To The Potential Boo…

I was going to let this day go by without posting anything, but I decided that wouldn’t be right, especially since this is a short week, and I didn’t post anything on Tuesday.  And whenever I talk about the opposite sex, it seems to encourage you all to comment more (go figure). So today I decided to post a letter that will go to my future boyfriend.  Not sure who he is or where he might be, but I know he’s out there somewhere.  (And to be honest, I really wanted to write about my experience at Roland Martin’s appearance at Howard University last night, but since I can’t put my hands on my notes at this point in time, you’re stuck with this letter.)  I’ll try not to be too lengthy, but if you know me you know how I do…

Dear ________________,

This letter is to give you a glimpse into me.  I’m not perfect by any means, and I know you aren’t either, but I feel like we may be perfect for each other. If not, no love lost.  We can use this relationship as a stepping stone and learning experience and move on graciously.  I don’t do drama nor messy break-ups.  I also don’t do liars and cheaters.  So if you’re not feeling us anymore, just let me know; no harm, no foul.

I’m talkative, a social butterfly, a homebody, endearing, sometimes selfish, and a stickler for being on time.  I’m a girly girl, which means I would much rather wear make-up, heels (Who am I kidding? I prefer flats or flip-flops), jewelry, and stay in a controlled temperture setting than to go outside in the woods messing with the humidity and bugs. But if you’re willing to go to the Museum of African Art with me, then I should be able to go to camping with you.  While I do believe being healthy and in shape is important, it’s not my top priority.  Yes, I will continue to sporadically try to get in shape, but I doubt I’ll ever be a size 2.  And if I want to eat that cupcake from Georgetown Cupcakes, just let me.  I may even give you the other one.  You can encourage me to go to the gym; we can even go together.  I believe in compromise, communication, and consistency.  If you don’t, then it’s a good chance this won’t last long.  My faith is very important to me, so I will try REALLY hard every Sunday to go to church, and I would like for you to come with me.  If you don’t have a relationship with God, and you’re not willing to try to develop one, then this defintely won’t work.  Family is very important to me.  I talk to my mom every day, and I try to spend major holidays with my family. Hopefully you’re family is just as important to you.  But I don’t want your family in our relationship, just like my family won’t be in it.   I also have a lot of friends…and a few guy friends that I hold very dear to my heart and hang out with sometimes.  If you have women friends that’s fine.  Just make sure they’re just that.  If I see someone getting out of line, gender notwithstanding, I will put him/her in check.  I expect  you to do the same.  I like football, specifically the Jacksonville Jaguars.  So if I say I’m going to watch the game, don’t look at me crazy, just scoot over and hand me a slice of pizza.  I do cook, and I would like for you to cook also. If you don’t, I’ll teach you.  Chivalry isn’t dead, so I would appreciate it if you would open my door, walk on the sidewalk closer to the street, give me your coat if I’m cold, and the like, without me having to ask.   And please believe I will keep up my end of the bargain as well.  You don’t have to go broke trying to spoil me.  I like the little things, like sending me an e-card, remembering my favorite color or flower, and doing something silly to make me smile, just because.   I don’t believe in holding grudges, so if I do something to make you mad, let me know.   I do eventually want to get married…and have children.   If neither one of those things are on your “To Do” list, then we may not work out.   I’m growing and evolving everyday, and I would like for us to grow together. As long as we are good to each other, then this relationship will do nothing but flourish. 

I think this is a good start to the things that I would like (clearly I could write forever).  We can definitely discuss anything I’ve mentioned as well as anything I didn’t address.  I’ll see you soon.  And don’t worry, I’ll have some shrimp spaghetti and a glass of red wine waiting for you. 😉 



PS I really am a good girl, but sometimes I have a potty mouth and road rage…


  1. @Eric, this really isn’t a checklist. I consider this stating what I would like in a relationship. And since he’s the “potential” boo, we’ve rapped til’ the sun comes up and have already clicked. This letter will come when we get to the “What’s next?” phase in our relationship. And quietly he may know a lot of these things by then…(I’m sure we discussed this already, but I felt the need to address you publicly! :))

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