Tell Us Why You Mad, Son-Take Two

Brian White, you know the cutie from the feature film “Stomp the Yard” and TNT drama “Men of a Certain Age“, got married this weekend!  But everything wasn’t blissful for the groom.  Apparently, some people are hating on Brian and his new bride, Paula Da Silva, because she is not black.  Brian, who is a very vocal celebrity on Twitter, even retweeted comments that his friends made stating that people (i.e. black women) are hating on him because his wife isn’t black. 

Apparently, Brian spent some time on his honeymoon giving energy and credence to the people who were not excited about his interracial marriage.  Some people seem to think that his getting married nullifies the rumor that he was suspect, others claim they never wanted him in the first place, and more people could probably care even less.  It appears to me that instead of his giving credence to these people who mean him no good and whom he’ll probably never meet in life anyway, Brian should enjoy himself with his new bride and the life they are going to spend together.  But he really must have been hot under the collar to pay attention to all these people.

So what say you Southern Girl audience?  Was Brian right in giving these people his attention during what should be one of the happiest moments in his life?  Or should he just ignore them?  And is interracial dating even an issue in 2010?  (Oh, it is according to Dr. Laura; we “blacks” have become much more sensitive about race since President Obama has been elected…#please)  Do black women even want Brian White?  Or is this just an example of an arrogant actor getting his rocks off thinking everyone wants him?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.

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Tell Us Why You Mad, Son-Take One

Over the weekend, really pretty much last week, people have been up in arms about some things.  This week I will highlight (in three separate posts) why people are upset.  They will come from all genres, but today’s will be related to music. 

Last year I had the pleasure of attending Rock the Bells, a concert featuring some of the greatest Hip Hop MCs.  Based on this year’s line-up, my sorority sister, who is my running mate when it comes to live music, and I decided to skip it.  From being on Twitter yesterday, I discovered that concert goers were told Lauryn Hill, who was featured as a special guest and has been in hiding for the past few years, was not going to perform.  As to be expected, some people boo’ed.  (I probably would have, too.)  In her place, A Tribe Called Quest came out.  Questlove, from The Roots, and Talib Kweli, thought it was disrespectful for the audience to boo.  They pointed out that it was more than just the “Lauryn Hill Show” and that there were many other performers.  I explained to them that it wasn’t disrespectful to the artists.   The audience was told someone was going to be there and that person didn’t show.  I also let them know I would have been pissed if they didn’t show last year.  They didn’t respond, so I don’t know if they appreciated my response or not.  *shrugs*  From speaking with my co-worker, we’ll call him Adam, who is a 5 time RTB attendee, Ms. Hill did come out, with special guest Nas, after A Tribe Called Quest performed. 

In this situation, this is why people are mad.  One, Adam and his friends arrived (to the mainstage) around 4 pm.  The next act did not get onstage until 6:30 pm.  That’s 2.5 hours of no music, no DJ, no nothing.  The host, whose name Adam could not remember, would come out periodically, but I’m not sure what that accomplished.  Two, the show was running late.  Snoop Dogg, the last act, was supposed to come on stage at 10:15.  He didn’t come on until almost 11, which by this time Adam, and I’m sure other people, had left.  Three, the venue ran out of food (right before Snoop came on stage).  Due to the lateness of the show, that may not be a big deal, but it is noteworthy.  Lastly, who leaves CONCERT goers with no music???  Adam stated that they lost money, at least in the DC area, and I am inclined to agree.  I’m not going to be in a big hurry to attend next year’s show, and I plan on telling my sorority sister.  Adam stated he may not be going back, either.

What do you guys think?  Do people have a right to be mad?  And if you attended Rock the Bells at the Merriweather Post Pavilion, how was your experience?  Stay tuned for Take 2.  I’m tempted to talk about this Twitter deal with Drake saying you can call Nicki Minaj “Mrs. Aubrey Drake Graham” from now on…but I won’t.  (#icantbebothered) Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Southern Girl Movie Review: Takers

As promised, I went to see “Takers” this weekend, and I’m so happy I did!  It was a great movie, with some things that made me go “Hmmmmm….”  This movie had action, gun fights, police chases, and lots of eye candy.  And EVERYONE was sexy, without trying to be.  One thing I did notice is that there was only one female (Zoe Saldana) who is well-known, and even her part was small, so the men were definitely able to shine.  I do want to warn you that if you haven’t seen the movie, you may want to skip this post, because I may give away some of the plot. But if you don’t mind and are going to see it anyway, keep reading!

