go to school and do what kids do, which I think is great!  Now, I have to admit that my friends and I were once joking around and said that it would be SO hard for a boy to date either one of them (when they get older).  They have to deal with Secret Service, Barack and Michelle, and don’t forget Grandma Marian!

To say I love the Obamas is an understatement.  I appreciate the positive changes that have taken place in this country since President Obamas inauguration and how he and Michelle work as a team.  I appreciate how Sasha and Malia are nowhere to be seen each week in some magazine or newspaper.  And I definitely appreciate how the Obamas are able to keep some family traditions in place after the move to DC from Chicago. 

So what do you guys think?  Are the Obamas a good family role model for Americans?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

P.S.  I purposefully stayed away from ANY election or political stuff.  I’m saving that for my next post! 😉

Way Back Wednesday-My Fave 80’s Movies

Happy Hump Day!  It’s time again to go back…back in time!   We all have our favorite movies, especially those from back in the day.  Today’s post will remind you of some great (IMHO) movies that I can watch everyday.

First, the movie that is partly responsible for my attending an HBCU, “School Daze“.  When I tell you guys I LOVE this movie!!!  This film featured some future heavy hitters like Laurence Fishburne, Giancarlo Esposito, Tisha Campbell, and even a cameo by Samuel L. Jackson.  Spike Lee’s depiction of life on a historically black college campus has not been captured on film until 20 years after the movie was made with “Stomp the Yard”.  But even that is such a small portion of what life is like.  I don’t always believe in sequels, but it would be interesting to see a current look of what college students are experiencing now-politics, friends, relationships, money issues, etc.  Of course “Good and Bad Hair” is my favorite song from the movie.  And some of classmates said I was a Gamma Ray my freshman year at FAMU.  I don’t know how I feel about that…

Next up, “Breaking 2: Electric Boogaloo”.  This movie highlighted the popular dance craze from the 80’s break dancing.  Now, I’m no break dancer, but I enjoyed watching the performances.  Now, I’m sure this movie had a plot, but does it matter??? I think not.

“Heathers” is the perfect 80’s movie.  It has all the characteristics of a real life high school-the bullies, the popular clique, the jocks, and a fad.  Sadly, the fad turns out to be suicide.  But it’s amazing how this was turned into a satire.  While this is a work of fiction, it shows just how vicious kids can be.  And it’s amazing to see Winona Ryer, bad boy Christian Slater, and Shannen Doherty in their early days. 

There are tons more movies I could have named, like “Lean of Me” (Free Mr. Clark!), “Coming to America” (I am very happy to be here!), “The Princess Bride” (“Hello, my name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.”), and one of my favorite fairy tales, “Willow”.  What are some of your favorite movies from the 80’s (or from your childhood if you’re not an 80’s baby)?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Southern Girl Movie Review: N-Secure

Good morning, folks!  It’s another week, another dollar.  But I’m happy it’s Monday (did I just say that?), maybe because I had an awesome Sunday!!  In any event, this past Saturday, my “auntie” Madeline and I went to go see “N-Secure”, starring Essence Atkins, Denise Boutte, Tempestt Bledsoe, Lamman Rucker, Nephew Tommy (from “The Steve Harvey Morning Show“, Elise Neal, and Cordell Moore.  Madeline saw the info for the movie first, and after she showed me the trailer, I was hyped about going to see the movie.  I truly believe in supporting black businesses and films, and this was a movie that was not made by Tyler Perry, so I was interested to see what it was all about.  Most importantly, the movie dealt with a topic that is not talked about in the Black community as much as it should be-domestic violence.

As usual, this review is going to tell some things that happened in the movie, so if you plan on seeing it, I suggest you stop reading now.   In a nutshell, I really didn’t like this film.  As one moviegoer behind me said, he “…would rather watch ‘Pootie Tang’…in Spanish.”   The acting was pretty good, but the script was horrible.  The parts that were supposed to be funny weren’t, there wasn’t enough development on story lines that I felt were important to the plot, and I wished they would have discovered ALL the dirty deeds David did.  For instance, Denise Boutte’s character, Tina, was supposed to be a gold-digger, based on a reaction I saw from her cousin and the way she looked around David’s (Cordell Moore) house when she walked in.  While the story sucked, it did show how some women will (realistically) stay with a man who is abusive, controlling, and selfish just so he will take care of them.  It also shows how abusers will buy their girlfriends/wives gifts to appease them and to get their women to “obey” them and do as they wish. 

