During Relationship Week, my friend Erin posed an interesting question on the post “Why Are Educated Black Men Single?”. She stated that she knows a number of “amazing” single men who are looking for “THE Girl”, but they haven’t found her yet. (I’m actually wondering why she’s never introduced them to ME, but we’ll save that for a different post!) We, meaning us ladies, always talk about how we can never find a good man. But what about those men who want to get married, but haven’t found “THE girl”???
I’ll admit it; I’ve been one of those women who has complained a time or two about not meeting the man I thought was the one. I’ve said most men play games, aren’t ready to settle down, have too much going on, and don’t meet certain criteria on my “list”. (Don’t act like you don’t have a list, ladies and gentlemen.) I’m a lady, and I know the things that I would like, but I’m really interested in knowing what men want. Media, society, heck EVERYBODY focuses on what women want in a man. But today I would like to focus on the men and their wants and needs. So, guys, let’s have it! Must she be financially stable, not living with a parent, emotionally stable, cute/sexy/pretty, know how to cook, etc.? What is it? Not saying that all ladies will change if need be, but I think this will create some much needed dialogue between the sexes so that women can do some self-evaluation, look in the mirror, and take a look at the things on which we need to improve.
So, gentlemen, I ask you, what makes a woman “The ONE”? Do you know any women who have the potential to be “The ONE”? Or maybe you’ve already met the woman who is “The ONE”. How far are you willing to go to meet that special lady? If you don’t think she’s in your current city, are you willing to move to find her? Don’t be shy guys; now’s your time to make sure your voice is heard. You can never say, “No one gave me an opportunity to voice my opinion”, because Elle is giving you that chance right now!! 🙂 Until next time, I’m just a Southern Girl…in the city!