I met my girl Beverly in Chinatown to see the first showing yesterday.  We both wanted to see it, but didn’t want to go by ourselves, so we made a Girls’ Day of it.  The movie was well written, well directed, and well acted.  It was a little slow starting, but once the action started to take place, I was on the edge of my seat.  I loved T.I.’s “Billy Bad A$$” character, Idris Elba as the leader of the pack, Paul Walker as the 2nd in Command, Hayden Christensen and Michael Ealy as the brains, and Chris Brown as the cute little brother.  All of the guys held their own and did an amazing job!  Who knew Chris Brown could act?  And his chase scene with Matt Dillon and Jay Hernandez??? He was SMOKING them!  Jumping over cars and buses, scaling buildings, and running through the streets of LA.  He was unstoppable.  I’m excited to see his future acting endeavors.  Another highlight for me was Ghost’s (aka T.I.) play-by-play activity during the actual robbery.  I’m not sure who he was talking to, but Beverly and I were cracking up!  And all this to say that the way Chris and Michael (aka Jesse and Jake) died left a lot to be desired.  As Beverly said, “Cleo died better.”  But I loved how T.I.’s character turned on his crew, and let everyone know that at the end of the day, he was out for self.

“Takers” opened at #1!!!  I really enjoyed this movie and will definitely add it to my DVD collection.  Quietly, I’m going to see it again tomorrow.  🙂 I was happy to support my fellow Florida A&M Rattler Will Packer, who served as one of the producers, and Rainforest Films.  If you haven’t seen it, go…NOW!!! If you did see “Takers” this weekend, what did you think?   Would you tell your friends and family to go see it?  Is there anything about the plot that you would change?  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

This Week in the News

Happy Friday!  It seemed like this week FLEW by! So much is going on this weekend that I don’t know where to begin.  Actually, yes I do…

“Takers”, the new action packed drama starring Idris Elba, T.I., Chris Brown, Michael Ealy, Hayden Christensen, Paul Walker, and Zoe Saldana, comes out today!  Can I just say that I’m super-excited about this movie and have been waiting on all summer. I’ve heard nothing but great reviews about this movie, and I believe it’s going to have a record-making opening weekend.  Plus, it’s produced by Rainforest Films, which was started by two of my fellow Florida A&M Rattlers, Rob Hardy and Will Packer.  I’m sure I’ll give a review next week.  And no matter how much this seems like a guy movie with the chases and shooting and action, it’s definitely a chick flick with all the eye candy…

Tomorrow marks the 47th Anniversary of the March on Washington where Dr. Martin Luther King made his famous “I Have a Dream” speech.  And two very different groups are coming to DC and having two vastly different rallies.  First, Rev. Al Sharpton, nationally syndicated radio host Tom Joyner, and other civil rights advocates are hosting a rally at Dunbar High School in Northwest DC.  This event starts at 11 am, and participants will then march to the King memorial.  On the flip side of the coin, Glenn Beck, Sarah Palin, and members of the Tea Party will have their own rally at the Lincoln Memorial.  Ironically, or maybe not, Dr. King’s niece Alveda King, will be in attendance at the Tea Party rally.  Ms. King was quoted as saying, “I’m speaking at the Glenn Beck rally because Glenn and I have had many conversations about faith, hope, and love.”  Ummmm, yeah, ok…that may be all well and good, but if I were Alveda, I’m not sure I could speak at anything being hosted by Glenn Beck, even if it wasn’t the anniversary of the March on Washington…

Last night, I had the opportunity to attend the ‘I Love Social Media” Happy Hour at Bar Dupont.  I went with my fellow blogger, soror, friend, and neighbor OriginalNajeema.  We were able to hear from two bloggers, @SepiaMutiny and @AmandaMogul, who shared their stories of blogging, social media, and how it positively changed their lives.  (I live tweeted and took pictures.)  I was able to speak with Anna aka SepiaMutiny after she spoke and share stories of how there’s not enough “brown” in the social media, and especially the blogging, world.  I also met some other great people and chatted it up with other artists and media gurus.

Once again, there’s tons of news I didn’t touch on, such as President Carter gets an imprisoned American in North Korea released, the Michael Jackson party at Club 9:30 in DC (the pop star would have been 52 on August 29), and the fact that DC is making preparations for the Beck rally….(Hmmmmm) and the Sharpton rally.  No matter your plans for the weekend, it seems that we have a lot to keep our eyes on.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

Way Back Wednesday

I woke up this morning feeling a little nostalgic, so I decided to do a little reminiscing!  On today’s Way Back Wednesday, I’ll go back to some great music that was around when I was growing up. 

First, I must start with Aaliyah, who was tragically killed in a plane crash on this date 9 years ago.   From her first album, I changed the lyrics to “Who is the L-I-Y-A-H?” to fit my name from the song “Back and Forth”.  My favorite Aaliyah song is “We Need a Resolution”.  Enjoy the video!

Next up, my favorite female group during the ’90’s is oft forgotten “Total”.  I LOVED them and still jam to their last album.   The day I kissed my little high school boyfriend for the first time, “Kissing You” came on the radio, so that song had a special place in my heart for a little while; now…not so much.  In any event, my fave song from their last studio album, “Kima, Keisha, and Pam” is “I Tried”.  Too bad there’s no video, but I think you’ll enjoy “What About Us”, a classic from the “Soul Food” soundtrack, just the same!