Thanks to Southern Mom, I found out that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, so in that sense I’m glad I saw this movie so I could bring domestice violence to your attention.  I give the movie 2 out of 10 stars.  If I were you, I wouldn’t knock down anybody’s doors to go see it.  Maybe if it comes to the dollar movie in your city you may want to go. 

If you saw the movie, what did you think about it?  If you know of anyone that is a victim of domestic violence or you think they’re a victim, encourage them to tell and get their abuser behind bars.  When a person stays in an abusive relationship, it only gets worse.  Unfortunately, the only way some women (and men) get out is by death.  And we don’t want that to happen to anyone; these are tragedies that do not need to occur.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

This Week in the News

First, let me say that I have lost 6 pounds, and I wasn’t even trying! YAY, me!!!  Ok, a lot has been going on this week, so let’s get started!

I know you guys have heard about these stupid educators (yes, I called them stupid) in NYC that were fired for flirting with their students on Facebook.  If not, go here to read the story.  I know these teachers have to have some type of common sense to be an educator.   One teacher was stupid enough to send flowers, candy, and whatnot to a student.  But I also wonder where are the parents?  Maybe they are the reason the teachers got found out.  I personally think any type of social media and teachers/students don’t mix.  It’s a slippery slope when engaging students in the personal lives of their teachers. 

Earlier this week, movie producer/writer/actor/director Tyler Perry confessed to Oprah that he was molested as a child by a total of FOUR people! Three men and one woman.  I applaud Mr. Perry for sharing his story.  I hope this encourages men and women to tell, tell, tell when someone is abusing them!  In my post last month, “What We Won’t Talk About-Abuse“, I made mention that in the African-American community we don’t talk about abuse.  The only way to break the cycle is to tell until someone believes us.  And children, and adults who tell what happened to them as children, should not feel ashamed or dirty for telling their story.  Awareness brings attention and stops abuse.  Parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, all of us need to pay attention to the signs of the children in our lives and let them it’s ok to tell.  And we need to do all we can to get these predators off the streets.

This week, I’m sick of hearing about relationships.  I admit, I did post the “Black Marriage Negotiations” video earlier this week, but now, I’m tired.  I’m tired of seeing article titles like “How to Ease the Pain of Romantic Rejection” and “Non-Negotiables You Should Maintain When Looking for a Mate”.  I’m also tired of hearing about Monica’s engagement (so soon after her break-up this summer, might I add) and  “Girl Next Door” Kendra and Hank calling it quits.  I’m tired. So I will be taking a boy hiatus this weekend and hanging out with my “auntie” Madeline for a much needed girls day out tomorrow!  If you happen to see me in the DMV this weekend, feel free to say “Hey!”

My Jaguars looked a hot mess during Monday Night Football.  Hopefully, they’ve got their act together and we’ll be 4-3 after Sunday’s game.  I am kinda sad that Beyonce is not preggers.  😦 I even updated my FB status after I saw the first report saying she was.  (Quietly, I think she is, but John Q. Public will never know.)  Oh, and I purposefully did not mention anything about crazy Virginia Thomas calling Anita Hill asking for an apology.  What is WRONG with people?!?!?  In any event, enjoy your weekend folks.  Feel free to comment on the news I shared or the news that’s important to you.   Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

The “Heavy” Girl Got Married

 

Photo courtesy of DavidsBridal.com

So maybe I’m being a little sensitive and looking too much into this. I’ll own that. And it’s ok. As people, we’re not going to always like the things we see. In order not to hurt anyone’s feelings or keep the peace, we keep mum on a lot of things. I used to be one of those people. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that’s not healthy. I should let people know when I’ve been hurt or disrespected, but not in a confrontational way. Yesterday, I read the Savvy Dating blog. I love reading her blog, and the title “The Type of Women Men Marry” caught my eye. I read it, along with the comments of her readers. In the first paragraph, the author told the story of a conversation she had with a friend. Said friend couldn’t understand why an ex recently married a “heavy” girl but was always on her to lose weight. One of the comments relating to “heavy” girls was:

He gets the “heavy girl” because her self-esteem/self worth may not be as high as everyone else. This is what I call the “investment chick”. She has all the basics that he wants but she still has room for improvements that he can help her make. His {He} gets a return on his investment after “encouraging” her to lose the weight. Not only does {she} lose the weight making her the 10 he originally wanted, but she is going to truly think he loves her because he took the time to support her getting healthy but really it’s for his personal gain.

There are SO many things wrong with this statement. First, who says that “heavy” girls have low self-esteem/self-worth? Neither of these is directly correlated with one’s size. A girl who is a size 4 can feel completely dissatisfied with herself while a girl who is a size 18 knows her worth and won’t settle for anyone who doesn’t realize it also.  Next, is a man really going to date a woman who is overweight just for the simple fact he can encourage her to lose weight and be her savior??? Uh, I don’t think so. Maybe the woman he married had something this other woman didn’t; maybe she loved herself how she was, loved this man for who he was, he saw her as a helpmate and not a hindrance, and maybe she was bringing something to the table this man liked. Lastly, just because a woman is not a size 6 doesn’t mean she’s not a “10”. I’m really surprised no one called this woman out on this comment. Men like confident women, and the woman who is a size 16 and walks into any room like she owns it is going to the get the attention rather than a woman who is a size 6 and walks in like she’s scared.  As my “auntie” Casey tells me all the time, “There’s a taste for every shape.”

I have a cousin who as long as I’ve known her has never been a small woman.  She has always been confident, been fly, been attractive, and had herself together.  She turned 40 this year and also celebrated her 19th wedding anniversary. To my knowledge, her weight has never been an issue with her husband. He loves her for who she is and what she brings to their relationship.

In my adult life, I have never been smaller than a size 12, and I’ve never had a problem with my self-esteem or self-worth. My mother taught me growing up that I was smart and pretty and that I have a lot to offer to the world, not just a man. No, I’m not always happy with my size, but who is? I know plenty of women who are a size 6, 8, or whatever (smaller than me) and they want to lose weight. If and when I decide to lose weight, it’ll be my decision. Not because I want to impress/get/keep a man. I’ve had enough men to approach me being the size I am now.

What do you guys think? Am I being too sensitive? Do you agree with this young lady’s statement about “heavy” girls? Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

I Have Some Questions

For the past few weeks, I have had some things go through my mind.  I decided to share a few of them with you, my faithful, devoted, and opinionated audience.  If you have the answers, please share.  And if you have questions of your own, share those, too.  I may be able to answer yours!

-Why am I starting to like “Whip My Hair” by Willow Smith?

– Why didn’t T.I. hire Lindsay Lohan‘s attorney?

– Speaking of T.I., does he like it in prison?  Is that why he does stupid stuff so he can keep going back?

– Why are we salty about Alicia Keys giving birth…or is that just me?

– Why can’t I find a line of natural hair care products I like, especially a deep conditioner?

– Is Adrian Fenty going to be re-elected as mayor of DC in 2 more weeks-and bring back Michelle Rhee?

– Why do we love Twitter but loathe Facebook?

– Where is the 2nd CD in Maxwell’s trilogy BlackSUMMERS‘Night?

– And where is Jill Scott‘s The Light of the Sun?

– What’s the point of having an album for sale if you’re going to release all of the tracks as singles? (Think of Usher and Trey Songz)

– Dare I admit I’m beginning to like Nicki Minaj?

– And the most important question, what new updates are there regarding the death of Mitrice Richardson?

These are just some things that have been on my mind.  Are there any questions that you ask yourselves on a regular basis?  Maybe there’s that point in the day when you dare to let your mind drift off to this nice quiet place and you think of the most random stuff.   I hope I’ve put a smile on your face or at least got you to thinking, too.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!