 Lastly, every young girl LOVED 112, and I was no exception.  I still jam to them every chance I get.  Slim was the man every young girl had a crush on, but I loved Q.  “Cupid” was…my…jam!  I loved this song during a time that I didn’t do love songs.  (I was a little non-romantic back in the day.)  But 112 got me out of my funk with this ballad.

I hope you enjoyed “Way Back Wednesday”!  What were some of your fave songs back in the day? I’ll try to bring you a little bit of something from back in the day each Wednesday.  If you have anything you would like to see, let me know!  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

My Top 3 Fave Posts (at the moment!)

We’re at Day 24 of the Blogging for Branding Challenge, and I must say I am very excited about the changes I’ve made.  And I was excited to see that I already incorporated some of the tips into “Southern Girl…”  This post will highlight 3 of my favorite posts (at the moment) that I feel encompass what I enjoy and some things I find interesting.  Who can go wrong with relationships, fashion, and pop culture???

First, I have to go to my fave blogger and fellow Southerner OneChele at “Black ‘N Bougie”. She has so many posts that I love that it’s very hard for me to pick just one, but pick one I did.  Every now and then she will share stories of events that have been happening with her and her new beau.  This story (The Soap Opera Continues, Part I) is one of her latest tales of the goings-on with some drama she’s had to deal with regarding the crazy people tied to her new man.  What happens when the boo’s ex-wife and best friend show up unannounced???  You’ll be surprised to find out…(and don’t forget to read Part II.)

My friend, Erin, I believe you’ve read some of her posts a time or two, has started “Fashion Friday” on her own blog.  The latest post (Color Me Bad-Nail Colors for Fall) is full of great colors that we ladies can use to express ourselves this upcoming season without having to spend a whole lot of money.  I’m your typical girly-girl, but I’ve recently started painting my fingernails on a halfway regular basis.  I’m always looking for eclectic colors to use when I want to add a spark to my look!

Lastly, Hell in a Hanbag, created by OriginalNajeema, is the blog I think is most close to Southern Girl, in the sense that we write about various topics.  The great thing is that we rarely discuss the same thing.  And on the rare event that we do, our takes and writing styles are completely different.  “Race, Class, and the Dollar” discusses the issues regarding Antoine Dodson and the attention he’s received due to a tragedy in the home.   As only she can do, Najeema provides her witty commentary to what has become a pop culture phenom.

I know you guys have favorite posts, so please share them.  We all need some things to read to make us laugh, help us with our style, and to make us think.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city!

We Can All Relate to ‘Tasia

We all have some growing pains...

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’re familiar with the trouble Fantasia Barrino has experienced recently.  And if you’re not, I kindly suggest you “Google” her name.  Everything you would want to know will come up.  It’s hard trying to be the breadwinner for your family, be in the spotlight, and appear as this “happy-go-lucky” person.  It’s even harder when you don’t have a strong support system, when everything and everyone is sucking you dry, and you have to be the strong one for everyone else.  Who do the strong go to when they can’t take it anymore?

If you know me, you know (for the most part) I’m a happy person.  I always have a smile on my face, a pleasant disposition, and am pretty nice to be around.  Since high school, I have always been the person my friends come to when they have a problem.  I’ve always had a fear of sharing my troubles, problems, and issues with my friends.  Why?  Because I’m used to being the strong one.  I may share a little bit here and there, but I’ve never divulged everything that I’m going through with people.  I listened to Fantasia on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show” yesterday, and I could so relate to what she was saying.  One thing in particular was the story she was relating about the iceberg.  From working with a Life Coach, she discovered that the “iceberg” she previously showed was the happy, excited, have-it-all-together Fantasia, but under that iceberg is a bigger iceberg that carries the pain, the hurt, and the rejection.  When Steve asked what people were going to see from now on, Fantasia said, “Both”.  Her words got me to think about my life and the relationship that I have with people.  I’ve never wanted to share my insecurities with my mom because I didn’t want her to worry, but last night I decided to share.  Through our hour discussion, it was reiterated that God has a plan for my life, and all I have to do is be strong and trust in His word.  Plus, she let me know what I can do in the meantime to help myself.  She let me know that certain things that happened are beyond my control, but I can live right and do what I can to turn them around. 

This is probably the most honest I’ve been on this blog thus far, and like Fantasia, I’ll probably begin showing both “icebergs”.  Are you being honest with yourself and your friends?  Are you the one everyone goes to for advice? Who do you go to when you need a little word of encouragement or a boost of self-esteem?  We all have bad days, and that’s ok.  But we can’t wallow in our misery.  We have to get out of it so we can share our testimony.  There’s no testimony without a test.  And I hope that my little testimony today will help someone with his or her situation.  Just know that it won’t last forever.  Until next time, I’m just a Southern girl…in the city.